They Just DONT UNDERSTAND! Who's with me?

[FishBewareOfBrad]

Alright,

Im not married, but I'm in a serious relationship, and need some info from you married fellas.

My girlfriend just doesnt understand that, I, like all others on this site, simply NEED to fish.

Ya see, it's not that she asks me not too, it's just that I tend to fish everyday and several times a day if Im lucky. I take her with me, and have gotten her semi interested in it, but still, she just doesnt see the glory in fishin'.

So to all the married men,

Is it just me, or do a good percent of women, just not understand the beauty of the hook and rod?

Now I'm not saying that I dont women that love fishing just as much as I, and could be concidered better anglers then I, it just seems that a lot of women just dont get it.

[KU_Bassmaster.]

I'm not married, but a guy I fished with one time told me that if his wife gives him crap about fishing all the time, he tells her that it's better than him being in a bar all night. ;D  He says that has been very effective ;D ;D

[Muddpuppy]

She probably recognises the need you have to fish.  The problem comes that she "feels" the need to be together with you. Give it some time and assist her in finding some other activitey to do when your gone and she doesn't want to go along.  Make an extra effort to do things with her (that she likes) when your not fishing.  As far as understanding - probably not,  but in my case I'm learning to work around it.

[digdug]

OK I know how you feel.  I've been there.  I've been married 13 yrs now and my wife loves to hunt & fish.  In fact she has a bass & a deer on the wall and I don't have either. (What am I doing wrong?)  

I had a very serious girlfriend before I started dating the women that is my wife.  She didn't really like to fish, but she would go with me.  As we got more serious we discovered that we had different ideas about life, and we drifted apart.  

I hear several of the guys where I work talk about how their wife just doesn't understand why they want to fish or hunt.

[tnroadrnr]

Okay, call me old fashioned or what. I've been married 19 years. I have never had a problem doing anything. Fishing, golf, whatever.

BUT, I make time for her needs. Be it a movie, shopping, etc. Your girlfriend has needs and wants just like you.

Gosh, that was pretty Dr. Phil stuff huh? hahahaha

Really BOTH of you have to give and take.

[roadwarrior]

My wife shops, I fish. She spends all the money, I fish. As long as I can fish, we have no issues. I'll get tired of fishing before she tires of shopping. She's going to be shopping for a long time.

And no, dear, I don't want to go shopping.

[mullman]

RW nailed it!  My wife shops and I fish.  She'll say, "Oh let's go look at the xyz's that are on sale at xyz store."  My reply, "How about I take the kids fishing and you enjoy a nice quiet afternoon in the store?"

Works every time.  She loves it.  I love it.  Total win-win situation.

[Jagrrich]

I'm a happily married man of 6 years and my wife is very, very understanding towards my fishing sickness! In fact I've given her the bug. Now she wants to go fishing just as much as I do.  She is also very understanding if I don't take her along.

I've got a very wonderful wife!

[gamblerOH]

I am also happily married. A good marriage takes a lot of give and take to be lasting and fun. I try to spend as much time with my wife as I can when im not fishing so we still get a lot of time together. Like tonight for instance, im dying a slow death watching the  bachelor finale, I thought I was getting by with 2 hours but just found out it'll be a 3 hour SPECIAL. The things a guy will do to fish

[Muddpuppy]

Dang Gambler I just celebrated my 24th. Aniversery, but still you have got to draw the line somewhere. Man you love to fish ;D

[abelfisher]

As others have said, the key is to make time for her also.  Whether it is together or you plan your fishing at times when she is busy doing her thing.  I only fish on Satruday mornings, but that is a good time for both as she goes to the grocery store and does some laundry etc. so it is not really getting into "our time" .  However, because she does not give me any trouble and in fact encourages me to fish, I never take it for granted.  I will usually see what she wants to do Saturday aftgernoon and go do something with her for her understanding.  It is give and take.  I;ve been married 29 years now and finally have found a way to make it work for both of us.  I am a lucky man! ;D

[gamblerOH]

