I hate being 15

[Hookemdown.]

I was supposed to go turkey hunting today.  All the gear was packed up and ready to go, sitting right by the door, everything in order.  My dad walks in, his first words are "son, it's too nasty to go today, let's go next saturday when the weather is better."

Sure it's nasty, but the rain moved out last night.  My dad used to take me fishing all the time, and go hunting every time he got off from work.  He would stay up with me and watch a baseball game at 2 o'clock in the morning. But he doesn't hardly do anything anymore.  I've got older parents than most kids my age.  My mom is 55 and my dad is 52.

I can't wait till I'm 16, so I  can drive down to the pond, or up to the woods.  But that won't ever replace my dad.  I guess I just miss him.

(p.s. :  all the old guys here, don't tell me "son, don't rush your childhood away..."   Trust me, i've already heard it.

[timmyswetarded]

dude i know just what you mean, im 18 and my dad is like 53 so i remember when i was a bit younger i could never play sports with him cause he would get hurt. now hunting with him we have to stop every five minutes or so. oh and he never was much of a hunter so instead of him teaching me, i have had to teach him....backwards but i guess this is just the way things are.

[Hookemdown.]

Thank's at least I'm not the only one.

But it's really not that my dad isn't in enough physical condition to do it , I just don't think he has a heart for it anymore.  He has given me countless memories in the field with him, hopefully I can do that same with my son....or daughter :-/

[Daniel My Brother]

Hey buddy...I've got 4 kids from 5 to 16, and the 16 year old is so independent that sometimes I forget that she needs my time and attention too. Show your Dad this post. He sounds like a great guy and maybe just needs to know how you feel.

[timmyswetarded]

He has given me countless memories in the field with him, hopefully I can do that same with my son....or daughter :-/

this is what im looking forward to the most

[fishing man]

i know exactly how you feel. im 15 and i love to hunt and fish, but my parents dont. i cant wait till im 16 also, luckely my b-day is right at the begining of squirrel season, and before deer season. it sucks being 15.

[georgiabassfisherman]

i am in the same predicament my dad has gotten older and getting more senile i guess he still likes to take me hunting and fishing but he just cant last as long and doesnt really have the heart for it anymore but like always there are those great memories in the field and on the water.

GBF

[John J.]

I may not be an old guy but I will tell you...

"DON'T WISH YOUR LIFE AWAY!"  ;D

I am sure you know, one day you will get the opportunity and with opportunity comes responsibility. I am going to turn 18 in 5 days (April 19th). And to me it is a huge stepping stone; not only because I have more freedom and opportunities but also responsibility. I am now becoming a young adult, and that's a crucial part in my life.

You will get there before you know it, and just like the snap of a finger, the moment passes quick! Enjoy your 'teenhood' while you can. Pretty soon you will have a girlfriend (if you don't already have one), need to get a job (to support yourself) and responsibility to take care of what you have (car, gf, etc.)

No need to lecture, but just wanna let you know   8-)

God bless  

[fishing man]

yeah i know i should enjoy my teenhood. but it is really hard when i cant get like into the field or onto the lake as often. once im out of highschool i know i cant go fishing or hunting as much as i want to do. like this turkey season  i wont be hunting at all because you have to be 16 to hunt without a parent around, and my parents dont like hunting.

[Root beer]

My dad alway down for fishing, but when weather nasty, he wont go. BUt since I'm 17. I just ask him if he wants to go, if he says no I go anyway. :-/

I know how you feel though. It hard to be understanding, but it just way things are. :-/. I remember feeling like that before I could drive.

[CK14]

it sounds like i'm lucky that my dad likes fishing as much as i do  

[zara spook]

I know how you feel buddy.  My dad was never into outdoor sports either and since my grandpa passed I realized that I don't have that chance to make memories with my family.  But, I married a woman with a really cool dad and we spend a lot of time in the woods together.  It'll get better...and I do agree that you should show this post to your dad.  I think that if you tell him how much you look foward to doing things with him it may spurr his interest.   If not find an older buddy to pal around with till you get your lisence .  Happy trails.

