Marriage

[12poundbass]

It’ll be 18 years in May. We are completely different in most ways. We level each other out.

[dave]

35

[Log Catcher]

We had our 45th anniversary back in September. I can't believe she was willing to put up with me all these years. She said she never once considered a divorce. She did consider murder a few times. 

[padlin]

Congrats on your 42nd Mobasser, we’re at 46.

[newriverfisherman1953]

49 years happy years. Like most everyone there have been tough times but I hardly remember them. I have been blessed with a good wife. 

[flatcreek]

38

[Hammer 4]

54 years last June.

 

Happy anniversary, and many more to come. 😎 

[DaubsNU1]

18 years with Mrs. Daubs #1. 

 

Been with #2 since 2010, married since 2017.

[Glenn]

It will be our 20th in February.  Time flies.

[Catt]

Congratulations @Mobasser 

 

Officially 36 yrs but Carolann is my lifelong sweetheart 💕 

 

[Captain Phil]

On 12/20/2023 at 9:09 AM, Mobasser said:

Yesterday, Dec 18th, my wife and I celebrated 42 years of marriage. We didn't have a big wedding. We were married by a justice of the peace, in Kansas City Mo.                         We had a small gathering of friends over after the ceremony. We've been through many ups and downs, good times and some not so good.We we're fortunate that we learned how to work through these things.                                         I've always tried to remember what my dad told me about marriage.         " Marriage is a commitment, and you have to realize that people are only human. We all have good and bad days, and nobody is perfect all the time. Try to make more good days than bad ones, and you'll make it work".                             My mom and dad were married over 50 years.                                           For the married men here, how many years have you been married?

 

 

My wife and I have been married 58 years.  We met in the 10th grade of high school.  She loved the same things I did, fishing and fast cars.  We fished together before and after school.  We were married at the Miami courthouse.  We both had jobs working in a grocery store.  We drove there in a borrowed car with holes in the floorboards. We have always worked together in numerous businesses.  Whatever problems we ran into, we fixed.  A great marriage is based on love, friendship and respect.  If you are missing one or more of these, it's going to be tough.

[DitchPanda]

15 hours ago, Susky River Rat said:

I have been married a year and 8 months. I have been with her 12 years though. We got most the bugs worked out before marriage. I messed up. A lot. When I almost lost her due to myself  it was a wake up call. I put my head down worked on proving myself as well as getting her the engagement ring she always wanted. Two weeks after we got married she said to me” you can get that new boat you want we got married that’s all I wanted” a couple more weeks after that we got a dog which I always wanted. So I have been winning and I tell her everyday how thankful I am for her. 

This more closely resembles my relationship. We aren't married but have been together 12 years this past July. Neither of us are anti marriage, but being surrounded by divorce has both of us hesitant . Also let me state we have no kids, its just us two, so that has factored into it. 

[Captain Phil]

2 hours ago, DitchPanda said:

This more closely resembles my relationship. We aren't married but have been together 12 years this past July. Neither of us are anti marriage, but being surrounded by divorce has both of us hesitant . Also let me state we have no kids, its just us two, so that has factored into it. 

 

I totally understand this.  A marriage license is a legal contract between two people.  It's not suppose to change or alter your feelings toward each other.  I never wanted to think of my wife as "my old lady".  I always wanted to think of her as my best friend, lover and partner.  Many of us came from dysfunctional families, my wife and I did.   We did not want the same thing to happen to us.  Except for children, we see no reason for a paper document to keep us together.  I never wore a wedding ring for the same reason.  After all this time, nothing between us has changed. 

[Siebert Outdoors]

I've been married for 11 wonderful years.   Some of you guys have had the pleasure of meeting my wife fishing and fished with us. 

[DitchPanda]

8 hours ago, Captain Phil said:

 

I totally understand this.  A marriage license is a legal contract between two people.  It's not suppose to change or alter your feelings toward each other.  I never wanted to think of my wife as "my old lady".  I always wanted to think of her as my best friend, lover and partner.  Many of us came from dysfunctional families, my wife and I did.   We did not want the same thing to happen to us.  Except for children, we see no reason for a paper document to keep us together.  I never wore a wedding ring for the same reason.  After all this time, nothing between us has changed. 

I appreciate your understanding on this...I find that I get alot of snarky comments from people older than me on my feelings\apprehension towards  marriage. I'm not sure of your age be seeing as you've been marries 18 years longer than I've been alive  its great to see an elder statesmen understand where I'm coming from. Like I said I'm not anti marriage just not sure the juice is worth the squeeze. In fact my best friend stopped by for supper last night and said his wife just filed for divorce. This will be his 2nd.

[FishTax]

11 years 

[dave]

A covenant...for us.

[Scott F]

Last September 1, was our 44th anniversary. 

[JackstrawIII]

13th anniversary in about 2 weeks. My marriage is a source of incredible strength, comfort, encouragement, and accountability. We love each other, even when we don't feel like it... which doesn't happen often, thankfully. 

 

Best advice I ever heard was "sit on the same side of the table" whenever you disagree about something. Meaning, make sure you continue to address the issue together, instead of letting that issue come between you.

 

That, and treat your spouse as if they're the most important person in your world... because they are. 

[Captain Phil]

11 hours ago, DitchPanda said:

I appreciate your understanding on this...I find that I get alot of snarky comments from people older than me on my feelings\apprehension towards  marriage. I'm not sure of your age be seeing as you've been marries 18 years longer than I've been alive  its great to see an elder statesmen understand where I'm coming from. Like I said I'm not anti marriage just not sure the juice is worth the squeeze. In fact my best friend stopped by for supper last night and said his wife just filed for divorce. This will be his 2nd.

 

As long as you don't lose the feeling you had when you first met, your marriage will last. 

[Bankbeater]

Last month it was 35 years for me.  Our champagne flutes are on a shelf in the living room and they have our wedding date etched in them. Every November I look at them to make sure I remember our anniversary.

[T-Billy]

Married 12. Together 17. 

The main thing to remember is that in every marriage there's one person who's always right. The other one's the husband. 😉

[Mike L]

11 hours ago, DitchPanda said:

I appreciate your understanding on this...I find that I get alot of snarky comments from people older than me on my feelings\apprehension towards  marriage. I'm not sure of your age be seeing as you've been marries 18 years longer than I've been alive  its great to see an elder statesmen understand where I'm coming from. Like I said I'm not anti marriage just not sure the juice is worth the squeeze. In fact my best friend stopped by for supper last night and said his wife just filed for divorce. This will be his 2nd.

When it takes 2 to squeeze, the juice is just that much sweeter
 

It seems you and your gal have a greater understanding of what it means to have a more sustainable relationship than a lot of people who have a piece of paper to define thier union. 
You don’t need anything else. 
 

 

 

Mike