More Neighbor issues…

[N Florida Mike]

A couple of months ago a neighbor cussed out my grandson about our 2 dogs barking for a few minutes at 10:30 at night, largely because he was shining them with a Q beam, and yelling at them. I got involved at the tail end of it, and it’s been quiet with him since . We have tried to keep the dogs in as much as possible since then, so that issue seems to have died down.

The niegbor across the road gets upset if we park our vehicles on the road, or even in our strip of yard by the road. He’ll come over and tell us to move them!  of course, I’m never home when he does it .But he’ll have people over and they park in the road in front of our house …

So yesterday  the niegbor across the canal cussed at my son in law because he was working on his motorcycle around 6 pm and didn’t like the noise I guess.   This nieghbor is the one that owns the “ bumpus dogs”, as I call them. It seemed like any time I would walk out back to fish , they would open the door and the 5 dogs would come pouring out barking at me.  I’m frankly shocked that , of all people, they would get upset over a few minutes of motorcycle noise, and we’ve put up with their dogs now for years.

We were here first , and “ their rambling don’t rattle me”, but what is the problem? What’s also strange is that they know I’m the owner , but they won’t just come ask me nicely. I haven’t ever threatened anyone , and have tried to be a good nieghbor. Now there’s a tension that we don’t want.

I have tried to maintain the peace and love my nieghbors, but this is getting out of hand…We aren’t  “ that nieghbor”, but are getting treated that way.   I don’t care what they think of us, but  I  don’t need or want the drama.  Maybe we’re too red-neckish for what they want things to look like ? We had a family discussion about it and can’t understand it.

Thanks for letting me vent. I suspect many of you have similar issues. 

[Way north bass guy]

Sounds like not a fun situation. We had neighbours that moved in a couple years ago that were quite frankly, terrible people all around. It took us all of about 4 months to make the decision to get the heck out of there, before I ended up doing something I regretted. Sold and moved, and couldn’t be happier. I now have 25 acres on a dead end road and own all the property on either side of me as far as I can see. 
It can be a very stressful deal moving, but sometimes the payoff is much, much better than simply staying and trying to tough it out. 

[N Florida Mike]

1 hour ago, Way north bass guy said:

Sounds like not a fun situation. We had neighbours that moved in a couple years ago that were quite frankly, terrible people all around. It took us all of about 4 months to make the decision to get the heck out of there, before I ended up doing something I regretted. Sold and moved, and couldn’t be happier. I now have 25 acres on a dead end road and own all the property on either side of me as far as I can see. 
It can be a very stressful deal moving, but sometimes the payoff is much, much better than simply staying and trying to tough it out. 

I’ve been thinking about it but financially don’t see a way right now.  I suspect that nearly anywhere you go this will be a reality- except maybe a situation like yours. And at the end of the day,  I still live on a lake that has good fishing…?

[GaryH]

Get a group of your tournament friends to come over and park their trucks and boats off to the side of your road. Then have a cookout and see who comes over to complain. But in all seriousness Mike that sucks to have bad neighbors. I’m fortunate also to be away from people.

[Woody B]

I may have told you about this in the last "neighbor" thread.  I've got a shooting range in my back yard.  One neighbor (who's a drunk) got mad and called the cops one Saturday.  He's ~1/4 mile away from me, and probably has to listen real good to hear the shooting.  Nothing about it is illegal, or unsafe.  It just so happens our local Sheriff is a childhood friend of mine.  The next week the Sheriff, and several deputies came and shoot at my range.  (all in their Sheriffs department cars and uniforms).    The rest of my neighbors are cool.  

[gim]

3 hours ago, N Florida Mike said:

So yesterday  the niegbor across the canal cussed at my son in law because he was working on his motorcycle around 6 pm and didn’t like the noise I guess.  

If this is the sole reason for the drama this time, that’s bogus. 6pm is a perfectly normal time of day to be doing that sort of thing. I’d ignore him the best I could and continue on with your life.

 

As far as the parking situation…at my last house I occasionally had issues with my neighbor parking in the road on my side in front of the house. He could certainly park there, but he also had a 3 car garage and a 3 car driveway, so there was no reason other than pure laziness. I can recall about 5 times when he had people over and I had some trouble backing my boat into the garage. He was not a ***** or anything about it, but I don’t think he realized how much space is needed to back in properly.

[Deephaven]

Sounds like it is time for a neighborhood barbeque at your house.  

[BigAngus752]

5 minutes ago, Deephaven said:

Sounds like it is time for a neighborhood barbeque at your house.  

100%.  Get some beer and some food.  Make a special point to personally invite them face to face. 

[Bird]

We're suppose to love our neighbors but I gotta problem..... don't have any.

 

[N Florida Mike]

54 minutes ago, Deephaven said:

Sounds like it is time for a neighborhood barbeque at your house.  

I was thinking more along the lines of a fish fry. ?

 

[DitchPanda]

2 minutes ago, N Florida Mike said:

I was thinking more along the lines of a fish fry. ?

 

I think this is a great idea. You be the bigger man, go out of your way to be friendly...if it doesn't go well then you know they are just jerks.

[Deephaven]

Yep, does wonders.  Fish fry works!

