Guide to getting females to fish..

[RiskKid.]

If she doesn't want to its gonna be a long uphill hike which will be no fun for anyone.....kinda like asking a guy to go to a tea room for lunch if he doesn't want to.

If she wants to, why then by all means, but they are all different just like males, do it on mostly her terms and heed what RW said.

[Pond Hopper]

Senile- size definetely does matter, regardless of what a woman says.  

Roadwarrior- I know what you are saying just having a little fun, while telling the truth.  

Tipptruck- I have never censored myself with my girlfriend when I go fishing.  When I lose a fish all the 7 dirty words come out.  At that point she knows I lost a nice fish.  And I have never brought a bucket or had ot help her find a bush.  Women actually can fend for themselves when they go fishing.

THe best part is she loves to take fish off the hook, and she has been willing to learn everything from knots to drag, and she is starting to get the hang of lure selection.  

[tipptruck1]

Pond hopper iam not talking about dirty words. Iam talking about when you and your buddy see a boat load of woman that just went by. By the way there wearing binki.

[Pa Angler]

saw this on another website. heres the chapters.

7. If you take her into a fishing store, for god sakes, don't let her see how much you spend on lures/rod/reels unless you want to spend that much money again on presents for her.

The aftermath of getting a girl hooked on fishing is even worse.

You're going to see lotsa worms 'n lures you never threw into your cart when you go to the cashier..... This & that and this & that. I swear she's worse than any bait monkey I'll ever meet!!

I went to Bass Pro in Harrisburg, PA with a friend and his girl and she started filling his shopping cart with reckless abandon.

SHAZAM!!!! Every Angler's kind of girl.

Chow

[Laggyman]

Funny thing is, they keep on piling in what they like... Based on looks alone... Not fishing style, not weight, and forget about cheap ones...

My GF has a knack for putting in a ton of pricey stuff just because "They look good"..... Once out on the water the first Q to come at me is "How do I use this?  :-?"

I guess I'm having fun though  8-)

[CyBasser]

Funny thing is, they keep on piling in what they like... Based on looks alone... Not fishing style, not weight, and forget about cheap ones...

My GF has a knack for putting in a ton of pricey stuff just because "They look good"..... Once out on the water the first Q to come at me is "How do I use this? :-?"

I guess I'm having fun though 8-)

Well, shopping sprees are part of the female character! At least if she spends on fishing equipment then it's acceptable! But, I hate it when I look say into the BPS site and she goes "c'mon, you don't really need anything from them, you have everything", and then we go out and she buys yet another pair of $200 shoes to add to the so many she already has!

And on a side note, if you are trying to get a non-fishing-related girl with you at the water, avoid taking her somewhere where a large catfish may show up! It took forever to persuade my ex-gf to come bass fishing with me, and by the third time she started sort of liking it, especially after catching a couple of two pounders. And then someone nearby caught a 4-kilo (10lb) channel cat. As soon as she saw it she said "you didn't tell me that these ugly scary creatures live in here" and it took months before she decided to come with me again....

[senile1]

;D  Yeah, CyBasser, we have those ugly catfish in Missouri too.  I wonder what the Florida, Mississippi, Alabama, and Louisiana girls think about those ugly gators.  

[Guest avid]

I know RoLo (both of them) would disagree, and I respect that, but my feeling is that it is good for a relationship that each partner has a hobby or an activity that they enjoy with friends rather than their spouse.

For example, my wife loves to shop, with girlfriends.  

I like to fish with "the guys"

I think is harks back to hunter v. gatherer days

Men were the hunters, women the gatherers

When a man shops he goes directly to the department and seeks out the desired item (Hunter)

When women shop they walk thorugh the store touching this, checking the price on that, etc. (gatherer)

Any thoughts?

avid

[BucketmouthAngler13]

I know RoLo (both of them) would disagree, and I respect that, but my feeling is that it is good for a relationship that each partner has a hobby or an activity that they enjoy with friends rather than their spouse.

For example, my wife loves to shop, with girlfriends.  

I like to fish with "the guys"

I think is harks back to hunter v. gatherer days

Men were the hunters, women the gatherers

When a man shops he goes directly to the department and seeks out the desired item (Hunter)

When women shop they walk thorugh the store touching this, checking the price on that, etc. (gatherer)

Any thoughts?

avid

Avid speaks truth.

When ever i go to walmart with my mom to buy lures, i head right to the fishing deparment, spend a couple minutes chosing what to buy, then start looking for my mom. Once i find her, it takes about 3 hours (depending on how many outfits are for sale) to convince her it is time to leave.

[Lady Bass]

                 

               so this is how you guys think .. well with me and my husband we both have other different hobbies but we only share one together and that's fishing.we both love to fish and when I say ''lets to go fishing'' or go to Dick's to get fishing gear..he grabs the keys and we go..he never says anything in the store when I want to throw stuff in the buggy..I even threw in a new vest last time we we're there.I agree with some of you guys on the ''I need space sometimes''..after a busy hectic day with work and all I just want to have peace of mind and to be by myself..but that's impossible in this house.. he will start his antics with ''what about me and don't forget about me'' who is thinking love when your so darn tired by the end of the day...not me.

