Bye bye BaitMonkey

[MidwestBassAttack]

Well folks, looks like my tackle fun is over indefinitely. The past week has been littered with complete hell. My spouse (soon to be ex) has been struggling with alcoholism for a number of years and as a result, required me to contact our local PD back in September. She was removed from the house, placed in jail, and has three domestic assault and battery charges against her. Imagine trying to explain that to our three kids ages 5, 8, and 10.

 

On top of the divorce proceedings, the past week (Monday) she admitted to infidelity and within the same week, I was let go from my job (Global EHS Director) on Thursday with zero severance. 
 

All I have to say is the the fishing gods better bless me with a double-digit come open water season. Until then, I’ll be running into the boards posting as usual but living vicariously through all of you in the latest tackle purchase threads!

 

 

[MN Fisher]

Sucks right now, I know.

 

We're here for you man, and eventually things will get better.

 

Give those kids a hug, make sure they know you love them...

[Fishlegs]

So sorry to hear that. I can't imagine how difficult that would be. Do your best to take care of yourself, & the kids. They will need a good example to look up to so they don't follow her down that dark path. You can do it!

[new2BC4bass]

Sorry to hear that.  Wish you the best of luck getting a new job.  A well paying one because babysitters make more money than I do. 

 

I've been a catch and release guy for a long time except when visiting in Florida.  My B-I-L expects us to keep all legal fish so we can have friends over for a fish fry before wife and I head back north.  Don't know how your children feel about eating fish (ate plenty growing up), but hoping you catch a few double-digit ones for a possible meal or two.  We didn't catch ones that big except for the occasional catfish.  Which BTW are good eating.

 

Combine enjoyment (fishing) and putting food on the table.  A win-win.  Especially if your children enjoy fishing as well.  Personally started fishing at five.  However, today's youngsters need to be catching fish in order to stay interested.  Hopefully you know of a place where that is possible.

 

Again...wishing you the best.

[TOXIC]

Keep your spirits up and keep pushing ahead.  Things will turn around.  Always a kind ear here, never hesitate to contact if you need to talk or vent.  

[Dwight Hottle]

Tough circumstances. Just take one day at a time until you can see some light at the end of the tunnel. It will get better. 

[AlabamaSpothunter]

It always gets better friend, ALWAYS!   There is always a silver lining to things like this, and for you it's finally getting rid of the cancer in your life.    Alcoholics are incredibly hard to deal with, you'll recover, your finances will recover, and most importantly your kids will recover.

 

That door has closed, but the new one opening is full of promise and happiness, just keep pressing on.  You've been dealt a terrible hand, but men weaker than you have overcame it.   

 

 

[Darth-Baiter]

this, like all thing shall pass.

 

but d**n...focus on the kids.  they need to know you got their backs..more than ever.   the bait monkey can suck it.  he isnt even on the radar anymore.  not now..but later.  for sure. 

 

i would argue you got another "monkey" off your back.  i cant imagine living like that.  deep breath friend.

[FishTank]

Good luck. I have had friends and family go through it and every situation is different. Good news is you are an adult that gets to start with a clean slate. You know what needs to be done. Be the example and the reason.  

 

[newapti5]

This is tough. I don't know if you're religious, but when life gets tough on me, I am often reminded of 1 Corinthian 10:13: "God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it."  God bless!

[padon]

well you know you did the right thing. in the long run the kids will be better off not being exposed to that behavior. ive been divorced with a young son and at the time thought it was the worst thing in the world. my son prospered because we were both able to put him first in our decisions even if it wasnt best for us. im now married to a wonderful woman who i feel is my true soulmate and that we were put together by god. as far as the job just persevere things will turn around you cant keep a good man down.

[jitterbug127]

I went through pretty much this exact situation 7 years ago. It sucked. I still remember that pain. Being married to an addict is a miserable experience, and I felt so much better after it. There is power in prayer, God always has a plan. I’d say work out as much as you can and  focus on doing the things you love. Both of those helped me though my divorce.  

[NorthernBasser]

Dang, that's tough. Keep your head up, bud. Any time you feel like venting etc, we're all here. This is one big family. 

[Masaccio]

Heart goes out to you and your kids. I’m an adult child of alcoholics. Several, actually.  Both parents and a succession of subsequent marriages of my mother’s that repeated the horror. Kids can need specialized professional attention to recover and get back on their own track, as you probably already know. So great that you reached out to your community for sharing and support. 

[Jmilburn76]

Keep your head up brother and take it one day at a time.  

[Swamp Girl]

Loss of wife + loss of job = a heckuva wallop

 

As others wrote, focus on your kids and I'm thinking good thoughts for you as you find your next job. I'm even thinking good thoughts for your wife too, hoping she can beat alcoholism before it takes even more from her.

[TimTheGearNerd]

Hey man, hang in there. 
 

Things are going to get better. 
 

The fishing gods are going to give you a state record. Looks like you already have a  few good PB with the 5, 8, and 10. That’s got to be like at least a 100# bag. 
 

Maybe good things are coming your way. 

[RB 77]

Hang in there brother, things will get better. 

[Junk Fisherman]

Sorry to hear that man.  Fishing will be there when you're ready.    

[Bankbeater]

Man that's rough.  Take it one day at a time, things will turn around before you know it.

[TnRiver46]

Praying for you man! Wow. 
 

I’d imagine with skills enough to become a global EHS director in the first place, you will be able to find a great job. 
 

We are here for ya buddy 

 

[volzfan59]

Keep plugging away at it brother, things will get better. Along with other's, I'll be praying for you.

[MontclairDave]

On 12/21/2022 at 7:56 AM, MidwestBassAttack said:

Well folks, looks like my tackle fun is over indefinitely. The past week has been littered with complete hell. My spouse (soon to be ex) has been struggling with alcoholism for a number of years and as a result, required me to contact our local PD back in September. She was removed from the house, placed in jail, and has three domestic assault and battery charges against her. Imagine trying to explain that to our three kids ages 5, 8, and 10.

 

On top of the divorce proceedings, the past week (Monday) she admitted to infidelity and within the same week, I was let go from my job (Global EHS Director) on Thursday with zero severance. 
 

All I have to say is the the fishing gods better bless me with a double-digit come open water season. Until then, I’ll be running into the boards posting as usual but living vicariously through all of you in the latest tackle purchase threads!

 

 

You’re clearly in the throes of a lot of huge challenges and if you can figure out what you have control over (not a heck of a lot), it may help you focus on the next right steps for you and your kids. For what it’s worth, when stuff starts getting taken away from me for whatever reason, I make a gratitude list of what I DO have in my life. It may sound like a crock but give it a shot. It may bring you some peace. 
 

Also, when life gets this challenging, it’s easy to assume that the ****-show will last forever. It doesn’t: as many others here have said, this too shall pass, brother.

[MidwestBassAttack]

Hi everyone,

 

I can’t tell you how appreciative I am with everyone’s words of encouragement. I’ve gotten several PM’s from members offering their support, words of wisdom, and even tackle offerings. You all have reminded me there are still great, caring people in this world and that this hurdle isn’t the norm.

 

I’m forever indebted to the community here and the companionship so many of you have offered in reminding me that no one goes through these storms alone.

 

Thank you so much and Happy Holidays to all of you,

 

Steve (dad/me), Charlotte (10), Greyson (8), and Maverick (5)

[GreenPig]

You're doing the right thing. I grew up surrounded by addicts and no child should be forced to endure that mess. As a child, coming home, you never knew what you were walking into. The stability for you and the kids will be a good thing. Chin up and keep moving forward.