[TnRiver46]

I could write a very long book about all the neighbors I’ve had over the years haha. 
 

mike, I say it’s all water off a ducks back what they think. It’s a shame they have to go cussing at your family. That stupidity could easily be fixed but it’s illegal and your hands would hurt afterwards . 
 

just keep on keepin’ on, people are crazy 

[N Florida Mike]

As a side note, my daughter thinks they don’t like us because our pool is like the black lagoon- everything broke on it and we just can’t afford to fix it. I could do some of it, but have lots of other “fish to fry “ at this time.

I told her they can’t see our pool because it’s higher than they can see.

I will admit that I put a couple bass in there to keep the bullfrogs out, and a few bream to feed the bass also.

Maybe they saw me catch one of the bass out of it…??‍♂️

 

 

[Captain Phil]

Packs of dogs barking?  Cars parked along the street?  Black lagoon pools. Shooting range in the back yard!  Sounds like a great Real Estate Ad.  ? 

 

 

[N Florida Mike]

6 hours ago, Captain Phil said:

Packs of dogs barking?  Cars parked along the street?  Black lagoon pools. Shooting range in the back yard!  Sounds like a great Real Estate Ad.  ? 

 

 

I’m here for the fishing…?

[Captain Phil]

My wife was in Real Estate for nearly twenty years. She sold lakefront property out of her office in Mount Dora. I assisted her many times when customers had questions about the lakes.  Buyers are all different.  Some want to live in tightly controlled developments where the home owners association controls everything from the condition of your lawn to the color of your front door.  Other buyers want no control whatsoever.  If you purchase a home without community control, there is nothing to keep your neighbors from doing something you may not like.   Dogs are one of the most contentious issues.  It is common in Lake County to drive by a 70 year old mobile home with cars in the yard to get to a million dollar lakefront estate.  I have been in homes where the dog smell was so bad I had to leave.   I have seen home bathtubs sitting on concrete blocks.  I have also been in homes that my wife sold for millions of dollars.  A home is the biggest investment most people make.  Your home is valued by what's around it.  Keep this in mind before you buy a home in a neighborhood where your neighbors don't or can't take care of their property.

[Sam]

Wow! So sorry to read about everyone's neighbor hood adventures.

 

We are so lucky to have our new neighbors. A great family of four super kids and a father that is a good guy and a mother who works her fanny off with the kids, husband and two dogs.

 

Our old neighbors had two girls who stayed inside all the time; he was a music professor at VCU and had his wife mow the grass as the lawn mower's noise hurt his hearing; and they were some what off center so I named them the Addams Family, and each had their own name.

 

This new family who moved in a year ago is a lot of fun and we don't complain about all the toys and contractors' supplies and equipment the father has all over the place, on their property and on our property. He hunts behind our house and has a garden at the back of our field. 

 

In fact, we let them put up a Zip-Line on our trees so the kids could have a fun time with it.

 

I guess my wife and I need to count our blessings as our neighbors are really great!

[N Florida Mike]

I should say the neighbor on the other side ( who is from Virginia), has been a great neighbor. He knocked on my door and told us when my truck tail light was stuck on, helped me fixed our fence, and worked with us when our dogs got into his backyard and another time when his dogs got into our backyard. He even pressure washed the front of our house for free !!

All it took was a knock on the door , willingness to help, and a positive attitude…. It’s not rocket science !??‍♂️

[Captain Phil]

The best neighborhoods are where people have similar interests and expectations.  My neighborhood is mostly retirees.  We all have projects of some kind.  My next door neighbor is building a small airplane in his garage.  I have restored a number of classic cars in mine.   We both make some noise during the day.  We both stop working after 6 PM.   Most everyone is in bed by 10 PM.  Homes on our block are well kept, but not exceptionally so.  There are no kids.  Most people have dogs, but they don't bark excessively.  We have a home owner's association, but the rules are not that strictly enforced.  We have lived here for 25 years and have no plans to move.

 

Before you buy a home in any neighborhood, look around.  Would you want to live next to yourself?  If the people and families are like you, you will most likely fit in.  If not, don't move there.

[Mobasser]

Mike, I would ignore this guy until he says something directly to you. Even then, try to be calm but stand your ground. I hope you can get this resolved soon.

[Dirtyeggroll]

The only way to overcome this will be to get to know their problems and them get to know your problems.

 

You have to separate yourself from the things you have or do that they don’t like. You have to get to know them. They  may never like your parking in the yard or the swamp pool - but that doesn’t mean they can’t like you. I guarantee you they see life from a different perspective than you do and it’s a great opportunity to learn something new and for them to as well. 

 

Invite them over or out. Make a damned effort to become their friend.

 

 

[deaknh03]

So you're in fueds with all your neighbors? I see a common thread.

[N Florida Mike]

It’s calmed down now. The grumpy ol nieghbor finally started coming out again after 6 weeks. He doesn’t ever look my way or say anything. What’s weird is he’s told me he’s hard of hearing when I would speak with him across the 150 feet or so of lake between our houses.

But he can hear a dog from the inside? 

The “bumpus dog” nieghbors have started being friendly again from across the canal…

Meanwhile , elsewhere in the area…

The last landowning family in the area has sold out. The 3 wooded areas are all being developed. Hundreds of apartments, condos, and cheap houses. I told my wife it’s just getting too crowded, and that I wish we could get away from it all. She said if I retire someday we could sell the house and get a trailer out in the country somewhere. Couldn’t take the lake with me though…?.