Men best friends vs women

[clayton86]

It seems like men who have best/good friends are different than women who do. It seems guys we can go months or years not talking or seeing a friend and they are still good/best friends. 
 

Women seem at least I’ve noticed with my fiancé anyways have to be like always in contact hanging out talking what not. 
 

my best friend got married yesterday and I was one of the groomsmen and she didn’t understand how because Clay and I don’t hang out anymore we’ll shoot eachother fishing pics once in a while but that’s about it. Come hunting season we’ll hang out opening day but that’s about it. She just doesn’t get it. Were just brothers from a different mothers haha. Growing up we were inseparable our birthdays are 5 days apart and we sorta share the same name haha. 
 

Anyone else notice that or have friends they don’t see or talk to in forever but if something came up would drop everything and be there for them. 

[DitchPanda]

 Absolutely. That's how life works...as you get older the job gets more stressful and families grow so hanging with your friends kind of goes by the wayside. I've got several buddies im close with that I fish with as much as we can but that's not super often these days. Got two buddies that are brothers that are as you say my brothers from another mother.   We've been friends for 20+ years Timm and I were 18 and Jon was 16 when we all met. Jon lives about 30 miles away but we haven't seen each other in a few years...I've got a demanding job and he's got 4 kids. Timm has 2 kids and owns a tattoo shop in Kansas City..haven't seen him in years either. We all talk quite often and id do anything to help them.

 I'm kind of ticked at my best buddy Brian at the moment for cancelling plans too often. We aren't really talking right now but we've been buds for 15+ years so this will pass. Even with being ticked at him I'm come running if he needed something.  That's how friendship is supposed to work in my estimation.

[Captain Phil]

My best friend is my wife.  We have been together since we were kids.  We've seen good times, bad times, health, sickness, celebration, tragedy, youth and now old age. Through it all, our friendship has never wavered.   We have been truly blessed.  ☺️

[Deleted account]

Are these men assigned that gender at birth we are talking about?...

[gim]

I used to talk, see, and hang out with my friends. Then we all started having kids and that pretty much ended. It’s kind of sad actually. We shouldn’t be sacrificing friendships to raise families.

 

My dog is definitely my best friend now. She is excited to see me every day and wants to go anywhere I go, at any time.

[A-Jay]

Military service offered me an opportunity to build friendships that have & will no doubt

last a lifetime.  I had the distinct privilege of serving with quite a few fantastic men & women during various assignments.   Many of these bonds are real & deep. 

There's a sort of 'difference' for me between my civilian 'friends'

and the people I served with. 

There just is. 

A-Jay

 

[slonezp]

I have 2 people I would consider best friends, 1 male and 1 female, neither of which I speak to often. When we do speak or hang out, be it a month between, a year between, or even longer, the conversation carries on like we just spoke yesterday. