Divorce

[KSanford33]

So I've been away for a few months because I'm going through a divorce. I won't get into the specifics, but I'm happy to be in a place where I can now distract myself with fishing. Although at this point in the year, it's more about distracting myself on this forum. I'll probably post something in the flea market to buy some flukes, but other than that, I'm happy to be back.

[J Francho]

Sorry you have to go through it. It's a tedious and contentious process designed by lawyers to benefit lawyers. 

[A-Jay]

Sorry to hear you're on that road.

I did it several years ago.

Big Stress. 

Over the course of several months mine went something like this . . .

I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you…..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand.

Hope yours goes better.

btw I did re-marry a few years later.

And to a Human this time.

Better.

Good Luck

A-Jay

[ike8120]

Been there done that, Just hang in there.

[RipzLipz]

@KSanford33 Been there, done that & just try to find comfort in that at some point all the negativity & bad feelings will pass. Like most downers in life, it just takes time. For a year or two afterwards I behaved as if the answers were at the bottom of a beer bottle, (begin sarcasm) made some really smart decisions (end sarcasm) & finally decided no one but me was going to make my life any better. There may be bumps in the road ahead & you might fall down but it’s how many times you stand back up & continue walking that matters.

 

For me it was a complete reset but I wouldn’t change a thing. The trophy I thought I’d hooked turned out to be nothing but a bugle-mouthed bottom feeder when I got it in the sunlight. Decided to let that ball of slime be some other angler’s problem. That was 20 years ago & she’s currently wallowing in a bottle of vodka. Good for her, I’m fishing.

 

Sure, I’ve got some regrets, I’m human & far from perfect. But my mistress has always been fishing & she may disappoint me now & then but she’s always there for me, rain or shine.

 

Best of luck & tight lines but most importantly keep your head up. 👍

[LonnieP]

I know the feeling. Going through my second one right now.

[Bird]

I've helped my sister through 3 and they've all been a nasty money pit and court battle.

Wish you the best.

 

[ElGuapo928]

Been through it myself, the most important thing to remember is to just keep moving forward. 
 

Best wishes
 

 

[DaubsNU1]

Hang in there @KSanford33! Divorces are tough times for sure. 

 

I was married for 18 years, walked away from four different career paths to support my the former Mrs. Daubs as she got through college and medical school. We had two wonderful daughters. I was even a stay at home dad for a few years. 

 

Things didn't turn out in the end (2009), and she willingly gave me custody of the kiddos. Worse couple years of my life. 

 

But in the end, daughters survived and thrived, I met a wonderful woman in 2011 (she had two boys), we combined our families and canines. 

 

Hang in there...better days ahead! 

[BigAngus752]

Very smart getting that first marriage out of the way while you're young! 

 

Seriously though, I've been married 3 times.  Let me give you my best advice. 

1.  Grab a mirror.  "My ex did whatever, blah, blah".  That gets you nowhere.  You're broken (we all are) work on you.  I had a marriage counselor tell me, "You can't be content in a relationship until you're content with yourself, alone".  Wise man. 

2.  Have faith.  I choose faith in God, but have faith in something.  Especially the future.  After two divorces I found THE one.  I never made it past five years in any relationship.  I'm 17 years into this woman and I cannot live without her.  If something happened to her I would just cease to exist.  You will succeed. 

 

You got this.  Go catch some fish!

[Crow Horse]

Been through it several times. One door closes and others will open up in time. To sum it up:

 

Love is grand. Divorce is 500 grand.........