its about to get personal

[basspro215]

ok well ive been feeling kinda crappy,ive been with my GF for almost 9 years now and shes ready to get married,mind you im only 24 now so i was 15 wen we got togeather and ive been feeling bored,kinda ready for a new beginning or just see what else ther is out ther to offer for me cause i know no other kind of life,i have 3 kids that i would never trade for the world,done nothing but work me back side off to take care of all them,well i was at work i met another girl and i feel i might be happier with her but that means leaveing everything i ever known.So can you tell me if any of you have ever gone though this and if worth trying to stay and work it out or just go and see how it goes(my GF know everything about this and she just want me to stay or go but thats all up to me and you guys always point me in the right direction)please help

[D4u2s0t]

let me fill you in on a secret, and stop you from throwing everything away... there's nothing else out there lol... good girls are VERY hard to come by, if you have one, don't let her go.  Everyone is going to be a little bored after 9 years in a relationship, time to spice things up a little.  epecially if you have 3 kids... I would try to stick with it and make things better, if you can.

[Grey Wolf]

The old  "Grass is greener on the other side of the fence" story. This is no place to get advice on a very personal situation that is probably going to devastate a few people.

Talk to some one that can see you through this. Priest , preacher , counselor.

[brushhoggin]

let me fill you in on a secret, and stop you from throwing everything away... there's nothing else out there lol... good girls are VERY hard to come by, if you have one, don't let her go. Everyone is going to be a little bored after 9 years in a relationship, time to spice things up a little. epecially if you have 3 kids... I would try to stick with it and make things better, if you can.

bingo.

[NewAngler]

Ditch her.

Go with new chick.

Miss your kids.

Miss your ex's lasagne.

New girl ditches.

Now you got no girl, visitation with kids, and eating crappy lean cuisines living in a sub par apartment with roaches.

Enjoy.

[Uncle Leo]

My friend I tried to stay away from this but I just have to give some advice. You have 3 kids with this women. At no time do you mention that she treats you poorly. After 3 kids it is obvious to me that no mistake was made. I think you need to man up and make this women a proper wife and mother. These kids are a gift. If you spend time as a family man there is no way you should be bored. Embrace this gift young man and all your problems will be solved. If this offends then I am sorry. Believe me you do not want to feel the pain of the emptiness provided by a bad choice.

[Stasher1]

My friend I tried to stay away from this but I just have to give some advice. You have 3 kids with this women. At no time do you mention that she treats you poorly. After 3 kids it is obvious to me that no mistake was made. I think you need to man up and make this women a proper wife and mother. These kids are a gift. If you spend time as a family man there is no way you should be bored. Embrace this gift young man and all your problems will be solved. If this offends then I am sorry. Believe me you do not want to feel the pain of the emptiness provided by a bad choice.

Bingo.

If you are bored in your life, then it's YOU that's boring. A new piece of tail is an exciting proposition, but it doesn't solve the problem...it just creates new problems for you, your ex, and especially your kids.

[Daniel My Brother]

Ditch her.

Go with new chick.

Miss your kids.

Miss your ex's lasagne.

New girl ditches.

Now you got no girl, visitation with kids, and eating crappy lean cuisines living in a sub par apartment with roaches.

Enjoy.

I would like to subscribe to your newsletter.

[Stasher1]

Ditch her.

Go with new chick.

Miss your kids.

Miss your ex's lasagne.

New girl ditches.

Now you got no girl, visitation with kids, and eating crappy lean cuisines living in a sub par apartment with roaches.

Enjoy.

I would like to subscribe to your newsletter.

He left out the part about child support for three kids. The OP will be so broke he'll dream about upgrading to a sub-par apartment with roaches.

[preach4bass]

You obviously posted this because you wanted us to tell you to stay with your girlfriend and kids. You know good and well that you don't want to be "that guy."

A lot of people get bored in their relationship. Aside from a few scented candles and some sexy lingerie, the best tool I've seen for this over the past few years is watching the movie "Fireproof" with your significant other. After watching it, buy the book "Love Dare," and take the 40 day challenge together. I've got a couple at Church working through this right now, and less than 20 days into the challenge, they seem to have "fallen back in love." They aren't the first.

If you are willing to try it, I'll send you a free copy of the movie and the book.

[Redlinerobert]

Once the new car smell is gone, it's just another car.  Although, this isnt really a new car, its a used car.   Could be problems down the road that need to be fixed.

Your current car seems to be just fine.   

[=Matt 5.0=]

ok well ive been feeling kinda crappy,ive been with my GF for almost 9 years now and shes ready to get married,mind you im only 24 now so i was 15 wen we got togeather and ive been feeling bored,kinda ready for a new beginning or just see what else ther is out ther to offer for me cause i know no other kind of life,i have 3 kids that i would never trade for the world,done nothing but work me back side off to take care of all them,well i was at work i met another girl and i feel i might be happier with her but that means leaveing everything i ever known.So can you tell me if any of you have ever gone though this and if worth trying to stay and work it out or just go and see how it goes(my GF know everything about this and she just want me to stay or go but thats all up to me and you guys always point me in the right direction)please help

Sounds like typical America in 2010, "I don't want to face up to my responsibilities."  :

[IDbasser]

You obviously posted this because you wanted us to tell you to stay with your girlfriend and kids. You know good and well that you don't want to be "that guy."

