Wife...and yes, it's a rant.

[jack1]

Last week my wife was out of town for almost a week. She came home and began giving me The Look for no apparent reason. Started acting like a brat towards megiving me the eye, making smart *** remarks, and just trying to pick a fight.

Uh-oh, I'm in for a fight now and obviously something's not right, but more importantlywhat did I do now?! I'm franticly rewinding my memory to see if I did anything wrong during my time away from her, which I came up empty handed. A week away from her and I still managed to screw something up. I don't understand?!

So, this past Saturday I was fishing a tournament, which she knew because we talked about it. She calls me up only a matter of a few minutes after I launched the boat and questioned where I was. She acted as if she didn't know where I was at and what I was doing. We got into a little heated argument over the situation and after a few exchanged harsh wordsshe's giving me the silent treatment. Woo-hoo, let the good times roll!

I am completely confused as to what I did wrong. For some odd reason, she's ticked and there's obviously a reason why she is. Sure I could always go up to her and ask her what's wrong, but I'm too upset the fact that I think she's upset at me for no apparent reason. I've made up my mind that I'm not going to play her little game and I'm just going to wait this out until she feels like talking.

I seriously don't know what I did and that's driving me nuts. I hate the fact that she expects me to read her mind and spend my time playing this pointless game.

I'm sorry for the rant, but I'm just confused and stressed out over my current situation. Women...I got no kind words to say about them right now.

[Micro]

With wives, you can either be right, or you can be happy.

I'm betting happy is what you really prefer.

You did something, or you are not doing something.  A little time, attention, maybe a night out, a little more help around the house.  A little less playing with your boat and fishing gear.  

Before you jump down my throat and tell me that you do everything around the house and what a good fella you are - I already know that.   Obviously, your wife is getting the wrong impression of you.   YOU have to fix that.

[Pitchinkid]

lol awesome. I think we married the same woman.

[fishfordollars]

Check this out.

Several years ago the wife and I went out and bought her a new Infinity QX-4. As we are pulling into the driveway in the new ride she looked at my/our bass boat and said...

"Don't you think it's time you got a new one?"

I rest my case.

[-FisherGal-]

I dont even know what to say.

If you cant remember that you've said or done something then maybe you should talk to her because obviously she has made something of nothing.

Sorry to hear about your troubles.

=)

[1inStripes]

IMO your not paying attention to her. You were gone for a week, then come back and go fishing. But you do need to talk to her and see why she is upset. BTW use paitence and calm voice.

You might want to reread that GMAN.  Im with Pitchnkid.  I think we married the same woman.

[drmnbig]

So, this past Saturday I was fishing a tournament, which she knew because we talked about it. She calls me up only a matter of a few minutes after I launched the boat and questioned where I was. She acted as if she didn't know where I was at and what I was doing.

Sorry, but I see a huge problem here.  My wife and I have our issues as all married couple do but we know where each other is going to be at all times.  To be away from the house all day at a tourney she should definitely know where you are.

You two should sit down and talk.  Communication is the key to marriage.  

Just trying to help...take it for what it's worth.

[Tokyo Tony]

Just ask her why she's mad at you, and don't get defensive (even though you'll want to). If it's somewhat legitimate, apologize. Don't even consider mentioning the acronym PMS, unless you want to get kicked in the throat.

[Siebert Outdoors]

IMO your not paying attention to her. You were gone for a week, then come back and go fishing. But you do need to talk to her and see why she is upset. BTW use paitence and calm voice.

You might want to reread that GMAN. Im with Pitchnkid. I think we married the same woman.

My reading comprehension is lacking this morning.  Yeah disregard what I said.  DOH!!

[roadwarrior]

I have been "in training" for more than thirty years.

One thing I have learned is to address issues up-front

and communicate. The second key is understanding that

regardless of the problem, it's your fault. Deal with it and

move forward.

A vase of flowers, puppy dog eyes and a sincere, "Honey,

what's wrong?" goes a long ways.

