Super User Micro Posted February 23, 2009 Super User Posted February 23, 2009 You're going to get all kinds of advice. I'm not going to give you any. I've been married for 19 years and I still don't know how. All I can say is I'm rooting for you. And that "angry sex" can be pretty good, too. Quote
The_Natural Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 When I say 'left'...she just went to her friends house...she didn't move out of anything. We got into it today when she got back, because she claims what I heard wasn't what she said (go figure). I'm over it! Thanks for letting me vent.... Quote
Super User retiredbosn Posted February 23, 2009 Super User Posted February 23, 2009 Two of the best pieces of advice I ever got were as follows. Love is a decision, because your emotions always change. When I asked a couple who had been married for 50+ years how they did it, the response was "we never fell out of love at the same time." Meaning that through all the ups and downs one of the two of them always stuck it out when they didn't really want to. Good luck Quote
=Matt 5.0= Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 I also believe that over time, marriage becomes more of a "business". Especially if you have kids. Anyone who's paying child support due to a divorce can probably confirm this. Quote
done Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 ...and the other thing. Marriages are as unique as the people in them. What works for one couple may suck for another. I think it was eddie Munster who posted the rules he and his wife live by. I definitely see the wisdom in those rules. I know of 2 or 3 couples I know that setting formal rules in that manner would cause severe trust issues, however, obviously in with Eddie and his wife, through mutual respect they have agreed to live by those and that is awesome. Anyway, good luck man, I really pray for nothing but the best for you and your wife. Quote
Super User roadwarrior Posted February 23, 2009 Super User Posted February 23, 2009 You need to do you and your wife a favor if you really want to save your marriage. Get yourselves a good marriage counselor and quit wasting your time here talking to a bunch of fishermen about your martial problems. People will try to help you out because they do care but you need professional help to see if the marriage can be saved. Kinda harsh advice...which I agree with 100%. Quote
Bass Dude Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Marriage Counselors help with marriage. Bassfishing Resource helps with bass fishing. I think you may have come to the wrong place! Quote
Siebert Outdoors Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Natural, I wish you the best and please work it out together. If it takes counseling please try it. If you two truely love each other you will work together and work it out. Patience and love is the only way to work through this. Alcohol will just make it worse. Honestly you probably need to go fishing for a day and relax, clear your mind, and let your emotions settle. Quote
FishingBuds Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Other things to watch, is she gettiing close to an age that she worries about? You'd be surprize how turnning 30 will affect some. The other thing is the hormone thing, its very hard on women and can get worse the older they get, to the affect of needing some Doctor advice. Just my oppinion from 20 years of marriage. By the way you was doing the right thing by taking her out on a date, do that again man! and don't stop, we can take our wives for granted and I had to be humbled in the past for not paying enough attention to her, they rely on us, and need us too. sometimes life gets a bit hard and we have to step back for some fun together Quote
TheBeast Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 because she claims what I heard wasn't what she said (go figure). When do we ever "hear" what they "say"??????? BTW I sent you a friend request on facebook, it will be from Tommy Lawson. Quote
The_Natural Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 You need to do you and your wife a favor if you really want to save your marriage. Get yourselves a good marriage counselor and quit wasting your time here talking to a bunch of fishermen about your martial problems. People will try to help you out because they do care but you need professional help to see if the marriage can be saved. Well yeah...to state the obvious. Dude this was laaate Saturday night when I started this thread; I was just venting. This seems like the perfect place to bich about your wife to me, but I could be wrong. Actually asking for marriage advice would indeed be pretty comical. However, some folks posted some words of encouragement, and that was nice. Quote
Super User Bassn Blvd Posted February 23, 2009 Super User Posted February 23, 2009 Screw counseling. My heart knows when it's over so I don't need some stranger to me otherwise. People just need the cahunas to walk away when THEY feel it's time instead of hanging on . Quote
Super User Bassn Blvd Posted February 23, 2009 Super User Posted February 23, 2009 I couldn't understand what he was trying to sing. That's why I don't watch or listen to BET. Quote
Super User grimlin Posted February 23, 2009 Super User Posted February 23, 2009 I can't blame you...He does need to get those metal things out of his mouth. Why that got so popular is beyond me. Quote
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