[Captain Cali]

14. Have other hobbies.

(dont know about that one either....

Like, what else is there besides women and fishing?  

From my experience, so far, if you have to try to get them to go then it's not worth it.

[Peter E.]

What do Southern girls think of gators and snakes? well not much really, or at least not that I have seen. My gf is a real trooper, she'll wade snake infested creeks, fish all day long, and would rather tie her own knots and take her own fish off the hook! She is also hella competitive! She is alot like Pond Hopper's girl, her motto is the bigger the better!

It really started when she figured out I was going to fish at least twice a week. She asked me if I would teach her to fish, I raised an eyebrow and asked her why she wanted to learn, she said that it was either that or get left behind! I told her to grab a spinning reel and come on. She loved the scenery on those secluded creeks and all the critters running around. Before you knew it she had caught her first bass, about a 1 1/2 pund spot and she decided that fishing was rather fun and that we should do it more.

When we go to Academy Sports or Dick's she goes through the fishing section slowly and carefully, she'll tell me about how she thinks it will work because of how something worked the last time we went fishing.

So yessir I know that I'm a lucky fellow, and I entend to hold on to her, but I agree with some that sometimes those fishing trps need to be for the boys if you will such things are good for the relationship, time seperate to regroup and revamp.

As a matter of fact she and i are heading fishing tommorrow, I am sure to enjoy it!

[fishinlunatic]

Well said Avid!

[what]

here in miami its way diffrent granted there are very very pretty woman  : there but they could care less about the outdoors in order fing the a woman like tht ill have to travel alittle further north but if i could change a girls mind about the outdoors ive won. but i could end up up with a jessica simpson (when she took her designer purse camping)

[Tom Bass]

Good point Avid. I agree with you for the most part but I would like to add that my wife is my best friend. There are things that I wouldn't do with her or want her to involved with like my shooting sports or my work but I would really like it if she would get into fishing with me once in a while. That would be very cool. Granted, I wouldn't want her going with me all of the time but the nice thing is, my wife is the type of person that if I told her I wanted to do something alone she would be okay with that.

[Guest avid]

PapaRock,

If I did seemthing like that with jewelry the darn fish would swallow it and my wife would release the fish feeling sorry for it, I'm sure. ;D

If this were my wife, she would swallow the fish and release me  ;D

[Guest avid]

here in miami its way diffrent granted there are very very pretty woman : there but they could care less about the outdoors in order fing the a woman like tht ill have to travel alittle further north but if i could change a girls mind about the outdoors ive won. but i could end up up with a jessica simpson (when she took her designer purse camping)

Ok, so let me see if I got this straight

1. Girls in Miami are too pretty so you would go North to find the "right" girl

2. You hope not to "end up" with Jessica Simpson.

Well guys.........You saw it right here on BassResource.com J/K

[mud]

I guess I'm lucky.  My girl got me started in bass fishing by buying me a bunch of lures for fathers day.  Her family is all about fishing and hunting.  But she wants nothing to do with it.  She understands the bait monkey.  And she gives me the time to get away and has no interest to go with me.  

[jomatty]

my wife was never opposed to fishing, she just didnt espe4cially like it.  she would occasionally tag along but not really fish much.  then one day i was taking my son fishing and suggested we pack a picnic and all go.  she agreed and when we got there was not planning on actually fishing.  it happened to be one of those days when the pond was on fire.  i had just discovered wacky rigged senkos on circle hooks and the combination of that set up and the pond being really active was all that it took.  we both caught a lot of fish that day.  she hooked into, and lost a bass that judging by the size of its head that was shaking was over 4 lbs.  she wanted to catch one that big.  she fished with me a lot that summer and goes with me regularly ever since.  she finally has caught one that big and ive rarely seen her as happy.

she almost always fishes a wacky senko on a circle hook.  the other bait she likes is swimbaits (whoever said that females like baits that are very realistic looking are dead on).

i can understand why some would like to keep fishing a male only hobby, and i make sure to take some time without my wife and son.  that said, its a lot of fun watching either of them catch a fish.  i enjoy that as much as catching them myself.

[fourbizz]

My updated guide:

1: Tell them exactly what you want on your sandwhich.

2: Have them get up before you, and make them, so the bread doesn't get soggy overnight.

2: Tell them to go back to sleep.

3: Let them know when you will be home. " Tonight, later, eventually, or sometime" are acceptable.

4. Do not take a cell phone. If they can't call you, they can't harass you.

5. If they want to go with you at any point, state an imaginary safety concern that bars them from doing     so.

6. Enjoy not having to explain, rig, demonstrate, or pander to her.

7. When you get home, thank her for the nice warm dinner and back massage that she has waiting.

P.S. My girl goes with me all the time, and I enjoy it. But sometimes, my seven rules come into play!

[Lane]

Well I grew up hunting and fishing. My father was an avid outdoorsman, with NO SONS.

