Daniel My Brother Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I read in another thread where a member was upset with a fishing partner who always had to get his wife's permission to fish. For some reason this struck me as odd. My wife is the mother of my 4 girls, the manager of the house, she pays the bills on time, buys the groceries, and keeps the schedule for all 6 of us. Plus she has a regular job where she works as hard as I do. The last thing I would think to do would be to go fishing without clearing it with her. If I did, I'd probably miss my own child's graduation. I'm guessing I went fishing 40 to 50 times in 2007, sometimes all day, sometimes just an hour or two. I also go on 2, 4 day fishing trips every year. But I never go without permission. So...does this make me ? Quote
Low_Budget_Hooker Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Not at all, hopefully you allow her the time to do what she wants also. Quote
Super User roadwarrior Posted January 10, 2008 Super User Posted January 10, 2008 So...does this make me? Another name for a "kitty cat"? Â 8-) Quote
EastTexasBassin Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 When you're married, clearing a fishing trip with your wife is a good way to stay married. Â One of my fishing buddies has lost 2 wives over his obsession with fishing. Â Â Â I have more fun on the water knowing that I'm (hopefully) not going to have to hear a bunch of crap about it when I get home. Quote
Daniel My Brother Posted January 10, 2008 Author Posted January 10, 2008 Not at all, hopefully you allow her the time to do what she wants also. LBH, she's pretty active in her own right. She plays softball and bunko regularly and does the annual trip with her girlfriends, but these are just hobbies, my fishing is closer to an obsession. Here's beauty and the bald... Quote
Red Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 i usually just say  "we got any plans for saturday?"  she says "yes, we are going to blah blah blah's house for supper"  then i respond with "yeah sure, i am going fishin...see ya!"  just kiddin, she lets me go whenever i want...shes great...pays the bills, takes care of the kids etc etc...and she buys me fishin crap for my B-day and x-mas!!! Quote
Super User fourbizz Posted January 10, 2008 Super User Posted January 10, 2008 I've lived with my girl for almost 2 years now. From our very first date I told her that in the springtime I am gone, and that she can yell, complain, moan, whine, belittle, bash, or insult anything about me, except fishing. I don't go to the bar, I treat her like a queen, and when I say that I am going fishing, d**n it,I AM GOING FISHING! Works really well. Not one single time in 2 years has she ever even hinted at a complaint about my fishing. As for everything else I do/don't do, well that is another story ;D Quote
Low_Budget_Hooker Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I've lived with my girl for almost 2 years now. From our very first date I told her that in the springtime I am gone, and that she can yell, complain, moan, whine, belittle, bash, or insult anything about me, except fishing. I don't go to the bar, I treat her like a queen, and when I say that I am going fishing, d**n it,I AM GOING FISHING! Works really well. Not one single time in 2 years has she ever even hinted at a complaint about my fishing. As for everything else I do/don't do, well that is another story ;D This is how I have been also. Â Establish these key points from day 1!!! I often use this comment for the kids but it applies to all of us,..."There are worse places you could be" Quote
=Matt 5.0= Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I've got it real easy...LBH will vouche for me on that one! I've been with my wife for over 12 years now...It's all about give and take. I tell her I'm gonna be out in the boat with Rick, Rusty, Mike or whomever, and she just want's to know where (in case of emergency), and when (estimated) I'll be back. She always asks me how the day was, wants to see pics etc. It's gonna be great to get my little guy out there to someday soon. 8-) Quote
eastkybass Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 My wife and i have been together for 7 years come May 25 and in that time the only time she has ever complains about my fishing is when I don't get back when I tell her I will. Â The easiest way for this to work is for both of you to get your time in for what you are in too. Â Quote
Hooked_On_Bass Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 From our very first date I told her that in the springtime I am gone, and that she can yell, complain, moan, whine, belittle, bash, or insult anything about me, except fishing. I don't go to the bar, I treat her like a queen, and when I say that I am going fishing, d**n it,I AM GOING FISHING! Works really well. Not one single time in 2 years has she ever even hinted at a complaint about my fishing. As for everything else I do/don't do, well that is another story ;D Yep, the lady and I have been together for 4 years now and I approached the situation the same way buddy. Works like a charm. I will admit, the odd time she might make a comment about how much I fish (+ hunt + hockey ;D) but it doesn't go much further then that. Quote
Super User Catt Posted January 10, 2008 Super User Posted January 10, 2008 After 21 years Carol knows that I'm subject to bail at any time and all she asks is that I try to give her as much fore warning as possible. Have all the bills caught up, all honey do's done, and the flight plan wrote down. Oh yea what ever time and money I spend on fishing she gets to spend on her; piece of cake! Quote
Super User Long Mike Posted January 10, 2008 Super User Posted January 10, 2008 If your marriage lasts for thirty-eight years, as mine has, Â you and your spouse have learned a lot of give and take. I have the great good fortune of being married to a CPA. Â Her busiest time of the year is during the Spawn. Â She's so busy raking in money that she barely knows I exist. Â She's working twelve hours a day, seven days a week. What a perfect time to sneak off on a couple of week-long fishing trips with her blessing. Â I've got two planned in March. Â One to Lake Fork and one to Guntersville. Â Quote
