I lost my best friend yesterday.

[RipzLipz]

Man, that’s tough. Sorry for your loss & heartfelt condolences.

[Eric 26]

My condolences to you and his family.

[slonezp]

Sucks. Cherish the memories. His demons are at rest and it sounds like he deserves an eternity of peace.

[Boomstick]

Well I made it through the services yesterday. I haven’t experienced a loss in my life that was this hard before, usually older family members who made it to say 90 so I knew at some point it’s be coming and at least I could be glad they made it that long and I got the chance to know them.

[ATA]

Sorry for your lost.

[Captain Phil]

I am truly sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.  When you lose someone close, it's like losing part of yourself.  The most common group to commit suicide in America are older men.  As I am in this group, perhaps a little input may help.   Depression is very common in older people.  They are near the end of their life and may feel there is nothing left.   Medical issues can make this worse.  Many things that you used to enjoy are no longer possible.  If the person has a spouse, this often gives them purpose.  Everyone needs a purpose or there is no longer a reason to live.  Isolation is very bad for older people.  The worst place you can be is the feeling of being alone.  The worst thing about suicide is leaving your friends and family with the burden of thinking they could have done something to stop it.  Your friend is at peace.  Think of all the good times you had and don't dwell on his decision. 

[Boomstick]

On 2/12/2024 at 8:30 AM, Captain Phil said:

I am truly sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.  When you lose someone close, it's like losing part of yourself.  The most common group to commit suicide in America are older men.  As I am in this group, perhaps a little input may help.   Depression is very common in older people.  They are near the end of their life and may feel there is nothing left.   Medical issues can make this worse.  Many things that you used to enjoy are no longer possible.  If the person has a spouse, this often gives them purpose.  Everyone needs a purpose or there is no longer a reason to live.  Isolation is very bad for older people.  The worst place you can be is the feeling of being alone.  The worst thing about suicide is leaving your friends and family with the burden of thinking they could have done something to stop it.  Your friend is at peace.  Think of all the good times you had and don't dwell on his decision. 

 

You pretty much hit the nail on the head here. He was a couple months shy of 42 and single, hadn't worked in an office since they closed the office he worked in some years back. Even though he suffered from social anxiety, everyone in that office loved him. I recall days I worked there, we'd be heads down doing work and people would come over just to talk to him or ask if he wanted to join them for coffee or lunch or whatever. Then people left for other jobs or got fired and it was down to just 4 people and rarely all at once.

 

He did okay the first few years cause he'd always get out and do stuff, then covid hit and it became pure isolation and it was like he didn't quite know how to rejoin the world, the thing is he was trying more recently. He didn't have any real debilitating health issues, although he was diagnosed with fatty liver disease or a similar one, I can't recall for sure which one he had although I do know that it was very manageable and treatable but of course he acted like the end was in sight. His sister went through his messages and fear of being admitted to the hospital for something serious was apparently part of it, but likely it was unfounded knowing how he let things blow up in his head and whatnot. If he told me, I'd have driven him and did what I could to help. Being as my wife's had 6 brain surgeries and I've been through the cancer routine, I'm sure we could have something.