I am leaving Friday to prefish for a tournament on saturday and then going from there to fish a club tournament on sunday, so needless to say I've got a lot of quality time to work out this week. I had survivor Sunday night , bachelor tonight and the apprentice Thursday night. My wife loves TV so I try to do the things she enjoys with her.The bad part is she likes shopping too, i'm sure she'll have some fun shopping while i'm gone this weekend. ;D

[abelfisher]

Hey GamblerOH. one of the best inventions known to man is the wireless laptop.  I can sit 5 feet from my wife while she watches those same shows, (Bachelor, etc) and I can be online doing this.  We both feel like we are spending time together.  I not up in my office on-line, or somewhere else.  These wireless laptops are cool.  I don't think I could go back to the hardwired.ayway fyi.  It would help in your situation where you could do this and she could watch her TV shows.

[gamblerOH]

we have a tv room and my computer is at the back of that room,right beside her favorite chair.I do need a wireless laptop though

[bassackwards]

why don't you show her the beautiful side to to fishing?

show her the romantic side to fishing: the beautiful sky that goes on like the love you two have for each other, the lovely way the lake glimmers the same way here eyes sparkle, and the way the wind coaxes the current into motion. and then, set her up with a fish on the line as you explain this to her, and maybe she'll understand.

hey, can't hurt to try.

[Glenn]

FishBewareOfBrad.

I used to be in your shoes too.  I found a great gal, who was understanding of my "obsession".  Eventually, she became resentful of the time I spent away from her, and tried to get me to cut back.  I tried taking her out on the water a few times, but she was only mildy interested.  Eventually, we broke up.

That was 15 years ago.

Ever since then, when a relationship began to get serious, I rattled off the same speech:

"I fish.... A LOT.  No, I mean it, A LOT.  Like every weekend a lot.

It's what I do.  It's who I am.

It's not that I don't want to spend time with you, or that it's a reflection upon you.  It's just something I need to do.

You're not obligated to like it, or try it.  If you do try it and like it, great. If not, that's ok too.  In fact, you can even hate it.  But...

You can never tell me to cut back or stop doing it.  That won't work for me, and I won't do it."

For the most part, that cleared the air and took care of the problem.

Then I was blessed with a woman who not only tried it, she become addicted like me.  When she urged me to buy a brand new Ranger with all the bells and whistles, I knew I had to marry her.  

Now we fish together every weekend.   ;D

It's all about determining what's important to you, and not compromising until you find your match.

[abelfisher]

Hell, bassaxkwards, I think I just fell in love with you!

;D ;D ;D ;D

[abelfisher]

Yeah, and Glenn just hit the nail on the head! ;D

[Marty]

I've been married for 43 years and she has never tried to keep me from my various obsessive-compulsive hobbies. Like golf, bowling, tennis, photography, bird-watching, fishing and whatever else I may have forgotten.

She knows how much I have loved all these things and wants me to enjoy them. Plus it doesn't harm that she also likes her time alone, so it has worked out very well. And, of course, I never interfere with her when she wants to shop, have lunch with friends, or whatever.

[Chris]

Glenn thats sounds like my speech

[lookin4lunkers]

Here is what I do I say babe I'm going fishing no I didn't cut the grass or till the garden or fold any clothes. I had more important things to do like respool my new reel and replace some hooks on my favorite crankbait...........Then when she gets home and she is actually there in front of me I say pleassssssssssse can I go fishing.  

No, really the other guys have nailed it. Its a lot of give and take. The more you give usually the more you receive.  Good luck.

[fishin_fool]

I think I got you all beat My wonderful wife of 26 years always let go fishing whenever and where ever I wanted but with kids and bills we could never afford more than a john boat,Last year on me birthday I came home and in the driveway was a brand new 20 Ft Triton with everything imaginable on it

[davmac]

Hell, bassaxkwards, I think I just fell in love with you!

;D ;D ;D ;D

back off abel,  I saw him first!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Raul]

Buddy, don 't try to understand women because you will never understand them, just love them.  ;D

[hipster_dufus]

i tell my wife i have had sex, i have not caught a ten pound bass yet