BassKing813 Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 Well, for those of you who have been following my latest posts on girls I just thought you should know this because I need to vent. My first date went really well but i just found out today that the girl I was "dating" doesn't want to date me anymore because she's "not ready for another relationship right now." She said she wants to know me better as a friend but for crying out loud, I'VE KNOWN HER FOR A WHOLE YEAR. HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO KNOW SOMEONE WELL ENOUGH. I thought if you become too close a friend it will never work out. Well anyway, I feel like complete crap right now. Honestly, look at how big a loser I am. The first time I ask someone out and it lasts a whopping four days. I don't know what to think now. I guess I'll just be single the rest of my life and die alone. Right now I think I'll just OD on some pain killers.
Guest the_muddy_man Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 Whoa Whoa Forget pain killers PM me I tell you what a colassal mistake drug use is. Lesten you are young and you are gonna date a lot of girls Your heart is gonna get broken and your turn will come to break a heart or two. Your life was going fine before you went out on a date with her , it is still there waiting for you. YOU HAVE NO IDEA OF WHAT GOD HAS IN MIND FOR YOU. PLEASE DO NOT TAKE PAIN KILLERS I did and THEY ALMOST TOOK MY LIFE IN THE END Muddy
fishbear Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 Man, you have to look at dating like fishing.... your gonna lose some, and there are always more fish in the water to catch.............. Would you be talking like this because you lost a fish?????????? Dating is a learning curve, just like fishing... It takes awhile before you land that keeper sometimes. So keep casting and trying new lures. It will work out in the end. It always does.
Bream Master Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 Women are strange like that. Maybe if you go through this "getting to know you better" process, she might see that as you being persistant and interested and she might open-up to you. Unless, she was trying to break it to you softly. If that's the case, then OK, be a friend but don't go out of your way for her. If she is really, honestly trying to get to know you better and eventually wants to have something, do it. While she's getting to know you another year, you're getting the same benefit. Not to get off topic or anything, but I just got out of a long-term relationship and if I could do it over, I would have spent a year or so just getting to know her and building that foundation. You really do need that strong base to build a good relationship on. I once read somewhere at quote by either John Lennon or McCarthy: Love is like a flower. Take care of it and watch it grow. You're taking care of it buddy. Cheers!
Super User Marty Posted December 12, 2006 Super User Posted December 12, 2006 Pinkfloyd, I hope you don't take this as an insult, but I'd recommend that you see a counselor to find out why you're so down on yourself. It's not right to think of yourself as a big loser because a relationship didn't work out. Good luck.
BassKing813 Posted December 12, 2006 Author Posted December 12, 2006 I'll tell you why I'm so down on myself, because ever since I had to move from my home town of Tampa to Gainesville my life has been COMPLETE crap, AND THE PATTERN CONTINUES!!! Honestly, how can someone who's first "relationship" lasted only FOUR days, (well TWO actually cuz for those two days we were together), be anything BUT a LOSER. Let's just face it, there's NOBODY out there for me. The painkillers went down real easy. Shouldn't be long til I feel the effects.
preach4bass Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 Pink, You're only 17 years old. This past Saturday I preformed a wedding ceremony for a guy in his early 40's who's just now getting married. It took him over 40 years to find the right woman, and now he and his new bride are the happiest people I know (except me and my bride ). Look, you're only 17! You've got plenty of time to find the right one. You've still got the rest of High School, College or the "real world" to find a great woman to spend the rest of your life with. On the issue of the pills, listen to Muddy. Come on, you know you wouldn't give up your precious time on this earth fishing for those little green dudes because some girl needed "more time." We've all heard the "I need more time" thing before. Don't do anything crazy, just go catch a bass!
BASS fisherman Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 Some people on this forum may think this is harsh to say but I think it needs said. If you do decide to take the easy/cowards way out of life, make sure you do it right and completely. I had a great friend who tried to commit suicide by hanging himself. I suppose you could say he was lucky because before he died, his mother found him and saved his life. Well, what is left of it. He is now a vegitable who can't do anything for himself and is bound to a wheelchair for the rest of his life. He tried to kill himself over a girl too. Just think of all the people you will let down with your death, and all the oppurtunities you will miss out on. You won't ever get married, watch your kids grow up, which includes a whole other list of things to look forward to. Like everyone else said, your 17. If you don't relize it yet, your going to have to deal with rejection all your life. From girls, potential employers, and several others. As my dad would say "buck up, and deal with it". You got too much to live for whether you know it yet or not.
Troutfisher Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 Quote Your life was going fine before you went out on a date with her , it is still there waiting for you. YOU HAVE NO IDEA OF WHAT GOD HAS IN MIND FOR YOU. PLEASE DO NOT TAKE PAIN KILLERS I did and THEY ALMOST TOOK MY LIFE IN THE END For God's sake, don't OD on painkillers. A Pastor's daughter in our area OD on Tylenol and was dead in the morning. I highly urge you not to take any, man. You will feel better. Pain killers do not help anything but temporarily relieve pain.
SBM-RL Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 need help with girls then read the book The Game by Neil Strauss believe u wont regret it you will have girls wrapped around ur finger its almost mean but so r girls
Guest avid Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 dude, Cut the drama crap. You got dumped by a girl. It will happen again deal with it.
bassdocktor Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 First thing you need to learn that I don't believe anyone said is that girls are kinda crazy. Since I'm 20 my experience is in your age range. I'm sure you've seen it. I was with a girl who was my best friend and just out of the blue she "needs space" this was after a year. No matter what these things can happen. I got back with the same girl and she broke up with me after like four years again out of the blue and for alot of stupid little reasons, nothing was just serious. Some girls are just like that where all of a sudden you think things are awesome and wham they pull a 180. Best thing you can do while you are mad about this right now is go work out. You'll be amazed at the heavy weight you can suddenly lift. Try it, working out will really shift your focus for the time being even more than fishing. bassdocktor
justfishin Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 Life is tough at seventeen, life can be tough at 30, life can be tough at 40, life can be tough at 50, etc....... thats just the way it is. Ups, downs, its a rollercoaster. Thats the way God intended it to be. Welcome to the real world, the biggest classroom there is. You deal with these problems, remember them, file them, move on and consider yourself a little wiser next time. I think your problems go deeper than the girl situation. You need to take a deep breath seek advise from a priest, youth counsler or anyone who can help you sort this thing out. Just put one foot in front of the other and do it. We all need a helping hand sometimes. Its nothing to be ashamed of. I may not be the smartest man in the world but, I can assure you one thing, drugs are not the answer. Look up my friend, thats the answer.
northgabassfisher Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 hey man maybe god didnt want you to go out with her maybe he has big and better plans with you later on in life, the man up there knows what he is doin, just go with the flow every thing will come out all right trust me. and its still the first of the month if you know what i mean LOL come mid month she will be on you like white on rice lol
senko_77 Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 Quote dude, Cut the drama crap. You got dumped by a girl. It will happen again deal with it. Avid, have I ever told you that you are my hero. (edited , smarten up.)
Hillbilly_Hooker Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 PinkFloyd, You're worried about being a loser because the 'relationship' only lasted four days? Until I married my 2nd wife, I had 'relationships' that didn't last until the end of the first date. For the most part, I'm thankful that they didn't I 'threw a lot of fish back' during my dating years, and got 'thrown back' myself a few times. As someone said earlier, I thank God that I didn't end up with some of the ones I thought I liked/loved at the time. If I had, I wouldn't have found the 'one' that I've been married to for the past 25 years. Hillbilly
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