Seriously

[Darrell Shep]

Why does your significant other or wife, hate/dislike your fishing hobby? Many guys post about hiding combos, trying to sneak them past their wives. In all seriousness, have you ever talked with your wife about your hobby? My wife got drunk one time and I decided to ask her, and in her drunken truth, she stated that "she hates that she has to share her time with me when it comes to fishing, that the passion that I have for fishing she wishes she was a fish"

TL/DR: Does your wife express concern about your spending habits and "feelings" about fishing gear?

[gim]

3 minutes ago, Darrell Shep said:

Does your wife express concern about your spending habits and "feelings" about fishing gear?

 

Yes, and no.

 

Both my wife and I contribute to our income, so its her money too.  I would never just go out and buy a new boat, graph, or rod/reel without consulting her first on "bigger" purchases and I would expect the same from her.

 

As far as fishing, she knew I enjoyed it before we got married.  Its one of the items I enjoy doing.  I'm not going to change who I am to be in a relationship and if it has to be like that, its a toxic relationship that I wouldn't be a part of.

[A-Jay]

Actual adult and mature married

men and  women know how to and are confident enough to communicate honestly & effectively.

Boils down to truly having real respect for yourself and your significant other.

Life is way too short for anything else.

A-Jay

[Skunkmaster-k]

Not if she wants to stay my wife. HA HA ! Just kidding ? 

[Mike L]

1 minute ago, A-Jay said:

Actual adult and mature married

men and  women know how to and are confident enough to communicate honestly & effectively.

Boils down to truly having real respect for yourself and your significant other.

Life is way too short for anything else.

A-Jay

That's it!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Mike

[scaleface]

Nah, my wife would rather me be fishing then going to bars where I met her.

[Mobasser]

My wife goes fishing with me a few times a year, and always enjoys it. As far as purchasing tackle and fishing stuff, I just let her know I would like to buy it.           We've been married forty years. I wouldn't have stayed married that long trying to sneak around buying things behind her back.

[rgasr63]

4 minutes ago, Mobasser said:

My wife goes fishing with me a few times a year, and always enjoys it. As far as purchasing tackle and fishing stuff, I just let her know I would like to buy it.           We've been married forty years. I wouldn't have stayed married that long trying to sneak around buying things behind her back.

I agree that is the key. Also you have to keep your wife included in the time given to your hobbies. It is give and take and I am included in her hobbies also. Just the offer to go get up before dawn to fish is inclusive enough. 

[DaubsNU1]

Second marriage for both my wife and me. Rough family history growing up, she's very much a saver and a planner. We have separate accounts and split bills accordingly. Have been doing it this way for 14 years and it serves us well.

 

She buys stuff, I don't say a word...that's her $$.  I buy stuff...she comments and grumbles some times. It's in her nature...I get that.

 

At the end of the day, I'm not asking her for $$, I'm paying my bills, funding my retirement, we don't have any debt besides mortgage.

 

She doesn't like to fish...but with this new boat she does come with me...brings a book and some wine...and enjoys being on the water.

[Catt]

Carolann & I have known each other for 62 yrs. She knew then I hunted, fished, trapped, & camped in extreme wildness.

 

She compares to Garth Brooks Rodeo!

 

His eyes are cold and restless
And his wounds have almost healed
And she'd give half of Texas
Just to change the way he feels
She knows his love's on Toledo 
And she knows he's gonna go
But it ain't no woman flesh and blood
It's that damned old fishing boat!

 

 

[Bankc]

My wife told me the other day, "I bet you'd love me more if I were a fish". 

 

I asked her "Do you mean like a mermaid, or a sea bass?"

 

She said, "Sea bass."

 

I said "You might be right.  Let me think about it for a while".

 

We pick on each other a good bit.  I'm sure there are times she'd rather me not go fishing or spend money on fishing.  But, for the most part, she's okay with it.  We both have our hobbies.  And I'm usually getting up hours before she does to go fishing, and back around noon.  So I'm not often gone for many hours that she's awake.  We're not in a codependent relationship, so we like give each other lots of space.  She takes priority, of course.  But we spend more time apart than together, and we're both okay with that.  It's not the amount of time together that matters, so much as the quality of that time.  So when I'm with her and we're just talking or whatever, I'm focused only on her.   No phones, TV, or any of that other stuff. 

 

But yeah, my money is my money.  Her money is her money.  We each have bills and responsibilities with that money, and we both are pretty good at managing money, so money isn't ever an issue. 

[Catt]

@Bankc

 

[king fisher]

My wife new me well before we got married so all is fine.  She has been mostly successful kicking the Bait Monkey out of the house, but that is something I appreciate.  I have tried to send that old friend packing more than once, and wasn't able to on my own.  With some loving help from my wife, he has had to move on to greener pastures.

[TnRiver46]

If your wife doesn’t like it, dare her to quit ordering crap off the internet. Then dodge the shoe that’s flying toward your head 

[Mobasser]

Here's my dad's take on marriage: marriage is a commitment, and we have to realize that we're only human. We all have good and bad days. Try to make more good days than bad ones, and you'll make it work. My dad was correct. And, this applies to hobbies, interest, and everything else.  Be upfront and honest, and it will work.

