Girlfriend Complaining About My Fishing...

[cjbs2003]

OK guys... I am in need of some advice here. I have been dating the same girl for almost 3 years now. I love her to death, but she feels me going fishing 2 times a week is too much. It seems as though the longer we date, the more and more demanding she gets. I honestly don't think fishing 2 times a week is too much to ask! Any of you have experience in how you can get out fishing without ticking the wife/girlfriend off???

[Gatorbassman]

I love my wife to death and I know that she loves me. We've been married for eight years now. She knew that I loved the outdoors before we got married. Heck, the first time I told her I loved her I was sitting in a deerstand talking to her on the phone. I laid it out for her real simple. I said it like this. You will always come first, but if you want me to be a pleasant person to live with you need to understand one thing...... I fish.......... No, Let me rephrase that. I fish allot, and I will be fishing till the day I die."

She still doesn't understand why I love fishing so much and she doesn't try to. She just knows that fishing is what I do. It is my stress relief. It is where I go to unwind. When I return home I am in a better mood and I always try to tell her about what happened that day.

[Redlinerobert]

I take mine with me.

[Top]

]You will always come first, but if you want me to be a pleasant person to live with you need to understand one thing...... I fish.......... No, Let me rephrase that. I fish allot, and I will be fishing till the day I die."  

She still doesn't understand why I love fishing so much and she doesn't try to. She just knows that fishing is what I do. It is my stress relief. It is where I go to unwind. When I return home I am in a better mood and I always try to tell her about what happened that day.

AMEN BROTHER AMEN!!!!

[Red]

I love my wife to death and I know that she loves me. We've been married for eight years now. She knew that I loved the outdoors before we got married. Heck, the first time I told her I loved her I was sitting in a deerstand talking to her on the phone. I laid it out for her real simple. I said it like this. You will always come first, but if you want me to be a pleasant person to live with you need to understand one thing...... I fish.......... No, Let me rephrase that. I fish allot, and I will be fishing till the day I die."  

She still doesn't understand why I love fishing so much and she doesn't try to. She just knows that fishing is what I do. It is my stress relief. It is where I go to unwind. When I return home I am in a better mood and I always try to tell her about what happened that day.

x3

[Micro]

All I know is that you better get it fixed now before you get married.  

[Gatorbassman]

All I know is that you better get it fixed now before you get married.

x2 x3 x4 x5 x6..........

[Grey Wolf]

GET A NEW GIRL FRIEND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Catt]

I have known my wife for 43 years and been married for 20 years

My priorities are God, family, friends and fishing

Carol knows once all my commitments to the first three are met I'm out of here

[ring fry]

If and when she gets the ring on her finger all that will change.  She will be more understanding about your fishing and other activities.  

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NOT!   ;D

[burleytog]

Eject now or you'll be miserable for the rest of your days.

[frogtog]

What you see now will only get worse, so just dump her before it goes to far. Life is to short and the last thing you need is a complainer.

[Siebert Outdoors]

It seems as though the longer we date, the more and more demanding she gets.

As bad as this sounds imo, she needs to accept what you like to do too. If you reversed it and said you shopping 2x's a week is too much you can only go 1 time a month. How would that go over? If she cant accept you for who you are(within reason) it doesnt sound like it was meant to be.

I'm with fluke on this one. I completely agree. My GF knows this up front and is fine with it. She knows I fish and hunt and will never give it up. But I am also real lucky too. She likes that I fish and hunt.

One thing to watch for and I've seen it many times.  You give up one thing then it moves to another and another making the relationship harder and harder until it falls apart.  

It is all a balance of time with her and time on the lake.

PS ask her to go with you. 8-)

[Lavrax]

get her a fishing rod and teach her how to bass... or pray God you make a son so as you can go fishing with him  

[Fisher of Men]

I think good points have already been made.  It sounds that you two are in a serious relationship (3 years) and "finding another girlfriend" is a desperate measure.  Communication is key and will continue to be if you are married.  Try to sit down with her and objectively voice your concerns.  If she truly loves you, and she's aware of how important fishing is to you, she should be understanding of it. I'm sure she has some activities that are just as important to her.  Try and relate them to your ability to fish.  Also let her know that there are lots of other things that you could be doing (clubbing, drinking with the buddies, etc.) Are your fishing trips at a time that routinely cuts into something that is special to her?  Perhaps some compromise might be in order to re-arrange your fishing trips.   Again, the KEY IS COMMUNICATION.  Let us know how it works out.

[rondef]

My wife used to act like that and now we have agreed that so long as her honey do list is taken care of she is fine with me fishing as much as I want.  Just sit down and discuss it with her I am sure the two of you can work it out.

[burleytog]

If she is that demanding already, no amount of communication will change anything.

[TopDog]

If she is that demanding already, no amount of communication will change anything.

Get rid of her!  My wife pushes me out the door to go!

[Zel]

Tough one!  All I can say is: Women marry men in hopes they will change.  Men marry women in hopes they won't change.  Neither gets what they hope for.

[fishfordollars]

Instead of fishing two days a week use one of the days to hunt a new girlfriend.

[Mrs. Matstone]

Well being that I am a girl I wish that I could offer up some great advice for you... however I am  comming up empty handed. I am guilty of just the opposite. I am always trying to convince my husband to skip work and go fishing with me. I cannot get enough of fishing myself.  

Best advice I could offer up would be to pray that she becomes more understanding of the "other" true love in your life.  ;D

[Speckled Bass]

My boyfriend goes fishing more than 2x's a week and I go with him. I can't throw the line out like I used to because of my mistake shoulder but I do help guard his pole and will remove the fish when he catches one.

There are times when I don't feel like going with him but I'd never stop him from going and doing something he really enjoys. To me that would be selfish of me to do so.

If my boyfriend didn't like the outdoors as much as I do and didn't enjoy hunting and fishing I'd of  dumped him along time ago.

[ba7ss3in]

Try to get her involved. I took my wife fishing on our first date to see if she was going to be one of those," Bait my hookers". She wasn't. So, to test her patience, I dumped a cooler of water on her head and she laughed it off. It was cold that day but she took it like a champ. She even let me warm her up. That was 12 years ago and I have been paying for that ever since.  ;D

[TruflShufl]

I take mine with me.

+1  ;D

If only I could think of all the times I've skimped out on a birthday/anniversary so I could afford fishing equipment or tournament entries. One of these days she'll get tired of me  

[dman]

sounds like a Stage 1 "clinger"......I think you know what needs to be done next because if you try and talk it out she will say she understands and will change.....This is just a trick,  she is reeling you in slowly,  dont fall for it,  she wont change