Wife...and yes, it's a rant.

[fourbizz]

I'm surprised some of you are even allowed to get online. Do your wives keep your balls in her purse or on the top shelf in the pantry?

Burley, where ya been, man?  Nice meeting you in the feminine hygene aisle the other day.

I find both of these posts to be beyond hilarious.

[SirSnookalot]

I think Rw is right on the money, I've got quite a few years of marriage under my belt too.

Always need a backup plan, I would be seeking professional & legal advice on the qt, something isn't kosher.

[Fishing Rhino]

Forty-four years married the 18th of this month.

I don't think there is enough info in the original post to diagnose or make recommendations.  I've jumped to wrong conclusions about too many things, thinking I was right at the time.  

And I had a front row seat to unfolding events.

In the original post, I saw nothing to indicate he did not know where his wife had gone, therefore, nothing to suggest she was being furtive about her "trip".

My wife has been away on business several times.  Sometimes she comes home in a good mood, other times aggravated.  

Aggravated because of travel difficulties, or just plain exhausted.  

There are times things are bothering her and she'll talk about it other times she doesn't want to talk about it, so I leave her alone.

At times, it may be the spouse who takes the abuse for things not involving them.  

It's why there are so many jokes about PMS and menopause.

There are two categories of questions I dread.  For example, "Does this outfit make me look fat?" and "Does my haircut make me look younger?"

There is no correct answer to either, so I just say, "You look fine."

She'll laugh and tell me I'm avoiding the question, which I am.

[moby bass]

I tell my wife where I'm going to be all the time, she just doesn't listen.

She calls anyway (I hate cell phones)  Some day I'm gonna have an affair just so she can be right.  

[-FisherGal-]

lol...

you guys are HORRIBLE? I guess my guy and I dont have these issues (we're not married) but, I dont go away on business...HE DOES, and when HES at a tournament, I AM TOO....trying to beat his @$$!!! ha ha

but, sometimes women act 'this way' because they have either met someone (not necessarily someone they want to be with but maybe someone who done something as simple as say "YOU LOOK NICE TODAY", and they realize that those are the things you used to do!!!), maybe she is jealous, or maybe she is feeling guilty about something she might have done, or I BET YOU DIDNT THINK OF THIS ONE....maybe she is feeling lonely!!!

Women are simple....most of the time.

If you can understand us...

[Fisher of Men]

I tell my wife where I'm going to be all the time, she just doesn't listen.

She calls anyway (I hate cell phones) Some day I'm gonna have an affair just so she can be right.

Oh, my wife knows where I'm at, she just calls anyway (and it always seems like it's right when I have a fish on or in the middle of teeing off).

I used to get mad about it, but the fact that she might actually miss me is appealing to me.  I have to agree with RW and others that you need to communicate with her.  Subtle things, like the dishes, laundry, the fact that you may not have called her enough last week, etc. can make a woman feel blue.  To us it's no big deal, but to them certain actions can be crushing.  I wouldn't jump to conclusions about seeing someone else and all that.  Just suck it up and sit down and talk to her.  After almost 18 years of marriage, I can't offer any better advice to you.  I hope things get better for you soon!

-Fisher

[Zel]

Pick her up a copy of: Act like a Lady Think like a Man (bet she will never read it... or rather, never admit to reading it).

[Muddy]

Elaine and I get along so well, I am grateful for that. She has 24 hour access to me and I her. I know from past experiences that people have died and I wished I had talked with them more, if she needs to call she calls, I don't care what I am doing

Trust is the basis of a great relationship. 2 things hurt it more than anything

1. You do something to betray her trust

2. She does something behind your back, and assumes you might be doing the same. Sneaks cannot understand that other people do not act that way, because its all they know

Either way you can't control it without work and conversation between the two of you.

[Troutfisher]

The second key is understanding that

regardless of the problem, it's your fault. Deal with it and

move forward.

;D

I'll remember this when I get older.  I'm only dating girls now, and I already realize this.

[burleytog]

The second key is understanding that

regardless of the problem, it's your fault. Deal with it and

move forward.

;D

I'll remember this when I get older. I'm only dating girls now, and I already realize this.

Then you need to start dating different girls.

[done]

lol...

you guys are HORRIBLE? I guess my guy and I dont have these issues (we're not married) but, I dont go away on business...HE DOES, and when HES at a tournament, I AM TOO....trying to beat his @$$!!! ha ha

but, sometimes women act 'this way' because they have either met someone (not necessarily someone they want to be with but maybe someone who done something as simple as say "YOU LOOK NICE TODAY", and they realize that those are the things you used to do!!!), maybe she is jealous, or maybe she is feeling guilty about something she might have done, or I BET YOU DIDNT THINK OF THIS ONE....maybe she is feeling lonely!!!

Women are simple....most of the time.

If you can understand us...

Women are simple for women! For men, well that is a canyon we just cannot see across. LOL. I have known my wife since she was 15 and I still have not figured her out. Love her more than life itself, but I will be darned if I will ever totally figure her out. Love the challenge though of trying.

Best advice on here man: "With wives, you can either be right, or you can be happy.". The first casualty of my marriage was my pride. Tough to say exactly what is going on. The only person who can determine that is you. When she comes home in such a fit, sit her down, and ask her straight out "Is everything alright <insert pet name here>? ". Who knows could have been you, could have been something bad that happened while she was away, could have been any number of things. But when she came home ticked, it likely became you because you did not acknowledge her feelings. That is a blind guess.

Like I said, I have not and will not ever know everything there is to know when it comes to relationships and even experts will tell you that.

[Long Mike]

Just use the tactic I use; "I don't know what your problem is bitzch, but you need to get over it. I'm going to the bar."

BTW, this tactic only works if you don't mind being married and divorced five or six times.

[fish-fighting-illini]

 A lot of handy and well intentioned iinput but before you start to think the worst just nicely ask what's up. Don't worry about something before there is even a problem.

 If something is unfair or an issue you can always react accordingly but start out with the common sense one which is simple communication.

 As was obvious by the variety of posts the same thing isn't going to work for everyone. To each his & her own.

[bigfish88]

I agree with others, you have to communicate. Don't even try to argue with her, no matter how right you are. I've come to realize....... the guy can't win

agreed, a mans never right or gonna win when it comes to the female.

best of luck bud

[bigfish88]

Just use the tactic I use; "I don't know what your problem is pregnant dog, but you need to get over it. I'm going to the bar."

BTW, this tactic only works if you don't mind being married and divorced five or six times.

hahahahahahahahaha

[Eddie Munster]

Or more likely, she came home and the same dishes that were in the sink when she left were still there.  Laundry wasn't done.  House not vacuumed.  Lawn not cut.  But that bass boat was freshly waxed.

I'd wager this to be the case than what others have implied which was some sort of improper behavior on her part while away.

Seriously guys; she's a little ticked for no apparent reason (that he can think of) and acting unstable when he's spending the day away from her (after she's gone for a week) so she's been cheating?! If that's the case, we've all been getting cheated on.

Talk to her and as others have said, don't get defensive. Be honest with yourself and try to smooth things over.