fivesixone Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 Gawd, I am lucky man. My bride for the last thirty-eight years has always been my best friend. I understand her nuances (which took me about twenty years to learn) and she understands mine (took her about fifteen minutes.) ;D ;D ;D Quote
Super User roadwarrior Posted February 12, 2009 Super User Posted February 12, 2009 I understand her nuances (which took me about twenty years to learn) and she understands mine (took her about fifteen minutes.) Hmm... Water him, feed him and re-pot him once a year. Seems simple enough. I guess it took fifteen minutes to decide whether you were "full sun" or "shade". : Quote
Olebiker Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 I have been married to the same lady for 38 years and I still don't understand why she does some things. Take this, for instance: She comes in from work and rants and raves for 45 minutes about her job. I offer rational, considered opinions on how she should resolve the conflicts arising in her job. That seems like something a loving husband would do, right? She gives me an exasperated look and says, "I don't want problem-solving from you. I just want you to listen." For the first 20 years I figured she was just crazy until we went to a weekend program called Marriage Encounter where one of the big things they teach is that feelings are neither right nor wrong and she is just expressing her feelings and I should just sit there and affirm her feelings. They didn't seem to share my father's philosophy of "a problem shared is a problem doubled" or "kill your own snakes." I still don't know what she gets out of making me sit there through her diatribe, but it seems to make her feel better. While she is blowing off steam I ususally try to busy myself with something so the time is not completely lost. She is usually pretty tickled that I have done the dishes or cooked her supper while she ranted. Let's see now. . . where did I put that man card? Quote
Super User roadwarrior Posted February 12, 2009 Super User Posted February 12, 2009 Geez... Sounds like my wife, but I have found a simple solution: Beer, whiskey or wine! 8-) Quote
RiskKid. Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 Hmmmm....I've been divorced nine years and am getting ready to get married again....How soon one forgets..... WHAT AM I THINKING???? :-/ Quote
Super User roadwarrior Posted February 13, 2009 Super User Posted February 13, 2009 Man, why not buy someone you don't like a new house? Just kidding, CONGRATULATIONS! ;D ;D ;D Quote
Sin_City702 Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I am getting married tomorrow....thanks for the advice... Quote
Super User CWB Posted February 13, 2009 Super User Posted February 13, 2009 Can't live with em, can't shoot em! Quote
fathom Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 there are only two things you can do with women. one is to not listen to them. contrary to popular belief, it will actually help you with that other thing you can do with them. Quote
Super User CWB Posted February 14, 2009 Super User Posted February 14, 2009 Geez... Sounds like my wife, but I have found a simple solution: Beer, whiskey or wine! 8-) Or a combination of all three! Quote
Super User cart7t Posted February 14, 2009 Super User Posted February 14, 2009 I have been married to the same lady for 38 years and I still don't understand why she does some things. Take this, for instance: She comes in from work and rants and raves for 45 minutes about her job. I offer rational, considered opinions on how she should resolve the conflicts arising in her job. That seems like something a loving husband would do, right? She gives me an exasperated look and says, "I don't want problem-solving from you. I just want you to listen." For the first 20 years I figured she was just crazy until we went to a weekend program called Marriage Encounter where one of the big things they teach is that feelings are neither right nor wrong and she is just expressing her feelings and I should just sit there and affirm her feelings. They didn't seem to share my father's philosophy of "a problem shared is a problem doubled" or "kill your own snakes." I still don't know what she gets out of making me sit there through her diatribe, but it seems to make her feel better. While she is blowing off steam I ususally try to busy myself with something so the time is not completely lost. She is usually pretty tickled that I have done the dishes or cooked her supper while she ranted. Let's see now. . . where did I put that man card? That's the whole men are from mars, women from venus concept. When they start going on and on and on and on.... well, you know what I mean. Immediately resist the urge to try and fix her problem. Just listen and then tell her you understand. I thought the whole thing was crazy too until I tried it. It actually works. ;D I still don't understand why a person would babble on and on to somebody unless you were wanting that person to help resolve your problem. But I guess that's why I'm a lunkheaded, knuckle dragging, neaderthal male who's main reason for existance in life is to run to the quickee mart and get chocolate when she's having that period before the period. Quote
Super User Long Mike Posted February 14, 2009 Super User Posted February 14, 2009 Geez... Sounds like my wife, but I have found a simple solution: Beer, whiskey or wine! 8-) Hmmm, maybe those are the reasons why I understand her nuances. Quote
Mrs. Matstone Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 I think that kind of have to agree with all of you on some things. For me personally I hate to shop, hate spending money unless it is on a big old steak or some new fishing gear, I do not carry a purse (that is what we have pockets for and if it don't fit in there I don't need it) The shoes that would prefer to wear would be my muck boots (for fishing) or just being barefoot. The rules I live by would be to never to discuss money with him at all. I have never seen one of his checks and could not even tell you how much money he makes. If their is something that our family needs he always makes sure that we have it. If I do have to ask him for money I I usually feed him a nice heavy dinner first. ;D I also smile and nod when he talks, if you asked me what he was talking about 10 minutes later I probably don't know. The only thing that want for Valentines day is to go fishing. ;D This being said after reading all of your posts I think I have definitely missed the money train. I fear there is alot more that I could have been getting away with all these years. ;D Geez... Sounds like my wife, but I have found a simple solution: Beer, whiskey or wine! 8-) Good solution roadwarrior, the solution I prefer is nice glass of Jack on the rocks. ;D Quote
Low_Budget_Hooker Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 Mrs M, you have to understand, you are the dream girl,....NOT the norm. Nodding and agreeing works but I find it hard to believe that I'm the only one who has learned to use HER concerns as MY stack of chips. A little thought as to what she is REALLY asking, and there is often a way for you to satisfy her AND get what you want out of the deal. It's the art of the deal,...the compromise. No,...I'm not married ;D Quote
Super User CWB Posted February 14, 2009 Super User Posted February 14, 2009 Sure is a lot of good blackmail material here. Hmmm..... Quote
CJ Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 What a great thread...I'm lmao! I'm in no position to add though...I've been looking for that little clubhouse on the hill. You know the one Spanky runs!!! ;D Quote
Super User roadwarrior Posted February 15, 2009 Super User Posted February 15, 2009 Good solution roadwarrior, the solution I prefer is nice glass of Jack on the rocks. ;D Hope you and the hubby find your way to Kentucky Lake. You will get a big kick out of Keri, you ladies are two peas in a pod. She is quite a stick, too! 8-) Quote
Mrs. Matstone Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 Good solution roadwarrior, the solution I prefer is nice glass of Jack on the rocks. ;D Hope you and the hubby find your way to Kentucky Lake. You will get a big kick out of Keri, you ladies are two peas in a pod. She is quite a stick, too! I wish I could but I don't think that is gonna happen so you guys are gonna have to have enough fun for me too. ;D 8-) Quote
Super User Muddy Posted February 15, 2009 Super User Posted February 15, 2009 I don't know about you fellas, why shouldn't the ol lady enjoy her life too? Elaine works hard, she doesn't fish; TOO BROOKLYN FOR THAT! She workss hard as a Credit Manager for a NYC advertising firm , and every week she gets her hair and nails done, she works for it, it makes her feel good, what is the issue here? She knows nothing about fishing, yet everything she has ever bought me for the sport is exactly what I use. This woman can also stretch a dollar around a corner, she is more generous with her family and me than she ever is with herself. If your ol lady feels better doing things for herself MYOB, your world would be a better place for it. Solar Physics would be easier to understand than how she thinks at times. But the sun still shines and she completes my life, why should I bother to understand either of them? Quote
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