farmpond1 Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 Life is all about class in my opinion. For the record class is way different than upity or snobery so don't confuse the 2. Class is doing the right thing. It doesn't matter who she is going out with. If she is going out with anybody then its time to back off and let things play out. If she doesn't have enough class to not go out with you while the girlfriend of someone else then I'd question whether she is even worth it in the first place. It does't matter whether your in 8th grade or college just conduct yourself with class and don't think with tthe "other brain". How would you like it if you do go out and she ends up your girlfriend then goes out with someone else on you? Remember this is one girl out of multiple thousands you will come to know. At the end of the day whether tomorrow or 20 years from now you need to be able to look in the mirror and say " I did right ", " I acted with class ". don't mean to sound abrasive just giving my opinion is all. FFI - AKA Matt Crum I agree with Matt. You need to move on. If you go behind your quarterbacks back, you're subversive behavior reflects on you. If the girl likes to flirt and tease, she'll likely do the same with you even if she does move your way. My guess (strictly a guess) is she likes to bolster her ego with lots of attention and flattery. Anyway, there are a lot of women out there and the more you respect yourself and conduct yourself accordingly, the healthier the woman you will attract, in turn. This isn't to say you couldn't go out with her at some future date (should she formally break it off with the other guy) but don't hold your breath. Quote
done Posted May 29, 2009 Posted May 29, 2009 Life is all about class in my opinion. For the record class is way different than upity or snobery so don't confuse the 2. Class is doing the right thing. It doesn't matter who she is going out with. If she is going out with anybody then its time to back off and let things play out. If she doesn't have enough class to not go out with you while the girlfriend of someone else then I'd question whether she is even worth it in the first place. It does't matter whether your in 8th grade or college just conduct yourself with class and don't think with tthe "other brain". How would you like it if you do go out and she ends up your girlfriend then goes out with someone else on you? Remember this is one girl out of multiple thousands you will come to know. At the end of the day whether tomorrow or 20 years from now you need to be able to look in the mirror and say " I did right ", " I acted with class ". don't mean to sound abrasive just giving my opinion is all. FFI - AKA Matt Crum I agree with Matt. You need to move on. If you go behind your quarterbacks back, you're subversive behavior reflects on you. If the girl likes to flirt and tease, she'll likely do the same with you even if she does move your way. My guess (strictly a guess) is she likes to bolster her ego with lots of attention and flattery. Anyway, there are a lot of women out there and the more you respect yourself and conduct yourself accordingly, the healthier the woman you will attract, in turn. This isn't to say you couldn't go out with her at some future date (should she formally break it off with the other guy) but don't hold your breath. Ditto to these guys man. Character goes a long way in this world. It can take you far. Take the higher road. Not to mention, how much could you really trust her if she leaves the current boyfriend that way? I dated a girl like that my junior year. It ended badly and guess what, she ran off with another guy. Worse than that though, the girl I dated RIGHT after her, I just could not get rid of her, that was 15 yrs ago, and she is in the next room with the kids, LOL. Believe it or not, some of the decisions you make in High School, can impact your entire life. If she ain't single, move on. Even if her current boyfriend "does not care", you should. Plenty of other fish in the sea man and she ain't dead, she may come your way after her relation with theother dude is over... Quote
carrothead Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 Okay. She broke up with her boyfriend. Now, how do I get her to go out with me? I know she would, I just don't know how to address it politely and correctly. Any suggestions? Quote
Branuss04 Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Carrothead: Hey "Girl", wanna go out Girl: Yes Carrothead: Cool Girl: YEA!! I'm excited That's how it goes in 9th grade... right?? :-? Quote
tallydude Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Okay. She broke up with her boyfriend. Now, how do I get her to go out with me? I know she would, I just don't know how to address it politely and correctly. Any suggestions? Forget about politely and correctly. Girls don't respond to that. Anyone who tells you otherwise is a romantic fool. If you want this chick, the way to get her is to make her want to be with you. You've got to be into something cool, right? Invite her along. Don't worry about making it an "official date". She'll know what's up. Biggest thing is your confidence. I cannot stress this enough. It sounds like you're all wrapped up in this girl, worrying if she digs you. DO NOT WORRY ABOUT THAT. You're a cool dude. You have to have an attitude that says, "I'm pretty freaking great. I deserve to be with somebody awesome". If this girl can't see that, then move on to the next one. Bottom line, you have to make this girl the CHASER and make yourself be the CHASEE. Make her pursue you. Quote
Steven Ladner Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Okay. She broke up with her boyfriend. Now, how do I get her to go out with me? I know she would, I just don't know how to address it politely and correctly. Any suggestions? If you know she would go out with you, then it's simple. Just flat out ask her. Branuss has it right I think Quote
Bull Hurley Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Okay. She broke up with her boyfriend. Now, how do I get her to go out with me? I know she would, I just don't know how to address it politely and correctly. Any suggestions? Tell her you'll pick her up at 7:00 saturday to be ready. Quote
Super User SPEEDBEAD. Posted June 11, 2009 Super User Posted June 11, 2009 Okay. She broke up with her boyfriend. Now, how do I get her to go out with me? I know she would, I just don't know how to address it politely and correctly. Any suggestions? Tell her you'll pick her up at 7:00 saturday to be ready. Unless he failed a couple grades or she digs riding on the pegs of his Huffy, I dont think he will be picking her up to go anywhere. ;D Quote
carrothead Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 Unless he failed a couple grades or she digs riding on the pegs of his Huffy, I dont think he will be picking her up to go anywhere. Good point. Quote