We went fishing together ALL OF THE TIME. I will never forget the time that we went

40 miles offshore, the gulf was rough that day. I was VERY SEASICK! After almost

two hours of misery, I was dehydrated and thirsty. My dad was in such a rush to leave

that day that he forgot the sodas, but he did not forget the beer. I was 10 years old at

the time. Needless to say, I drank beer for the first time that day and caught many Kingfish

and Cobia. So men try to find a woman that was exposed to fishing at a young age. You

probably will not have to babysit her, and ALWAYS remember that women are VERY

competitive. Make a BIG DEAL when she catches a fish, like, "wow honey that is a beauty".

Most guides will tell you that most women will listen and are quick learners. ABOVE ALL

BE PATIENT WITH HER! Thats all for now.

[Guest avid]

as a father of a son and a daughter.  I had more fun with my daughter than with my son.  He wanted to catch fish and was too impatient.  this is true for altot of kids.  It's why bluegills with crawlers is  an excellent way to start them off.  Anyway my daughter took to it like a duck to water.

She and her husband own a 24' cabin cruiser and fish often.

My son was always an athlete, but it had to involve team sport, a ball, and lot's of running.

Soccer and Lacrosse put him through college.  Now he teaches and coaches.  What a surprise  ;D

[RoLo]

This is the first time that I actually entered this thread.

I've been skipping over it because, first of all, it doesn't apply to me, and secondly, it's all common horse-sense.

I've never had the need to "coerce" a female fishing companion, it was always a built-in given.

My mom fished, my wife and daughter fish, and I've fished with several fishing buddies who's wives were fisher persons.

I'd venture to say that my wife is a better fisher person than most male anglers that I've had the pleasure of fishing with.

After reading through the thread, I must say that objective and informative data is conspicuously scarce.

Most of what I've read merely expresses personal feelings based on one's own success or failure in this area.

Before I met my wife she was already a fisherlady, as she did a lot of saltwater fishing with her dad.

I was doing a lot of deer hunting with the bow & arrow when Lois and I met, and I was very intriqued by her earnest desire

to go deer hunting with me. She told me that she loves nature and the outdoors and would really enjoy being outdoors with me,

but would not want to hurt a deer. I assured her that she'd experience a lot of nature (I intentionally put her on my best stand),

but would not hurt any deer, not with a bow & arrow. I was right of course, but after several years of unsuccessful bow hunting,

my now-wife was just as determined as me to get a deer with the bow & arrow (which she did).

And so it was with fishing. If I gave my wife a choice between going shopping or fishing, she would laugh at me,

and would have the lunch packed before I could get the fishing gear together. In truth, I feel sorry for the guy

who can only enjoy fishing with other male companions, they will live and die and never realize what they've missed in life.

My wife and I have a quiet enjoyment for nature, without much noise or high-fives. Roland Martin has fished with more men

than most of us, and I've noticed that he is now fishing with his wife more than ever before. I admire Roland's priorities,

because he's enjoying the company of someone who not only loves fishing, but someone who loves his company.

Roger

[Tom Bass]

Well, my wife took me fishing today. She now has a photo of my CPB..My Cute Personal Best. I caught what must amount to a .5 ounce Bluegill. I was sore after I got home due to my surgery and her driving (please never tell her this if you should ever meet her) but I had a great day.

I was planning to call Brush Pile Berry and see if he would want to hang out and fish on shore tomorrow but I have discovered my limitations and will have to wait a week or so before heading over to the lake again. Boating is out for a while. Maybe I'll hit the park pond down the road from me tomorrow....

[Guest avid]

If I gave my wife a choice between going shopping or fishing, she would laugh at me,

and would have the lunch packed before I could get the fishing gear together. In truth, I feel sorry for the guy

who can only enjoy fishing with other male companions, they will live and die and never realize what they've missed in life.

My wife and I have a quiet enjoyment for nature, without much noise or high-fives. Roland Martin has fished with more men

than most of us, and I've noticed that he is now fishing with his wife more than ever before. I admire Roland's priorities,

because he's enjoying the company of someone who not only loves fishing, but someone who loves his company.

If I gave my wife a choice between going shopping or fishing, she would laugh at me,

So would mine but for the opposite reason of yours

I feel sorry for the guy

who can only enjoy fishing with other male companions, they will live and die and never realize what they've missed in life

I'm not quite sure I follow your logic on this one Roger. Are you suggesting that a man or woman can't be fulfilled if they permit themselves to exclusively enjoy selective activites with friends rather than spouses? If so, than I can't agree with that at all.

My wife and I have a quiet enjoyment for nature, without much noise or high-fives

So do Gail and I. It's called birding. This is an outdoor activity that I introduced her to, and she loves it. Our excursions to observe and identify the vast array of birds and wildlife that live in Florida is a source of great pleasure for us.

I admire Roland's priorities,

because he's enjoying the company of someone who not only loves fishing, but someone who loves his company

And therin lies the rub.  My wife want's absolutely nothing to do with fishing.  When we moved to the lake community it took me over a year just to get her into the canoe with me.  It was "white knuckle" experience for her, that lasted less than 30 minutes.  It is wonderful that you and Lois share this love of fishing.  But fishing can be just as enjoyable for those of us who for whatever reason fish alone, or in the company of other men.