Girlfriend Complaining About My Fishing...

[grimlin]

I got an idea...Bug the heck out of to the point she wants you out of the house....works for me.  

I'd go with fluke's answer as well.My girl knows i fish and doesn't complain.Long as i'm home when i need to be and the house duties are kept up.

Now fishing tackle...that's another thing.

[Cory20]

My girlfriend really likes to go fishing.  She likes everything about it, except the actual fishing part.  Maybe you could put together something like this?

This is our compromise.  She lets me be who I am, and I build a state of the art sleeping bag and life jacket nest so she can enjoy the outdoors and do her puzzles.

[Branuss04]

HAHAHA, just as I was clicking on this thread, my gf came up and told me i'm too addicted to this site.  HA!!!!  I have the same problem. It's hard because I started my addiction about 6-12 months into our relationship, so it wasn't something that she expected.  It's been years of constant complaining by her (we've been together for three years), (She's finally gotten to the point where she knows nothing will stop me from fishing) but here is my advice.

1. Don't schedule trips when both of you have a day off.

2. When I fish a lot, i'll take her out a little more often

3. I've told her this before and i'll tell her this again, I could be doing worse things then fishing.

4. I told her that if she loves me, she wants me to be happy, fishing makes me happy so quit complaining.

5. There are more fish in the sea, if she doesn't let you do what you want, there is someone else who will.

Good luck!!!!!

P.S. 4bizz------> :-X  Thanks buddy ;D

[Numpty]

Women marry men hoping they will change

Men marry women hoping they don't

Just let her know that is the way that it is...My wife comes fishing with me

I was 2 months away from getting married in my early 20's when my GF of 6 years started complaining about all the sports I play, all the time I spend Hunting and/or fishing.

My Dad and this is the only time he has ever said anything to me about relationships...said...."GET OUT OF THIS NOW...IT IS ONLY GONNA GET WORSE"

Now every morning when I wake up next to my wife or we are out on the lake fishing, I cannot help but thank my dad for his honesty with me.

FYI...my ex GF has been married twice and is now separated from the 2nd.

Her exes, (I know them well) have all told me, My decision was the best decision I could ever have made

[jemackinnon83]

My wife likes to go with me.  Sometimes she gets mad when we schedule an early morning trip and I leave her behind because she takes too long to get ready:).  "Lemme sleep 10 more minutes please".  Sure, yeah right.  See ya later.

[Brian_Reeves]

Whatever you do, don't tell her that there are plenty of fish in the ocean  ;D

[bocabasser]

Eject now or you'll be miserable for the rest of your days.

brutally honest, yet spot on!

[Gatorbassman]

On more word of advice..... Never name your boat " The Other Woman." I tried that once. It didn't go over to well. I now call it "The Office."

[fourbizz]

Try withholding sex.

[Low_Budget_Hooker]

I love my wife to death and I know that she loves me. We've been married for eight years now. She knew that I loved the outdoors before we got married. Heck, the first time I told her I loved her I was sitting in a deerstand talking to her on the phone. I laid it out for her real simple. I said it like this. You will always come first, but if you want me to be a pleasant person to live with you need to understand one thing...... I fish.......... No, Let me rephrase that. I fish allot, and I will be fishing till the day I die."  

She still doesn't understand why I love fishing so much and she doesn't try to. She just knows that fishing is what I do. It is my stress relief. It is where I go to unwind. When I return home I am in a better mood and I always try to tell her about what happened that day.

Pretty much the same thing for my buddy eric and his wife.  She has to accept who you are,....a "good" wife, just learns how to use that to get what SHE wants  Don't be fooled,lol.

Every girl I have ever dated understood "me" or they never made it.  I can tell pretty quickly if they are just saying they are ok with it just to say what you want to hear.  

Any girl that ever stayed around for any amount of time, became a fishing partner,....some of them got pretty good and still fish to this day.  The problem there is that they get jealous that you want to fish with the buds and not them.  Tricky,...be careful what you ask for,lol.

As for your situation, my advice (and it may not be the best,...remember, I'm 40 and single,lol) would be to sit her down and explain to her how much it means to you and that you NEED to be with someone who supports your happiness or you will not be able to do the same in return.  Communicate these issues now or before you know it, you'll be married to someone who resents you.

[Low_Budget_Hooker]

Try withholding sex.

classic,....but that's a 1-way street dude ;D

[Tin]

Could be time to drop-top and ride out. Remember fishing is usually cheaper and results in less headaches.

Need a companion, get a dog. They are always happy to see you and never ask for money.

[Branuss04]

Could be time to drop-top and ride out. Remember fishing is usually cheaper and results in less headaches.

Need a companion, get a dog. They are always happy to see you and never ask for money.

