A serious reminder.......

[Deb]

Yes, from me to you.......serious........

Today there was a tragic farm accident here in Calloway Co. Without warning, my good friends Bill and Gina Glisson lost their precious son, Derek, age 21. He was a wonderful young man. Also in the accident was Gina's dad, Robert Swift. A loving man who suddenly lost his wife to a heart attack at age 58, just a few months ago and now his grandson.

I can't express how I feel exactly. I know the loss as does anyone who has lost a child. You are never the same, never. Nov 3 will make 2 yrs since we lost Nik. You learn how to live with the pain that never quite goes away. I pray they find the ability to go forward. To allow themselves to learn to live again, to love again....It's hard, believe me...

The first seven months after Nik's death, I prayed daily to die. Every day. Then one day, I smiled. A real true smile. A short while ago, a very short while ago I realized that yes, I can be happy, I can laugh, cut up, flirt, smile.........I can live again......not just be alive....but it has been a struggle. Now the next step, taking the first step towards happiness to living again.

We all are quilty of complaining about the little stuff, bills, money, relationships.........whatever but what we have to realize is....that we are the only ones that can make that can make happiness happen. If your not happy, do something to change it. Tell your kids, brothers, sisters, parents, significant others that you love them. If you can't make it work, get out, FAST!   You may not get a second chance! God gives us one shot at this. I hate to think of the number of times in my life I've messed up but for whatever reason HE keeps giving me another chance. The next few days will be hard, I've got to tell some good friends that the pain never goes away but life can be good again. If you let it. I was once asked my greatest fear...........No 1 on that list is losing another child. No 2 on that list is not having the courage to live, really live..............I may not be around much the next few days.......PLease keep us all in your prayers...............hang on to those memories........deb

[Guest the_muddy_man]

I am feeling you Deb! In my prayers

[Guest avid]

deb,

My heart reaches out to you.

You are brave, wise, and stronger than you know.

May you find peace, love, happiness, and joy.

You are truly special.

with deepest affection,

Your best friend forever,

avid

[Top]

to say I am thinking of that family is an understatement, my heart hurt just reading this.... I can't even imagine what they are going thru... my thoughts and prayers go out to them at this very very tragic time...

AL

[RiskKid.]

My thoughts and prayers are with you. You are a special lady and I know will be a comfort to your friends in this time of tradgedy.

[Long Mike]

No Parent should ever have to bury his/her child.  The grief is overwhelming and it consumes you for a while.  And then one day you look up and smile, and there are no tears, just fond memories that will last forever.

[justfishin]

When my son was in Iraq, I cannot tell you how I felt, with the worry and hoping I would not get " the call ".

   

        What you have suffered, and the couple that just lost a son is suffering, I cannot even fathom. All I can say is, I am so sorry from the bottom of my heart, to you, the couple you had spoken of and anyone else whom has lost a child.

[Deb]

No Parent should ever have to bury his/her child. The grief is overwhelming and it consumes you for a while. And then one day you look up and smile, and there are no tears, just fond memories that will last forever.

Thanks Mike, I needed to be reminded of that......I'm not there yet, but maybe one day....

Guys, thanks for much for your support......I was here alone but yet so far from being alone. Thanks for letting me share some deep feelings and a few (ok a bunch of tears).

Anyone who says you can't have friends online, good friends, have never had the priviledge of being a MOOK Thanks again.

deb

[preach4bass]

The Glisson's are blessed to know you, and have you as a friend.

Thanks for sharing.  

We're praying for you.  

God bless.

[Fisher of Men]

Thanks for sharing with us.  I am flattered that you think enough of us to pour out your heart to us.  I can't imagine losing a child.  You are right.  We need to tell each and every one of our loved ones how we feel every chance we get.  You and you're friends are in my prayers.

God bless,

Fisher<><

[MALTESE FALCON]

Hi Deb,

Twelve years ago we lost our niece. That was so difficult, I can't imagine losing a child. As Mike mentioned we should never have to bury our children.

I'm never good at knowing what to say at a time like this. Please know, you and the Glisson's will be in our prayers.

God Bless,

Falcon

[Valascus]

I am truly sorry for you loss...I can't imagine what I would do if something happened to my little girl...I think I would lose it. Thank you for the reminder about what is really important in life...family, friends and the time you spend together. It takes real courage and trust to talk about the kind of feelings that you are dealing with. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family, as well as the family of Derek.

[Hookemdown.]

My prayers are with you and the Glissons.  I know how devistating losing a loved one can be.  Thanks for sharing with us.

[Low_Budget_Hooker]

deb,

My heart reaches out to you.

You are brave, wise, and stronger than you know.

May you find peace, love, happiness, and joy.

You are truly special.

with deepest affection,

Your best friend forever,

avid

Avid always seems to find EXACTLY what I would say.  You're amazing.

Will keep your friends and their families in my thoughts.

[skillet]

 Thanks for being trusting enough to share your feelings with us. Didn't know about having friends on-line until I joined here. I can't say "I know how you feel" because I've never had to go thru what you have. My heart and thoughts go out to you and the Glissons...

                                     As Ever,

                                      skillet

[Lightninrod]

So sorry for you and your friends Deb.  What a horrific time to go through.  You are one tough Lady and we all admire you.  It is impossible to understand what God allow's to happen sometimes.  

Two years ago, we lost a niece after her husband murdered her.  My sister and my BIL(in their 50s) took responsibility for her two pre-school sons and are raising them as their own.

Dan