[cart7t]

Someday, when you youngins reach the ripe old age of 50 you'll probably begin to understand why dear old Dad is a little more particular of the days he spends out in the woods or on the water.  I can't pinpoint the age exactly, but somewhere there in your late 30's and early 40's the old body just doesn't do all the things it used to do without objecting.  I believe it's part of the aging process that you kids will eventually experience yourself.

In other words,  be kind to Dad, especially if he's older.  It's not that he doesn't want to spend the time with you, it's his body that's objecting.

BTW, for you guys with the older Dads, suggest he join a Gym.  I did and it's the best thing I've ever done.  I don't have near the joint pain and stiffness and my stamina has increased.  Tell your Dads that this 50 year old Dad suggested it.

[Hookemdown.]

Thanks for the replys everyone.

I showed him the post. He said that he didn't really know how big of a deal it was to me, and that he thought that with me getting older, I would't want to do as many things with him.  

Well not that's set straight, and everythings great now.  Thanks everyone again.

CART,  Here's what would happen if I told him that.  "Hey dad, you need to join a gym. (Pause)  SLAP to the face! :  J/K

[BucketmouthAngler13]

Growing up sucks.

I'm the only fisherperson in my family (my dad goes once every couple years) so I have to bike where ever I fish. But I rather be 14 and biking than 21 and driving. Every birthday life gets worser. (lol pardon my grammer) This culture wants everying now and everything yesterday. People wish they are older so they can do stuff, then they wish they are younger so they are.... younger. Enjoy every day, becuase before you know it you'll be 50 and wishing you where 15 again.

[bassboy1]

I know exactly how yall feel.  I am 14 and my parents are 52.  We dug ourselves into a couple holes, so to speak, so finding time or money to do things is impractical at best.  I can live without the money as I do make money occassionally, and we do have 2 boats.  One of which we got a 1/3 of its value, and the other we are restoring.  Unfortunately we don't have the time.  We started it last May, and it is about halfway done.  It sits under the tarp for 2 - 3 months with NO work getting done.  I also don't fish much, because if we do manage to squeeze in time, it will rain or be real windy, and dad doesn't like wind or rain.  So no trip.  

Also, my hobbies are only ones I can do with him.  Fishing, boating/restoration, small arms shooting, archery and working in the wood/metal shop.  And, he never has any time for that.  I don't like video games, or even hanging out with people at school.  In fact, I dislike that.  I would rather be alone, than with people my age (for the most part).  The only thing that is consistent is scouting, and it is a drag,  because I have to deal with and be around people my age and younger.  This goes back to the not liking to be with people my age.  The majority of which are highly imature and come from households that give them whatever the he!! they want.  And they expect me to cater to their demands.  Hello?  

I haven't caught a single fish since October, and that may be because I have only been out 3 times since then.  Less than 12 hours.  And of course, my dream is to start fishing tourneys soon.  I was hoping to start next february, but that hope has been dashed.  Cannot learn anything without on the water experience.  And of those 12 hours on the water, there are usually bad conditions, as it doesn't get windy till after we are on the water, and if I am driving, we aren't heading back to the ramp.  Of course, if the fish aren't biting, dad likes to just cruise up into the narrow neck of the long coves or creek channels just to explore.  So even though I have 12 hours on the water since october.  Actual fishing time is about 3.  

I cannot wait till I can drive.  And there has been talk of changing the driving age to 17 in Georgia.  Ohh man, I swear...

[roadwarrior]

Hey buddy...I've got 4 kids from 5 to 16, and the 16 year old is so independent that sometimes I forget that she needs my time and attention too. Show your Dad this post. He sounds like a great guy and maybe just needs to know how you feel.

My son is 23 and graduating from college next month. I miss him so much. I have hardly hunted in five years...he was always my partner. Show this thread to your dad, I think he will understand. That's it, I can't type with tears in my eyes.

