Super User clayton86 Posted August 21, 2011 Super User Posted August 21, 2011 I went to pick up my son today from his gma my mother inlaw and they got him smoking! I went nuts he's 2! There just candy cigs but no 2 yearold should be pretending to smoke. He carrys around a pack of candy smokes offering them to people "moke out side moke moke" I'm like freaking out. What would you do in this situation iv already blown up over it screaming and yelling. Plus on top of it they think its funny they tought him to say "lucky you" but it sounds like you know what. So I now have a 2 year old riding his power wheels tractor around offering u smokes and telling you off. Quote
preach4bass Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Sounds like it's time to have a nice, calm, civil conversation with grandma, and explain to her the moral standards that you want your son to be raised by. If that nice, calm, civil conversation dosn't work, you might have to explain to her that any involvement she has in his life is a privilidge, not a right. If that dosn't work, supervised visits only. 1 Quote
Super User Jigfishn10 Posted August 21, 2011 Super User Posted August 21, 2011 Not good, but I would have a conversation with your wife and let her be the bearer of bad news to your in-laws. I have a feeling they may listen to her a little more intently. That's if your wife shares the same opinion with you, of course. JMHO EDIT: I'm surprised they still make candy cigarettes! Quote
Super User Bassn Blvd Posted August 21, 2011 Super User Posted August 21, 2011 My in-laws smoke too, but no way in hell would I allow them to give my son those candy cigs and I don't allow them to smoke around him either. I would be very stern and direct. Tell them if they give those things to him again then he will NOT be visiting anymore. 1 Quote
GrundleLove Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Im not allowed to post in threads like this because i dont have kids but.... You cant seriously be freakin out by this right? Like ur joking right? He is two. TWO! They literally forget things in five min. So what if he pretends with candy cigs, you honestly think he will carry this ove the years until he smokes for real? Thats messed up man! Let it go, hes two....frankly i think its cute if hes going around with his candy butts...heres a tip...get him a yoyo. BAM forgot about his candy butts...problem solve That being said, i dont have kids so apparently my opinion does not matter so...ignore what i said and continue to overreact. Good luck! 1 Quote
preach4bass Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Im not allowed to post in threads like this because i dont have kids but.... You cant seriously be freakin out by this right? Like ur joking right? He is two. TWO! They literally forget things in five min. So what if he pretends with candy cigs, you honestly think he will carry this ove the years until he smokes for real? Thats messed up man! Let it go, hes two....frankly i think its cute if hes going around with his candy butts...heres a tip...get him a yoyo. BAM forgot about his candy butts...problem solve That being said, i dont have kids so apparently my opinion does not matter so...ignore what i said and continue to overreact. Good luck! Hey, Grundle Do you have kids? Just wondering... 1 Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted August 21, 2011 Author Super User Posted August 21, 2011 He definitly doesn't forget things in 5 min wait till u have kids and u will see. He's 2 and knows the difrence between a pike"ike" crappie "appie" and a bass he can say that normal. You ask him who the bird pooped on 4 months ago now and he will point to the tree and say aunt mimi. Quote
Super User BASSclary Posted August 21, 2011 Super User Posted August 21, 2011 Haha this brought back memories of me when I was little, every time we went to the back I got a lolli-pop and I would pretend I was smoking with dad Those were good times man. I would explain too the little man that smoking is bad for him. But I dont have kids so I dont know. 1 Quote
SDoolittle Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 I'm with GrundleLove on this one. At some point, almost every kid is going to pretend to use tobacco. Some will use candy cigarettes, some will chew Big League Chew, some will dip beef jerky "snuff." Pretending to smoke doesn't mean he's going to grow up to be a smoker any more than playing cops and robbers will turn him into a bank robber or playing with dolls will turn him into a girl. Relax and enjoy your kids while they're young. Soon they will grow up, and you'll have much bigger reasons to worry about them. 1 Quote
Super User Lund Explorer Posted August 22, 2011 Super User Posted August 22, 2011 I'm with GrundleLove on this one. At some point, almost every kid is going to pretend to use tobacco. Some will use candy cigarettes, some will chew Big League Chew, some will dip beef jerky "snuff." Pretending to smoke doesn't mean he's going to grow up to be a smoker any more than playing cops and robbers will turn him into a bank robber or playing with dolls will turn him into a girl. Relax and enjoy your kids while they're young. Soon they will grow up, and you'll have much bigger reasons to worry about them. The sad but true part about raising kids is that no matter what you try to protect them from, or how much of a good example you are to them, most kids choices are decided by their peers in school. Quote
VolFan Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 You're his dad. He'll emulate you more than anyone else and listen to what you tell him (sometimes ) if you're doing it right. Blowing up never helps,, with adults or with kids. Laugh it off and move on. Now if they'd given him real smokes, that'd be another issue. He probably drives his toy cars into things too, but you don't think he'll do that when he gets older, do you? Deep cleansing breath...and move on. PS- My Mother-in-law is a sweet person, but the most condescending you-know-what when it comes to our boy. Quote
