I need to apologize...........

[Deb]

Guys, It's time I say something......serious........

First I want to say thanks for welcoming me on the site.......I'd be totally lost without it. The knowledge contained here is truly amazing and I'm learning a lot.

The comradary is that of some very close friends.....we all have an enjoyment of bass fishing. We also laugh, joke, cut up, cut down, and tease.............that is where I need to apologize........

You guys put up with me a lot of hours.....too many probably.......

As one of the only females here........I'm unique........I love people. I love to laugh. I love to bass fish.

I do enjoy the attention.......but it's gotten a little out of hand..... Competely my fault! I've encouraged it. I'm alone a lot and it's good to fill that void.....I've wanted your respect, this is not the way to earn it........I'm sorry!

I don't want to tick anyone off, or to hurt anyone's feelings......I am a married woman, I love one man......It's time I started acting like it!

I'll still be around, I'm still gonna post some pics, I'm still gonna kid and cut up........BUT that is where it's gonna stop......There are a few of you I've gotten close to......I don't want that to change. I have got to change.........I've got to tone things down. I've caused pain...and that is the last thing I want to do! :'( Thanks again guys for puttin up with me! deb

[Low_Budget_Hooker]

No need to apologize Deb, I honestly don't think anyone here has taken your openness as an open door to your bedroom.  I can understand how it may be taken differently at home but I think I can speak for most of the guys here and say that we don't take you as a flirt first.

You are a friend and angler first here on BR, in my eyes anyway, the flirting and casual ribbing are a way of putting people at ease with your presence.  I do the same thing.  I guess it's different if you are a woman and married but, honestly, I don't think anyone has any other "expectations" from you other than to keep being yourself.

[Lightninrod]

Not necessary Deb.  We are all just kidding/flirting) around.  Keep on catchin' fish and posting pics please .

Dan

[SPEEDBEAD.]

No need to apologize Deb, I honestly don't think anyone here has taken your openness as an open door to your bedroom. I can understand how it may be taken differently at home but I think I can speak for most of the guys here and say that we don't take you as a flirt first.

You are a friend and angler first here on BR, in my eyes anyway, the flirting and casual ribbing are a way of putting people at ease with your presence.  I do the same thing. I guess it's different if you are a woman and married but, honestly, I don't think anyone has any other "expectations" from you other than to keep being yourself.

I feel left out...you never flirted with me  j/k  LOL

Deb, seriously, I dont think for one second you had any intentions other than being a friendly fellow fisherperson who just happens to be female.  Your personality traits and the way you conduct yourself are what make you unique.

I dont think you have to apologize for anything, JMO.

Wayne

[flechero]

I think you are setting a wonderful example by recognizing that you are a wife and mother first, and a fun loving, bass fishin', BR participant second.  Way to honor and respect your husband, I applaud your decision!

[roadwarrior]

Well, I enjoy your posts and picks. Keep 'em coming!

8-)

[justfishin]

Hey, you fish for brown bass, we need you in here. I enjoy your post as well.

[Guest avid]

yo Deb'

You have achieved full mook(ette) status.

so for a girl you are totally

"0ne of the boys"

Some people are blessed with sense of humor.

They have the remarkable ability to be funny, a little offbeat and in your case female.

There are stupid men, who think such a woman is not a lady.

but please don't ever feel obligated to apologize for someone else's ignorance.

Then there are those who think they occupy the moral high ground, and so feel free to pass judgment on others as if they were the anointed one.

this is worse than ignorance.  it is self righteous arrogance.

and finally there's just the good ole redneck squirrel who is too dumb, ignorant and uncouth to know  the difference between honored  tradition and misogyny.

You do whatever you think you need to do to.

Trust the mods.  I sincerely doubt that they or Glenn would tolerate any disrespect to our female members.  And get rid of this "victim mentality"   you know the one that says it's "totally my fault"

Nonsense.  Unless you were seducing children. then any one you flirted with in good fun, is old enough to know better.

Regroup, Rethink,  Take deep cleansing breaths.  And post whenever  you feel like it.

All best wishes.

avid.

[Daniel My Brother]

Your posts are always entertaining and you flat out catch fish. I hope you stick around a long time!

Keep fishing and keep sharing...

Dan

[Guest the_muddy_man]

Don't sewat the small stuff, everyone is human, every one has some self doubt. The Mods are good at keeping us out of trouble, youre OK

[Triton21]

yo Deb'

You have achieved full mook(ette) status.

so for a girl you are totally

"0ne of the boys"

Some people are blessed with sense of humor.

They have the remarkable ability to be funny, a little offbeat and in your case female.