[Catt]

As for spending, Carolann's hobbies are, jewelry, purses, & ink pens.

 

Y'all would be amazed at how much one ink pen can cost!

[Bird]

Hmmm 🤔 

Dating and marriage, been with my wife for almost 42 years and never asked permission to go hunting or fishing.

 

She's a very low maintenance " if any " independent woman.

We both are very responsible and during child bearing years our children were our #1 focus and equally sharing that responsibility.

My hobbies went on the back burner for many years so she never had reason to dislike them.

Fast forward, kids are gone, same independent woman......I do as I please but we communicate.

[GaryH]

Mutual respect… the wife doesn’t like to fish but goes with me all the time,reads a book or just relaxes. As for buying stuff I buy hunting and fishing gear and she buys clothes and jewelry. We both enjoy seeing the other happy.

 

[Junk Fisherman]

My wife is very supportive of my fishing hobby.  She tells me to go more often, take fishing trips, she never worries about my spending, and she told me years ago to buy a new boat when I wasn't even ready.  It all comes down to trust.  She trusts me financially and knows that I am responsible never allowing fishing to get in the way of family responsibilities or my career.  Plus, she understands that fishing is a healthy hobby.  I'm waking up at 3 AM and fishing all day.  When I go on trips I am staying in a campground by myself fishing all day.  It's about as lowkey and chill of a hobby a guy can have.  Her sister asked my wife once if she was jealous when I went away on tournament weekends.  My wife laughed.  She know it's mostly a group of middle age men that are asleep by 10 PM and waking up in the middle of the night to fish all day.  

 

As long as a fella is making sure he's taking care of all his obligations and not spending irresponsibly, a significant other should embrace fishing as a his hobby.  If she doesn't, some communication or some behavior tweaks from the fishermen should be made.  A fishing hobby can be balanced in nicely in any relationship and it really shouldn't be that hard.  

[gim]

8 minutes ago, Junk Fisherman said:

As long as a fella is making sure he's taking care of all his obligations and not spending irresponsibly, a significant other should embrace fishing as a his hobby.  If she doesn't, some communication or some behavior tweaks from the fishermen should be made.  A fishing hobby can be balanced in nicely in any relationship and it really shouldn't be that hard.  

 

Well said JF

 

Sometimes other things have to come before fishing.  A full time job, maintaining a house with a yard and a garden with kids and pets in the picture does eat up a lot of time though, and those have to come first.

[GreenPig]

My wonderful wife handles all our finances, so there's zero chance of sneaking purchases past her and I never would. She budgets for me to make 2 or 3 bigger gear orders a year. When I say I'm riding by the BPS, she understands that I'm picking up a few things. That has always worked fine for us.

She fully supports my fishing and understands that I likely won't be around long when I can't fish anymore.

[Rockhopper]

The wife and I have had separate "play" checking accounts from day one.  As in, that is our money to do with as we please that is separate from savings, retirement, required bills, etc.  This works well for us as neither can complain to the other about spending "our" money.

 

As far as how she feels about my fishing hobby...we are extremely busy people.  Three kids, multiple club sports, and I have been coaching select tournament baseball for the better part of the past decade that is a year round ordeal.  She knows I need me time once in awhile, and never complains when I need to take some time to get on the water and decompress from life.  She does the same through running.  Takes a couple four hours to herself to go on a nice long trail run up in the mountains.  Marriage is about give and take, putting your spouse's needs first, trusting each other fully, and loving each other SELFLESSLY.  Being selfless in marriage is key to a long lasting, extremely healthy and passionate relationship.

[Zcoker]

Happy wife is a happy life. My wife doesn’t have to get drunk to tell me to clean up my mess! I can buy what I want, but I usually get her something as well. QVC also helps! Balance is the key. 

[Functional]

My wife knew my hobbies before we even started dating so it was never unexpected.

 

Many may disagree but we have a joint and our own personal accounts. We always put in more to our joint than our bills and the rest of our paychecks go into our personal however we want to split it (savings, checking, etc.). We both didnt want the other to feel like they couldnt do/buy what they wanted if everything was in one joint account. We both are the type to feel we are taking from the other and would rarely do/get anything for ourselves if that was the case. We still talk everything over with each other before most purchases regardless of dollar value. Our only main rule is never do something where we couldnt contribute to our joint and always have enough in savings to cover any family trips or emergencies. 

 

Theres more into all of that but broad picture thats how we run. With our hobbies disproportionately expensive I make sure to spoil her quite bit extra on Christmas and her Birthday...shes got quite a few grand in nice sewing machines now. 

[Susky River Rat]

My wife asked me one time if I really needed to buy another reel and if I even use the ones I have. I said well they all go with me everytime I take the boat out. I have 8 rod and reel combos for bass. On any given day I will use at least 5. I then asked her does she really need more purses and how many does she use in a day? She retreated from the conversation and never asked again. She does not really care what I buy as long as the bills are paid.