Loss of family

[T-Billy]

Sorry to hear about your dad. 

[GRiver]

Very very sorry,  my condolences. 

[LonnieP]

Sorry for your loss 

[Jar11591]

Sorry for your loss, MN Fisher

[MN Fisher]

Thank you all for the well wishes. We're...coping. Mom is in a new unit, but the hardest part is her asking every 5-10 minutes "Where's Don?"

 

Luckily all arrangements were pre-made - pre-paid cremation and as a Korean era vet, dad gets a plot at Fort Snelling...so no scrambling for that part of it.

 

Sis is taking care of everything as I've got Nora to take care of. She's partially disabled so needs care...though I can take a couple hours here and there for other things...like attending dad's memorial when it's set up.

 

I'm still gonna be fairly absent until everything is sorted...but knowing I got people here I could talk to helps enormously.

 

Thanks again.

[Captain Phil]

Sorry to hear about the loss of your father.  Losing a parent is tough. When it happens, a part of you dies as well.  It's not a bad thing that your mother is not aware of what happened.  My wife and I are both in our late 70s.  Our minds are good, but we often think about what life would be like if we lost each other.  It's not the person who passed that we are concerned about, it's the survivor.  Where would we go?  Would we be alone?  Who would look after us?  It's not a pleasant thing to think about, but it's inevitable.   The only way to gain peace is to place your future in your faith.  

[volzfan59]

My condolences Ken. I'll be thinking about you and your family @MN Fisher. I know that you have great memories of your father, hold on to each and every one.

 

Steve 

[MN Fisher]

10 minutes ago, Captain Phil said:

The only way to gain peace is to place your future in your faith.  

Glenn said it earlier - "I won't offer up anything religious because I know you don't want that."

 

Two words, Phil - Secular Humanist.

[J._Bricker]

Sorry for your and your family’s loss @MN Fisher.

[islandbass]

My condolences, MN. We’ll see you when you return. Alzheimer’s is vicious and cruel. 

[Glenn]

My stepmother of 43 years had dementia. The last time I saw her was the first time she didn't recognize me.

 

She passed 2 weeks later.

 

* this isn't about me.  Just showing support because I have experienced something similar.

[flatcreek]

Sorry for your loss

[Hammer 4]

So sorry to hear this Ken. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

[MN Fisher]

Thanks again everyone for the words of support...and we're still in 'holding mode' for some things

 

M.E. found something 'jinky' during dad's autopsy...still waiting to find out about that. Can't schedule the cremation and memorial until that's cleared up

 

Mom's fading fast...in one way I'm surprised she's still with us...dad was her rock...I didn't expect her to see New Year's. She's not eating, barely responsive...they've put her on 'transitional care' - which is basically doing very little (IV hydration and sugar solution to give her some nutrition, and keeping her clean) and waiting for her to finally give up the ghost.

 

So we're still on the teeter-totter in some ways.

[TnRiver46]

That’s rough @MN Fisher, we’re continuing to send you good vibes 

[MN Fisher]

And got word about 10 minutes ago....mom passed.

 

She's with dad now...which is all she wanted.

[roadwarrior]

So sorry for you and the family.

[VolFan]

So sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace in their rest.

[Eric 26]

Sorry for your losses.

[Boomstick]

Sorry for your losses.

[Fishingmickey]

My sincere condolences to you, Ken. 

Fishingmickey

[thediscochef]

2 hours ago, MN Fisher said:

And got word about 10 minutes ago....mom passed.

 

She's with dad now...which is all she wanted.

man you just went through about as tough a 10 day stretch as a person could have. remember to take care of yourself in the aftermath, during grief it's real easy to look up and realize it's been a couple days since you ate, talked to someone, or went and did something you enjoy just for the sake of going. It happens faster than people think

[Glenn]

My sincere condolences to you, Ken. 

Glenn

[Siebert Outdoors]

My sincere condolences MN. 

[GaryH]

My sincere condolences Ken.  I’m sorry for your loss. Keep strong for the Mrs. We’re all here for you.