The_Natural Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 She stormed out mad, even though I am the one with the reason to be upset. We haven't been getting along lately, but nothing serious. We decided to start working on it and had just gone out on a 'date' and planned to spend the day together tomorrow as well. The date went well, and casually on the way home she said she wished it were like old times when we were dating and I made her laugh all the time. I thought I still did....my goofiness is my claim to fame. She said her assistant at work (a young guy my age) makes her laugh more than I do...and she wishes we could get back to where we laughed that much. She tried to spin it after she realized how bad that sounded...but the damage was done. She actually got extremely mad...maybe because she realized what she said/confessed. I would never say another girl made me laugh/smile/feel good like my wife does. This may be irreparable. Quote
Super User burleytog Posted February 22, 2009 Super User Posted February 22, 2009 Good luck dude. Quote
FordNFishinLover Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Hmm, that really sucks man. I feel for ya. Hopefully you guys can just get together and talk through it. Getting mad and storming off doesnt help anything. Yall need to just talk. Hope it gets better man! Quote
The_Natural Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 She said she was sorry for saying it, but it's not like she apologized for calling me name or something. Much different.... Quote
toolpush Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Nothing that is worth saving is irrepairable, or easy. Hang in there, bro. Quote
The_Natural Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 It will always be in the back of my mind though. The guy she hired at work who she referred to is married and we've hung out together...but it makes no difference. Quote
FordNFishinLover Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 It will always be in the back of my mind though. The guy she hired at work who she referred to is married and we've hung out together...but it makes no difference. I'm sure that it just came out wrong. Shes your wife and im sure she loves you to death. An nothings going to change that. Quote
paul. Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 on the way home she said she wished it were like old times when we were dating and I made her laugh all the time. I thought I still did....my goofiness is my claim to fame. She said her assistant at work (a young guy my age) makes her laugh more than I do...and she wishes we could get back to where we laughed that much. ouch! i know that had to hurt. i bet there was no laughter during this conversation. sorry about that man. if she feels like y'all's best times are in the past, that's not a good sign either. but you know, a lot of times what someone is trying to tell us and what we hear are 2 totally different things - especially when we're hurt or upset to begin with. sounds like y'all really need to talk and listen to each other to find out exactly where both of you stand. the good news is, nothing is really irreparable for 2 people who really love each other and are truly committed to the relationship. i really hope everything works out for the best for you man. Quote
The_Natural Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 Bahh....I'm not going to stress it anymore. Hard times = strained marriage. Strained marriage = less sex. Less sex = ticked off wife. You married people know what I'm talkin' about.... Quote
Super User burleytog Posted February 22, 2009 Super User Posted February 22, 2009 What is this 'less sex' thing to which you are referring? :-? Quote
The_Natural Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 What is this 'less sex' thing to which you are referring? :-? Make-up sex is different. I just flat out hate her right now Quote
mattm Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Man I'm sorry to hear that. Things are rarely as bad as they seem right after they happen so just hang in there. Even if I'm wrong then it's just not worth it anyways. Unfortunately we are not the funniest and best looking people ever. Neither are the people we choose to marry, but we do so b/c we love them. Unless you are Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie the grass is always going to look greener on the other side. Heck it probably does for them as well. Since I've fished with you I doubt that your wife married you b/c she thought you were the best looking or funniest dude in the world. No offense. Just wait it out, and do your part. My guess is that at the very most you have a kindergarten crush on our hands, and its probably less than that. If you think a couple of days at a gorgeous lake will help you know where a Bass Cat is that you are welcome to is. Quote
Super User burleytog Posted February 22, 2009 Super User Posted February 22, 2009 Make-up sex is different. I just flat out hate her right now While I do not have a frame of reference for your situation, perhaps a couple of days of cool-down time will help things. But, as has been said, those words will always be in the back of your mind. Kind of like Micheal Scott and Jan Levinson from The Office. Jan's assistant Hunter made Micheal feel like you do now. Sometimes women are like a big d**n bass that comes out of a laydown to take your crank. No matter what kind of line/rod you have, you'll never turn her head before she breaks you off. Quote
Super User Jimzee Posted February 22, 2009 Super User Posted February 22, 2009 Don't sweat it man, every marriage goes through a transitional period after a few years. Hang tight together, talk to her about what she said and how it makes you feel. It will be on your mind for a little while but it will slowly start to go away. The main important thing is letting her know you are committed in the marriage and willing to work through hard times. She will come around, you'll see. Quote
Super User burleytog Posted February 22, 2009 Super User Posted February 22, 2009 you were the best looking or funniest dude in the world. d**n, just kick a man when he's down why don't ya! Quote
mattm Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 While I do not have a frame of reference for your situation, perhaps a couple of days of cool-down time will help things. Until thing are absolutely irreparable please read Burley's advice over and over. Quote
Super User fourbizz Posted February 22, 2009 Super User Posted February 22, 2009 I have no words of encouragement or wisdom. ( big shock right? ;D) But I do have some advice. Beer Fish Beer Fish Strip Club Beer Fish Beer Her Sister Beer Fish Make up with her! Thats my version of the twelve step program. Quote
Super User Jimzee Posted February 22, 2009 Super User Posted February 22, 2009 I have no words of encouragement or wisdom. ( big shock right? ;D) But I do have some advice. Beer Fish Beer Fish Strip Club Beer Fish Beer Her Sister Beer Fish Make up with her! Thats my version of the twelve step program. You just became my role model. Quote
Super User burleytog Posted February 22, 2009 Super User Posted February 22, 2009 I have no words of encouragement or wisdom. ( big shock right? ;D) But I do have some advice. Beer Fish Beer Fish Strip Club Beer Fish Beer Her Sister Beer Fish Make up with her! Thats my version of the twelve step program. You left out Drunk Tank. Quote
Super User fourbizz Posted February 22, 2009 Super User Posted February 22, 2009 You left out Drunk Tank. Her sister No I didnt ;D Quote
Super User fourbizz Posted February 22, 2009 Super User Posted February 22, 2009 mmmm. I hope that wasnt taken as indifference or belittling to your plight. Just wanted to add some levity to an otherwise grim situation :-/ Quote
NYfishwow Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 the natural, you don't want to be the old guy, with story of his wife leaving you. Believe me on this, you really don't want that. Its like my teachers in high school. The first story he would say to everyone is his wife left him at airport. He kind of crazy dude, if you get my tip! Also take her fishing, then jump in lake to make her laugh at you. ;D Hey don't listen to these drunk cyber turds, they google some sick stuff for sure! Quote
Super User Gone_Phishin Posted February 22, 2009 Super User Posted February 22, 2009 Best of luck Natural. I always enjoy your posts, and though we've never met, you definitely seem like the kind of guy that I'd buy a brewski for. I sincerely hope it all works out. Quote
Cigarlover 1 Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 the good news is, nothing is really irreparable for 2 people who really love each other and are truly committed to the relationship. Bingo. I've been through this time and time again. Women seem to want that "newness" of a relationship to last a lifetime when in fact from some men's perspective, things change and people change over the course of time. Relationships evolve. There's nothing wrong with it. It's just a matter of whether or not you can adapt and move on and find new ways to keep it exciting. For whatever reason some women have a hard time dealing with that. Hopefully for you two it's nothing that a serious coversation can't solve. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope it works out for the both of you. Quote
The_Natural Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 Here is my facebook page if you don't know who the hell I am... http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?success=1&id=1667748894 Quote
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