A lot of people get bored in their relationship. Aside from a few scented candles and some sexy lingerie, the best tool I've seen for this over the past few years is watching the movie "Fireproof" with your significant other. After watching it, buy the book "Love Dare," and take the 40 day challenge together. I've got a couple at Church working through this right now, and less than 20 days into the challenge, they seem to have "fallen back in love." They aren't the first.

If you are willing to try it, I'll send you a free copy of the movie and the book.

That would be good advice.

I saw that movie not too long ago, sure made me want to shape up and do better.  It was a good movie.  I got it from netflix, was not what I thought it was going to be, but I enjoyed it.

[Gone_Phishin]

ok well ive been feeling kinda crappy,ive been with my GF for almost 9 years now and shes ready to get married,mind you im only 24 now so i was 15 wen we got togeather and ive been feeling bored,kinda ready for a new beginning or just see what else ther is out ther to offer for me cause i know no other kind of life,i have 3 kids that i would never trade for the world,done nothing but work me back side off to take care of all them,well i was at work i met another girl and i feel i might be happier with her but that means leaveing everything i ever known.So can you tell me if any of you have ever gone though this and if worth trying to stay and work it out or just go and see how it goes(my GF know everything about this and she just want me to stay or go but thats all up to me and you guys always point me in the right direction)please help

Sounds like typical America in 2010, "I don't want to face up to my responsibilities." :

Where the hell do you get that?

[=Matt 5.0=]

Um, "I have three kids with this girl and now I want to go out with another chick".... :

[FishingBuds]

ok well ive been feeling kinda crappy,ive been with my GF for almost 9 years now and shes ready to get married,mind you im only 24 now so i was 15 wen we got togeather and ive been feeling bored,kinda ready for a new beginning or just see what else ther is out ther to offer for me cause i know no other kind of life,i have 3 kids that i would never trade for the world,done nothing but work me back side off to take care of all them,well i was at work i met another girl and i feel i might be happier with her but that means leaveing everything i ever known.So can you tell me if any of you have ever gone though this and if worth trying to stay and work it out or just go and see how it goes(my GF know everything about this and she just want me to stay or go but thats all up to me and you guys always point me in the right direction)please help

Don't destroy their world man, its fake over the other side, your alls memories and things you've went through is a precious thing to have, you have built a life together, now seal it with a proposal.

Its the fifteen year mark and that is a tuffy, something weird about that time frame together, I noticed it some time back, my brothers and brother in-laws and some cousins all divorced at the 15 year mark together. me and my wife had a bad bump at the fifteen also, we worked through it and still married

some of these guys on here might agree with me, there's something about the 15 year thing, seems its a rough patch to get through.

[=Matt 5.0=]

Buds, for us it was 14 years... close enough. 

[FishingBuds]

Buds, for us it was 14 years... close enough.

yea, close enough, that 15 mark is a weird one, wonder why?

glad you two have pushed on, its becoming rare anymore for a 15 plus year marriage

[=Matt 5.0=]

Trying to beat my grandparents 60 year mark.

[Gone_Phishin]

Um, "I have three kids with this girl and now I want to go out with another chick".... :

I didn't get that feeling at all. Sometimes things become stagnant. He didn't go for it, he simply talked it over with his gf.

The guy is 24, and he has been with the same person since they were children, and they have grown into adults together. They have both matured, and are just beginning to become aware of themselves and what life has to offer.

It sounds like he has only seen one reality his whole life, when in fact there are many diverse realities out there for everyone.

[=Matt 5.0=]

Um, "I have three kids with this girl and now I want to go out with another chick".... :

I didn't get that feeling at all. Sometimes things become stagnant. He didn't go for it, he simply talked it over with his gf.

The guy is 24, and he has been with the same person since they were children, and they have grown into adults together. They have both matured, and are just beginning to become aware of themselves and what life has to offer.

It sounds like he has only seen one reality his whole life, when in fact there are many diverse realities out there for everyone.

This subject hits close to home. My sister got left out to dry by her dead beat boyfriend. Beware of fathers and older brothers.

[IDbasser]

Hit our 14th in March.

[Hammer 4]

43rd is comming June 21st...   geez.. ;D

[skunked_again]

been married over 20 years and it takes courage to start this thread here.

[Red]

My folks are working on 44 years.  My wife and I celebrate our 9th one week from today.  Seems our rough patch was alot earlier than y'alls, like the FIRST year.  But we made it, wouldn't trade it for nothing.  We don't have any kids of our own but we have custody(almost three years now, adoption plans are in the works) of her idiot brothers two boys, wouldn't trade them either.  Like another member said, make her a proper wife and mother and marry that girl!!

Good Luck!

Cliff