Is this change of life or what?

[RiskKid.]

I'm late on this too but the differentiation between ogleing and looking is well put. As for my two cents I am divorced so I guess I speak from failed perspective but perhaps others can benefit from my shortcomings. Lady Bass, I think if its bugging you enough to talk about it here it's probably time for  you guys to seek professional help as suggested by others.

My ex and I did that, worked on things for months and in the end it was decided it best for us to split. At least when we did it wasn't for lack of trying and we ended up reasonably friendly. Although our kids were older it also helped make it much better for them. I don't advocate splitting up if at all possible but sometimes it is for the best. Six years have past and I must say there is alot of regret that it didn't or couldn't work out but  I beleive we are happier overall. For informational purposes without going into any detail I will say that neither of us were cheating on the other so I think that made things alot more civil.

I guess my point is to try really hard to work it out as that is the best outcome but at some point it may not be workable and then perhaps it's time to move on which is very difficult even under the best of circumstances. You have my prayers for a better outcome than mine.

[Guest avid]

I can't help but think it's normal to "look" as in glance NOT ogle an attractive woman, or man for that matter. I'm secure enough in my sexuality to tell ya, that when I see a guy, say a carpenter, working with his shirt off, and he is well built, I notice and to a certain extent admire what I see. This does not mean I'm gay. (you'll just have to trust me on that one)

Same with a woman. If I see a strikingly attractive woman walk past, I think it's silly, to look away, like she's a jezebel that will tempt me to sin.

There is nothing wrong with admiring beauty whether it be in people, dogs, cars, art or bass.

Now if I could just stop drooling it would be all good

Seriously, the problem here as I see it, is that Mr. Ladybass was being blatant about lewdly ogling high school girls. Now there are times when it can be difficult to tell a sixteen year old from a 20 year old. But not at a high school event. As adult as they appear they are still children.

Besides. Blantantly ogling, even when with the guys, is pretty crude. When your with your wife, it's downright unacceptable.

[BassChaser57]

Some of the guys I work with will stare so strongly at a female that I am embarrassed to witness it. If they want to be civil and enjoy Gods creation well within reason that is one thing but quite another to seduce her with his eyes. Like all of us I see beautiful women and enjoy the beauty BUT  I don't act like an NFL Football player after he makes a touchdown.

8-)