Not for me.... i shifted 90% of my finances towards fishing.  

Getting a dog is a great idea though... i'm sure they are cheaper.

[Tin]

Could be time to drop-top and ride out. Remember fishing is usually cheaper and results in less headaches.

Need a companion, get a dog. They are always happy to see you and never ask for money.

Not for me.... i shifted 90% of my finances towards fishing.

Getting a dog is a great idea though... i'm sure they are cheaper.

Well what will bring you more enjoyment, a dinner at a fancy restuarant, or a couple of Hudds?

[Micro]

Try withholding sex.

LOLOL.  I've been looking at this for the last few minutes.  The responses to this are so many and so varied that as soon as I would post something, I'd think of something better.  Must stop the urge to talk.. about ... a ..... lonely.... hand ..... and ..... ...... .

[Grey Wolf]

Try withholding sex.

[WTRDOG]

Could be time to drop-top and ride out. Remember fishing is usually cheaper and results in less headaches.

Need a companion, get a dog. They are always happy to see you and never ask for money.

Also,tell her the rooster rules the roost,if she doesn't like it...see ya !!

[Bassnbrett101]

Whenever my girlfriend complains about me going fishing I turn my phone off and go out anyway.  

And when I get back I tell her, "If your just gonna b*tch at me I'm going back to the lake."  

Usually works, we've been dating for a year and a half now. IMO you can't let them get too clingy.  You have to set the rules and stick with them.  She's not in control of your life, you are.

[Hookemdown.]

It boils down to this:

What do you love more?  The fish or the girl.

You're the only one that can make that decision.

[Low_Budget_Hooker]

It boils down to this:

What do you love more?  The fish or the girl.

Doesn't have to be that way

It's more a question of what she wants more, a man who stands up for what he is or a man she can control.

[roadwarrior]

Ahhh...

I have been married 31 years, 32 if I make it to October.

Calm down and explain yourself. I promise, after a few years she will  be glad to be rid of you for a few days!

8-)

[BirdNestBen]

Sad to tell you this but I was with the same type of woman... I won't go into all the stories and stuff, but your better off getting someone into your likes/hobbies....

Long story short lost my kid and when through totally misery...

Your fighting an uphill battle, but the good news is you can get out now relatively pain free......

[Jake P]

2 times a week is too much!?!!? Wth? This may be why im single but if my girl told me 2 times a week was too much i would go 3 times on purpose. In all seriousness just talk to her and let her know that fishing is something that you do and will always do and if she cant accept that then things are going to change. If she really cares about you she wont make you give up something you love doing that makes you happy. Good luck buddy.

[Teria]

This has been interesting...

I have been reading this, and I think the situation can be solved simply by letting her know she is just as important as fishing. I understand both point of views. I am a women and yes we tend to sometimes be clingy.

I think the problem is when a girl gets the feeling that fishing is #1. No girl wants to be #2 in her mans life.

Have you tried to take her? Even if she don't like fishing, make her feel welcome to come. Tell her you would love for her to join you. For a few weeks be extremily annoying about it. Tell her you would have more fun if she would go.( Even if you wouldn't ).

The point is to make her feel included. Truth be known that might be all she needs to back off and let you get back to fishing.

It took me 10 years to realize I love to fish. I wish I had been asked a few times to join my husband.

All I know to say is what a waist of nine years.... Good luck with your situation. I hope my input could help.  

Teria

[cjbs2003]

My head is spinning with all the far ranging replies! First off, thanks for such a response! She will go fishing and enjoys it a little, but I am a fanatic and she doesn't understand that... She doesn't want to go fishing all the time. I work weird hours so I am not home as much as the average person to begin with. So the free days I do have I guess are all that much more important to her and me. The thing that set her off was when I left for PA last week for a 5 day trip to fish and turkey hunt. She just couldn't handle it, even though she knew I had this trip planned for at least 2 months. I mean I was planning on getting up early(3 am) to get on the road and beat traffic, and she starts into me and I am just trying to get some sleep. So for the next hour and half we argued over me supposedly fishing too much. Seriously, when I look at my fishing journal, I don't even fish two times a week! I definitely agree with the need to get the honey do lists out of the way first. Plus we are getting a dog so I hope the dog will keep her occupied instead of being ticked that I am gone. Perhaps I need to sit down more and talk it over more with her. But in the end say, I love you to death, but I fish and hunt and plan on continuing to fish and hunt... It's what I love and it makes me happy. But, if you can't handle that, pack up and move out! It aint easy to break up with a girl you love and have dated for 3 years and are thinking about marrying. At the same time, it aint easy thinking that my future consists of a wife who ******* and moans every time I fish and tried to make me feel guilty for it. Anymore advise??? God knows I need it right now! HAHA