There are stupid men, who think such a woman is not a lady.

but please don't ever feel obligated to apologize for someone else's ignorance.

Then there are those who think they occupy the moral high ground, and so feel free to pass judgment on others as if they were the anointed one.

this is worse than ignorance. it is self righteous arrogance.

and finally there's just the good ole redneck squirrel who is too dumb, ignorant and uncouth to know the difference between honored tradition and misogyny.

You do whatever you think you need to do to.

Trust the mods. I sincerely doubt that they or Glenn would tolerate any disrespect to our female members. And get rid of this "victim mentality" you know the one that says it's "totally my fault"

Nonsense. Unless you were seducing children. then any one you flirted with in good fun, is old enough to know better.

Regroup, Rethink, Take deep cleansing breaths. And post whenever you feel like it.

All best wishes.

avid.

Deb, I totally agree with Don and Russ. Do what you have to do to keep peace and KNOW that a lot of us enjoy your posts and take them in the sprit they were intended.

Kelley

[Catt]

Ok guys y'all need to read between the lines on this one and Deb please don't upset with me for letting the cat out of the bag. The problem is not her answers to topics but PM's someone has sent her. While Deb has not stated who because she felt in some way it was partially her fault for not nipping it in the bud.

Lady we are all human, sometimes not saying something is as bad as saying something  

[senile1]

Wow.  What a heavy thread.  Misunderstandings are a part of life.  They will always occur.  Deb, if someone has misunderstood your intent and sent you some PMs due to this misunderstanding, I'm sure your original post on this thread will straighten it out.  

LBH stated:

the flirting and casual ribbing are a way of putting people at ease with your presence.  I do the same thing.

Well, thanks for straightening that out for us, Russ.  Just how many of us have you been flirting with?  

Just kidding, LBH.  

[Guest avid]

You know what?

I would like to see this whole thing just go away.

It just so happens that there is a highly regarded (by me and others) long term member of this forum who is no doubt suffering in silence while this soap opera goes from episode to episode,

West Palm Dude,  aka Jason who is Niksfishinmoms son, and someone I consider a friend,  has said nothing.   Do you think he feels nothing?

I assure he feels plenty, but it's his mom, and so,...................

If I were a mod I'd lock this thread and throw away the key.

I don't know who did what to whom, and I totally don't give a ratz azz.

I just think we should give this family a break.

It's 5 o'clock somewhere  

Avid has spoken  

[MALTESE FALCON]

Well said Avid.

Falcon

[flechero]

...If I were a mod I'd lock this thread and throw away the key....

...I just think we should give this family a break....

I am betting that Deb considered her family's feelings before posting, but she still felt the need to post. Locking or deleting this thread only censors her (unless SHE asks for that) why would you want to stop her from saying what she feels like needs to be said? Her apology appears to be directed toward her husband and son (this is only my read) as much as the forum.

I think you might want to give her a little more credit for knowing what she's doing. Besides, she can delete her posts with a single click of the mouse.

[SPEEDBEAD.]

Good call flechero

[frogtog]

I love to fish, therefor I am a fisherman. End of story.

[Hookemdown.]

Deb, I do not know the full details of the situation at hand, but I do know this:  You are a well known, respected member of this forum.  I enjoy your sense of humor, as well as your outright fishing ability that you share with us.  We enjoy having you on this forum, and will continue to enjoy your posts.

[kybassangler]

I for one enjoy the heck out of them post and sincerely hope she keeps posting. I like seeing them "little fish" too. I applaude you Deb  

[cart7t]

I've just gone through your last 50 posts and I can't figure out what it is you've done that you need to apologize for   :-?

[Low_Budget_Hooker]

No need to apologize Deb, I honestly don't think anyone here has taken your openness as an open door to your bedroom.  I can understand how it may be taken differently at home but I think I can speak for most of the guys here and say that we don't take you as a flirt first.

You are a friend and angler first here on BR, in my eyes anyway, the flirting and casual ribbing are a way of putting people at ease with your presence.  I do the same thing.  I guess it's different if you are a woman and married but, honestly, I don't think anyone has any other "expectations" from you other than to keep being yourself.

I feel left out...you never flirted with me  j/k  LOL

Deb, seriously, I dont think for one second you had any intentions other than being a friendly fellow fisherperson who just happens to be female.  Your personality traits and the way you conduct yourself are what make you unique.

I dont think you have to apologize for anything, JMO.

Wayne

Wayne,.....Nice Azz!!  ;D :-*

Is that better or should we go back to the way it was?

[SPEEDBEAD.]

Yeah, you are right.  Lets keep it strictly professional   LOL