Super User K_Mac Posted August 22, 2011 Super User Posted August 22, 2011 Giving him candy cigarettes is not funny as far as I'm concerned. He may have a very short attention span, but kids at that age are very impressionable. Reinforcing bad behavior at that age is just asking for trouble IMO. I am with Preach4bass on this one. You have the responsibility to protect him from anything that may cause him harm. You can't protect him from everything, but you darn sure can protect him from stupid relatives. It would not be negotiable for me. GrundleLove you say you can't post on this type of thread, yet here you are? I don't post on swimbait threads. Don't use them, don't know nothing about them. You know what I'm saying? 2 Quote
Super User grimlin Posted August 22, 2011 Super User Posted August 22, 2011 Giving him candy cigs is like telling him "smoking is cool". I did it when I was a kid,with my parents knowing.Then I grew up and starting actually smoking....because I still thought it was "cool". Because mom and dad were doing it Kids don't forget....matter of fact they mimic everything adults tend to do.Which can make matters worst. P.S. do not lose your temper...Calmly explain to him what it is and why it's bad or use the word "yucky". If you want to install your morals to him you have to set an example for him. It's gonna be for the rest of your life.Doesn't hurt to start young. I have/had anger issues.....and now my kid is blowing up like i did....Big wake up call for me.I'm actually going for help trying to control my anger as well..I don't want my kid being angry like I was. I always try to remind myself of that Rodney Atkins,Watching You song. It's a very true song. Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted August 22, 2011 Author Super User Posted August 22, 2011 Thanks for the replys guys I think a lot was just all the other things they been teaching him that all just snow balled like the punching,swearing, calling the migrant workers "choncho" from the nacho libre movie. But I will admit he does try to be like daddy the most he will call me while I'm working and tell me he shot a buck or caught a "appie" I know both are lies but its cute and awsome I have him into fishing and hunting already. I think the only bad habbit iv tought him is if u asking "noah what do u do to boobies?" He pretends to motor boat. My wife hates it but its better then the pinching he used to do lol. Quote
Super User grimlin Posted August 22, 2011 Super User Posted August 22, 2011 Thanks for the replys guys I think a lot was just all the other things they been teaching him that all just snow balled like the punching,swearing, calling the migrant workers "choncho" from the nacho libre movie. But I will admit he does try to be like daddy the most he will call me while I'm working and tell me he shot a buck or caught a "appie" I know both are lies but its cute and awsome I have him into fishing and hunting already. I think the only bad habbit iv tought him is if u asking "noah what do u do to boobies?" He pretends to motor boat. My wife hates it but its better then the pinching he used to do lol. If it does bother you that much,talk to your wife and let her know how you feel about it.You and your wife has to be on the same page too.I agree your wife need to talk to them,they'll take her more seriously specially if the both of you are saying the same thing. Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted August 22, 2011 Author Super User Posted August 22, 2011 If it does bother you that much,talk to your wife and let her know how you feel about it.You and your wife has to be on the same page too.I agree your wife need to talk to them,they'll take her more seriously specially if the both of you are saying the same thing. My wifes madder then I am but she's a mouse and won't say anything and her family don't like it when I speak up cuz they know I don't take there crap and won't be treated the way they treat my wife. Quote
Super User Grey Wolf Posted August 22, 2011 Super User Posted August 22, 2011 Your kid , you have the right to raise him as you see fit , explain to granny the rules if she doesn't comply cut her off from seeing the child until she see's you are serious. Quote
Super User J Francho Posted August 22, 2011 Super User Posted August 22, 2011 Yep, your child, your rules. Others don't like it, or think it's too strict, too bad. I have similar (not the same issue) battles with my own parents. Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted August 22, 2011 Author Super User Posted August 22, 2011 Yep, your child, your rules. Others don't like it, or think it's too strict, too bad. I have similar (not the same issue) battles with my own parents. Yeah I remember talking bout it when fishing alice about pop or something. That's another thing we've butted heads about giving him coffee and pop then last night there like " I think he might have diebetes" well no crap they shovel pop and coffee down the kids throat. Probably why our neice is 11 and weights 130lbs. We yell at them constantly about it. Me and the wife have agreed no more nana and papa visits over night. Quote
detroit1 Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 I remember fake cigarettes targeted to children in the 60's. They weren't even candy, but a look-alike cig that had talcom ( or some kind of powder in them), that you could blow out to look like smoke. Nothing edible at all! Try to sell something like that today... (i have no kids either) later... Quote
Super User slonezp Posted August 24, 2011 Super User Posted August 24, 2011 I'd tell you to spank the inlaws but grundle would get upset. That's abuse, you know. Your kid, your rules. 2 Quote
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