Bull Hurley Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 I guess y'all just don't live far enough out in the country. I was drivin the farm truck around when I was 13. Quote
carrothead Posted June 11, 2009 Author Posted June 11, 2009 Yeah we do. I just don't wanna get pulled over driving on a public road, since I'll get my permit taken away if I get caught. Quote
aarogb Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Hey carrothead, where are you from? I am also in the ninth grade. Now back on the topic of asking the girl out. You said that she broke up with her boyfriend so that makes things a hell of a lot easier. First off I need to know if you have her number? Quote
CSB Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Try hitting her. But seriously, just tell her you are going to (insert place here) and she should come with you. Dont ask her to go with her as though you are asking for permission. Dont send her 153276873 text and Myspace messages, either. Oh, and dont invite her to a movie because thats a terrible idea for a lot of reasons. Quote
aarogb Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Try hitting her. But seriously, just tell her you are going to (insert place here) and she should come with you. Dont ask her to go with her as though you are asking for permission. Dont send her 153276873 text and Myspace messages, either. Oh, and dont invite her to a movie because thats a terrible idea for a lot of reasons. The idea at the bottom is also very good, now why didn't I think of that? :-? Quote
carrothead Posted June 12, 2009 Author Posted June 12, 2009 Yeah I have her number. She seems to be in Ohio right now :-? so her phone doesn't work. I'm from Arkansas by the way. So like I say: "Hey" "I'm goin' fishin' today" "You should come with me" "It'll be fun" (go fishing) "Hey, you wanna be my girlfriend?" Quote
dman Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I wouldn't move that quick. First, since he is your buddy, ask if he minds if you ask out his ex-girlfriend....Its one of life's codes: you dont go out with a buddy's ex - Unless they weren't really serious and he doesn't care.....He will probably say "go for it".....Then just ask her to a movie or something and things will just move forward from there. Quote
carrothead Posted June 30, 2009 Author Posted June 30, 2009 So, I got a date with her. We're going to the movies. What is the best way to do this? a: meet her there b: pick her up with me driving and my mom in the back (i only have a permit not a license) c: pick her up with my mom driving and we sit in the back Also, what do I wear? Aeropostale nice t-shirt, button up shirt, shorts or pants? Quote
farmpond1 Posted June 30, 2009 Posted June 30, 2009 So, I got a date with her. We're going to the movies. What is the best way to do this? a: meet her there b: pick her up with me driving and my mom in the back (i only have a permit not a license) c: pick her up with my mom driving and we sit in the back Also, what do I wear? Aeropostale nice t-shirt, button up shirt, shorts or pants? I mean this in the kindest way when I say, "What are you asking us for?" Just be yourself. If you want to wear what you mentioned, wear it. If she is so petty as to care, you've found something out about her you need to know. As far as transportation arrangements go, ask her what she wants to do. Collaborate. It sounds like neither of you have your drivers license just yet (and there's no shame in that) so you'll just have to work something out. Quote
carrothead Posted June 30, 2009 Author Posted June 30, 2009 I mean this in the kindest way when I say, "What are you asking us for?" I don't know. I guess just because she's so HOT and I want a second as well as more than that dates. She just makes me kinda nervous, ya know? Quote
BassResource.com Administrator Glenn Posted June 30, 2009 BassResource.com Administrator Posted June 30, 2009 I understand your stress. So it's hard to understand it when we say "be yourself". But honestly, she likes you already, else she wouldn't be going out with you. So she likes you because you've been yourself all along. So why ruin a good thing? Wear a nice shirt and pants. She'll be glad to be seen with you. Is a taking the bus an option? Quote
carrothead Posted June 30, 2009 Author Posted June 30, 2009 Is a taking the bus an option? What bus? The one you ride to school? No, really. There are no buses around here besides school buses. Quote
Super User .dsaavedra. Posted July 1, 2009 Super User Posted July 1, 2009 have your parents drive you to her house, the parents can meet, then have your parents take you and her to the movies. just don't be nervous around her lol. Quote
Captain Obvious Posted July 1, 2009 Posted July 1, 2009 Girls will mess you up quicker than anything in the world or you'll mess her up. No offense man but with you being in 9th grade you don't need to date just be friends. You should only date if your thinking of getting married and with you being in 9Th grade I don 't think that will be happening any time soon. Tell her you don't want anything serious and that you just want to be friends and if you stay friends maybe one day when your older you can start dating. Girls are like a bedding bass once you scare her away she ain't coming back so if this is your dream girl do like a bass pro. Back off far enough so you don't risk the chance of scaring her but not so far that another jerk can catch her and wait. When the time is right and your old enough you can date and get married if she is crazy about you she'll wait but if she goes it wasn't meant to be and you've saved yourself a ton of heart burn. Capt.O Quote
Super User Fishing Rhino Posted July 1, 2009 Super User Posted July 1, 2009 Girls will mess you up quicker than anything in the world or you'll mess her up. No offense man but with you being in 9th grade you don't need to date just be friends. You should only date if your thinking of getting married and with you being in 9Th grade I don 't think that will be happening any time soon. Tell her you don't want anything serious and that you just want to be friends and if you stay friends maybe one day when your older you can start dating. Girls are like a bedding bass once you scare her away she ain't coming back so if this is your dream girl do like a bass pro. Back off far enough so you don't risk the chance of scaring her but not so far that another jerk can catch her and wait. When the time is right and your old enough you can date and get married if she is crazy about you she'll wait but if she goes it wasn't meant to be and you've saved yourself a ton of heart burn. Capt.O I thought "jerk" baits were quite effective for catching bass. On the other hand, and for real, some girls like jerks. Look at all the proposals convicted. imprisoned murderers get from otherwise educated women. Quote
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