[John J.]

yeah i know i should enjoy my teenhood. but it is really hard when i cant get like into the field or onto the lake as often. once im out of highschool i know i cant go fishing or hunting as much as i want to do. like this turkey season i wont be hunting at all because you have to be 16 to hunt without a parent around, and my parents dont like hunting.

Like I said bud, time flies by fast! It's hard for me to believe that my grandma died 6 years ago when it feels like it was yesterday!

When is your birthday? I am sure it can't be far. Once you get that age and you get your permit, etc. life will be easier as far as getting to go where you want to go. But like I said, it may have those advantages and privaleges, but there still a few things you have to consider...(I already said it though...lol) Responsibility, Maturation, Safety, and Knowledge. Once you get on the road things change. You will be taught this though once you obtain your permit/license.

The time will come my little grasshoppa ( ;D) and when it does, it will fly by!  8-)

[Cigarlover 1]

Hookemdown,

Glad you got things worked out with your dad. Made me really happy to read that.

To you and all the other pops and sons that read this don't forget to keep the communication open. Let's face it we're men and some men typically don't talk a lot when it comes to feelings. Some times it just takes a simple conversation to make a world of difference.  

[KU_Bassmaster.]

Growing up sucks.

I'm the only fisherperson in my family (my dad goes once every couple years) so I have to bike where ever I fish. But I rather be 14 and biking than 21 and driving. Every birthday life gets worser. (lol pardon my grammer) This culture wants everying now and everything yesterday. People wish they are older so they can do stuff, then they wish they are younger so they are.... younger. Enjoy every day, becuase before you know it you'll be 50 and wishing you where 15 again.

You my young friend know what's up.  Sure growing up has it's perks, but what I would give to be 17 again ...... and I am only 24 :

[cart7t]

Growing up sucks.

I'm the only fisherperson in my family (my dad goes once every couple years) so I have to bike where ever I fish. But I rather be 14 and biking than 21 and driving. Every birthday life gets worser. (lol pardon my grammer) This culture wants everying now and everything yesterday. People wish they are older so they can do stuff, then they wish they are younger so they are.... younger. Enjoy every day, becuase before you know it you'll be 50 and wishing you where 15 again.

You my young friend know what's up.  Sure growing up has it's perks, but what I would give to be 17 again ...... and I am only 24 :

I always loved that line in the movie "It's a wonderful Life"

"Youth is wasted on all the wrong people!"

So true.   ;D

[woodpro1102]

Juice your time with him as much as you can.  I have never met my father but my step father has been around since the first grade and I didnt apreciate him as much as I should have.  I think the fact that he wasnt my real father had alot to do with it but that is besides the point.  From first grade til I was almost 16 I put my parents through hell.  When I was around 16 I cooled off a little but 2 weeks after my 16th birthday we got in another fight and I left.  I didnt speak with either one of them or my little brother for almost 3 years and believe me, I regret it now.  Everything is great between me and my family now and even though I am still trying make up for lost time I still feel I have wasted so much of it.  I know this isnt what you wanted to hear but you need to do everything in your power to spend as much time with them as possible.  I know it might be hard and I never would have been able to do it at your age but tell him you miss doing things with him.  

Alex

[MattStrykul]

I feel so lucky to have such a "go get em" type of Dad. My brother and I wanted to fish our 1st tourney up here in Va and our boat was down in NC and he went down at got it for us all by himself. He is not old, 45 since january and loves doing things for us. He doesn't spoil us persay, but loves being part of our team. He fishes with us all the time and loves helpin us as much as possible. I don't think I've gotten in a fight with him since I was probably 6 years old and over something stupid! Hes the greatest.

Dont hate being 15, I just turned 16 3 months ago, it just gets better. Just be happy for what  you've got going for you. If your in highschool, the years start flying! I was just a freshmen last year and now I'm almost a JR. Its crazy man.

[Hookemdown.]

Thanks everybody.

Bucketmouth,  I am very disapointed in you.  I expectected the lecture from the older guys, but not a well defined, young citizen like yourself...