:

[Steven Ladner]

I agree with others, you have to communicate. Don't even try to argue with her, no matter how right you are. I've come to realize....... the guy can't win

[grimlin]

Maybe she met somebody better while she was gone for the week?

Or maybe while she was gone she was noticed by somebody and wishes you would notice her the same?

Why was she gone for the whole week? Did you do something to make her disappear that long?

It sounds like paranoia to me.Or it could be the fact you just tickeded her off without knowing it.

[Uncle Leo]

Like a bad storm it will blow away. If it was something serious she would state so. Much like lightening during a storm just be careful till it passes. I love my wife but if I tried to understand her every mood I would have no time for fishing.

[Jimzee]

lol awesome. I think we married the same woman.

lol ;D

[Bull Hurley]

Maybe she met somebody better while she was gone for the week?

Or maybe while she was gone she was noticed by somebody and wishes you would notice her the same?

That is the first thing that popped into mind.  She was gone for a week and she comes back and is changed and looking for ways to pick a fight.  Usually when that happens they are feeling guilty for something they did.

[aceman387]

   my mind was drifting  towards what grimlin post had to say. where was she and did she meet someone else.  

[bass wrangler569]

If a man is alone in a forest and he says something, and no women is present, is he still wrong?

I'm not married (obviously) but I think you should pay attention to what RW said. Try to talk to her, that might be all she wants in the first place. Another thought, did you make a big deal about missing her when she came home or did you act relatively unphased? She might feel underappreciated if you gave her the impression that the week you spent apart was anything less than agonizing.

Good luck with your problems...

[-HAWK-]

If a man is alone in a forest and he says something, and no women is present, is he still wrong?

I'm not married (obviously) but I think you should pay attention to what RW said. Try to talk to her, that might be all she wants in the first place. Another thought, did you make a big deal about missing her when she came home or did you act relatively unphased? She might feel underappreciated if you gave her the impression that the week you spent apart was anything less than agonizing.

Good luck with your problems...

Good advice from a single man. You are wise beyond your years. I was thinking the exact same thing.

[mrlitetackle]

agggghhhhhh!!!!!!!

im ticked off for you........

I HATE the whole mind reading crap!!!!!  tell me whats up, and dont say "oh you should know what you did"....

women........ :-/

[Redlinerobert]

She questioned where you were and was upset - even though she knew you were at a tourny.  That keyed me in on what seems to be fairly obvious as others have mentioned.

You may have to man up and have the talk about where she was for the week.  Who she was with.  If you've been out fishing and not spending quality time together, it may just be that she found someone that is paying attention to her.  Making her feel special.  You may think no way - but I'm willing to bet that is what the issue is.  

I hope you can talk to her openly and just be honest - an apology for not being with her will help, but it sounds like you may be at the point where your actions could be the difference between staying in your relationship or not.  

Good luck.  

[Micro]

Maybe she met somebody better while she was gone for the week?

Or maybe while she was gone she was noticed by somebody and wishes you would notice her the same?

That is the first thing that popped into mind. She was gone for a week and she comes back and is changed and looking for ways to pick a fight. Usually when that happens they are feeling guilty for something they did.

Or more likely, she came home and the same dishes that were in the sink when she left were still there.  Laundry wasn't done.  House not vacuumed.  Lawn not cut.  But that bass boat was freshly waxed.  

[fishinfiend]

With wives, you can either be right, or you can be happy.

The second key is understanding that regardless of the problem, it's your fault.

People have paid thousands of dollars for lesser advice.  ;D

[burleytog]

I'm surprised some of you are even allowed to get online.  Do your wives keep your balls in her purse or on the top shelf in the pantry?

[Micro]

Burley, where ya been, man?  Nice meeting you in the feminine hygene aisle the other day.

[bilgerat]

I'm surprised some of you are even allowed to get online. Do your wives keep your balls in her purse or on the top shelf in the pantry?

"Aw, come on honey. All of the other guys get to have theirs tonight, how 'bout it, huh ? Whats that, go _ _ck yourself ? Hey fellas, next time you see me out front doing yard work or something - shoot me"

The late great Sam Kinison