Branuss04 Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I've lived with my girl for almost 2 years now. From our very first date I told her that in the springtime I am gone, and that she can yell, complain, moan, whine, belittle, bash, or insult anything about me, except fishing. I don't go to the bar, I treat her like a queen, and when I say that I am going fishing, d**n it,I AM GOING FISHING! Works really well. Not one single time in 2 years has she ever even hinted at a complaint about my fishing. As for everything else I do/don't do, well that is another story ;D I don't think you count on this thread buddy, your girl is one of a kind!! Quote
Super User grimlin Posted January 10, 2008 Super User Posted January 10, 2008 To me family comes first....so i always ask if there is any plans on weekends when i plan to fish during the spring/summer months.I can't wait to get my little guy out there with me,she told me she doesn't care how long i'm gone then. ;D...knowing her she loves to sleep,so while she sleeps me and my boy will be fishing. I always tell her where i'm usually gonna be at just if something happens and she needs to find me.I really need to invest in a cell phone soon. Quote
Guest muddy Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I am not married  to Elaine YET, but I have no problem clearing things with her first, I respect her and i am grateful to have her as my partner. 8-) Quote
Ryan_Johnson Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 My wife and I don't have kids, and she doesn't like to go fishing, so I just go whenever I want to get out. Last year, she found out I bought my boat when I backed it into the driveway. Â I told her for months that I was getting one, but she didn't think I was serious. Â She still uses this as an excuse for buying whatever she happens to want at the moment. Quote
oxbowbass Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 The Big Girl and I have been married for 37 years as of yesterday. Â Neither one of us asks for permission to do whatever we want to do, but we always tell each other what we are planning and where we are going. Â More a matter of courtesy to each other than anything else. Last year, she insisted we buy a cabin on a lake so we can both fish whenever we feel like it. Â The dock and the boat lift go in sometime in late March or early April. Â Can't wait for fishing season to begin. Quote
flippincrazy Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Me and my girl have been together for almost 6 years now. She knows I love to fish and lets me do it without many complaints. However, when I upgraded to a newer bass boat this past summer I got, "what about a ring?" She doesn't know, but its probably coming soon. :-/ :-/ Quote
fisherdave Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 It gets hard some times beside the fact that I am an hour and a half from a good lake, I work a job that I am on call 24/7 and day off schedule of 7/2,7/2,7/2,7/3. It is hard especially when we are busy to get enough family time in to get away on the days off to go fishing. I am sure yall are the same, fishing is a big stress releaver and its good after a hard week at work and my wife is pritty supportive. Dont have to ask permition but do talk about it (ahead of time) out of respect for one another. 8-) FisherDave Quote
rondef Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 My wife never gives me a hard time about going fishing so long as the yard work is done. Â I just do the yard work after work a couple of days a week and the rest of my time I am free to fish. Quote
Davis Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Out of respect for my wife I always ask her if I can go fishing at such and such time. It's not being whipped.....its called being a good husband. She never says no unless I forget about some big gathering that was planned. Like FourBizz I don't go to the bars and get drunk or do drugs. But I used to in my college years so she sees fishing as a great way to spend my time. Now buying tackle is another story lol but when it comes to my fishing, I'm always going to clear it with the family first. Sometimes she will even come along and just read in the raft while I fish. Marriage is a two way street. If you think you can do what you want, when you want....then chances are your marriage is going to suffer and collapse at some point. Quote
Super User ww2farmer Posted January 10, 2008 Super User Posted January 10, 2008 From April-Nov I get up every day at 4 am, work 12-13 hours and go fishing most nights after work and on my days off. It has been that way since before I was married, and after 15 years, she has no problem with it, as long as she knows where I am, what I am doing, and she can come along any time. Of course I don't blow off any family obligations to fish or any thing, but it's just all my free time is spent fishing. From mid Nov-mid April is her time, she is free to do whatever she wants by herself while I stay home. Works out fait for both. Quote
Super User MALTESE FALCON Posted January 10, 2008 Super User Posted January 10, 2008 My wife and I will celebrate our 40th anniversary in a few months. In all those years I've always OK'd my trips with her. As Davis stated, it's not being whipped, it's being a respectful, considerate husband. Most of my trips were with her and the kids anyway. She is still my favorite fishing partner. Come to think of it, it was her idea to buy a house on the water. She never complains when I buy new fishing equipment because she buys so many purses and shoes. Falcon Quote
dave Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 It is refreshing to see that after always seeing the many  on a regular bases,  how most of you guys really feel about your wives and SO's (significant others) Quote
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