Dose this make me a bad friend?

[brushhoggin]

If it were me, I'd let him know about the "laws" concerning the Mexico marriage thing. And let him know that you can't afford or will not fly to go to Mexico. But absolutely keep your feelings for his future wife to yourself. He is a grown man capable of making his own choices.And, asking a bunch of YAYHOOS from bass fishin board is not all that smart. LOL

no one can make clear minded decisions when they're in a foggy predicament! you see the situation clearly from the outside and need to intervene! blindfold him and tell him you have a surprise, dump him in the woods with 3 years worth of survival supplies. tell him he'll thank you later and leave him there! thats what a real friend would do.

and about the does/dose thing, people are typing quickly and make this mistake. they dont necessarily think the word does is spelled d-o-s-e. give these folks a break, this isn't freakin english class. :

Terrible, terrible idea. Who is to say that your judgment of her is more accurate than his? He knows her better than you do. How can you know his feelings for her? There is nothing worse than people who assume they know what's best for other people, oh, except for people who act on those assumptions by interfering with one of the biggest days of their friends lives.

i was being serious :

[Dan:]

If it were me, I'd let him know about the "laws" concerning the Mexico marriage thing. And let him know that you can't afford or will not fly to go to Mexico. But absolutely keep your feelings for his future wife to yourself. He is a grown man capable of making his own choices.And, asking a bunch of YAYHOOS from bass fishin board is not all that smart. LOL

no one can make clear minded decisions when they're in a foggy predicament! you see the situation clearly from the outside and need to intervene! blindfold him and tell him you have a surprise, dump him in the woods with 3 years worth of survival supplies. tell him he'll thank you later and leave him there! thats what a real friend would do.

and about the does/dose thing, people are typing quickly and make this mistake. they dont necessarily think the word does is spelled d-o-s-e. give these folks a break, this isn't freakin english class. :

Terrible, terrible idea. Who is to say that your judgment of her is more accurate than his? He knows her better than you do. How can you know his feelings for her? There is nothing worse than people who assume they know what's best for other people, oh, except for people who act on those assumptions by interfering with one of the biggest days of their friends lives.

i was being serious :

of course you weren't actually suggesting he kidnap his friend, but the post could still be interpreted as suggesting he interfere in some way. If not, then we both need to work on our understanding of written sarcasm.

[brushhoggin]

no seriously, he needs to kidnap his friend. save his soul from sucubus!

[brushhoggin]

i'm sorry, i should be more sensitive. I can't help myself sometimes. (sucubus)

[Redlinerobert]

Am I the only one who finds this thread hilarious?  ;D

[preach4bass]

Am I the only one who finds this thread hilarious? ;D

Nope.  I love romantic comedies.

[roadwarrior]

Am I the only one who finds this thread hilarious? ;D

I'm only here because I have to be, but hilarious

is better than ridiculous I suppose! It would be a

shame if his buddy gets married and it doesn't work

out. Does that ever happen?

[tipptruck1]

I go away for a few days and this happens. Ok he knows that I have no plans on going to Mexico and cant afford it. I told him this like 6 months ago. That was when he was going to get married on a cruise ship. As far as losing a friend here's why I could care less if I lose him. Over the last 4 years I have bent over back words to help him many times. I will ask him for help and he cant do it.. I could understand if I asked in all the time in a pinch. I do give him a few weeks in advance of when I am going to need help. I will call him to find out were he is. He's out on the lake or drinking. Then me and my 75 year old grandma are stuck doing stuff do guys in there mid 20's should be doing. My grandma and me have lost a lot of respect and trust for him because of this. I found out last fall what he thought of me. He said all that matters is that our buddy's and me were there. I am sorry I don't make 50k a year so I can blow 2 grand on a wedding. I am not jealous of him getting married. As far as the girl thing I don't need to be in more trouble. I am sure I cause enough trouble by my self. I am looking but not real hard. But i will talk to my buddy when he gets back from work on Friday about the laws down there. I am sure they cant afford to go to a doctor down there. They both make 50k a year and never have money. My buddy has told me hes pinching pennies in till July.   

[Sam]

Option 1 - Sit Back and Shut Up

Maybe. And see what happens. Sounds like you all will no longer be friends as the female sets the social agenda and since you don't like her she probably does not like you.

Option 2 - Tell Them What You Found Out

Then they will know you were getting into their business. If they are mature enough to get married then they should be mature enough to find out what has to be done to make it legal.

Summary

But Out. Mind your own business. Support your friend as best you can. Be ready to see him slip away as a friend until a later date. Get the details of what they did at night, afternoon, morning, noon, etc. on honeymoon for future reference when you get married.

In English, go fishing and go forward with your life without him. 

[Tin]

Just let him learn the hard way.

[Grey Wolf]

I go away for a few days and this happens. Ok he knows that I have no plans on going to Mexico and cant afford it. I told him this like 6 months ago. That was when he was going to get married on a cruise ship. As far as losing a friend here's why I could care less if I lose him. Over the last 4 years I have bent over back words to help him many times. I will ask him for help and he cant do it.. I could understand if I asked in all the time in a pinch. I do give him a few weeks in advance of when I am going to need help. I will call him to find out were he is. He's out on the lake or drinking. Then me and my 75 year old grandma are stuck doing stuff do guys in there mid 20's should be doing. My grandma and me have lost a lot of respect and trust for him because of this. I found out last fall what he thought of me. He said all that matters is that our buddy's and me were there. I am sorry I don't make 50k a year so I can blow 2 grand on a wedding. I am not jealous of him getting married. As far as the girl thing I don't need to be in more trouble. I am sure I cause enough trouble by my self. I am looking but not real hard. But i will talk to my buddy when he gets back from work on Friday about the laws down there. I am sure they cant afford to go to a doctor down there. They both make 50k a year and never have money. My buddy has told me hes pinching pennies in till July.

From what you just described , he has been using you. How can you call him your best friend ? Go on with your life because that is what he is doing and it looks like you are not included in his.

[Tokyo Tony]

If a guy has something planned in advance, and his girlfriend's friend calls because she wants to go out, and the girlfriend says he has to join her, and he does, he deserves whatever's coming to him. Hopefully after the divorce he grows a pair.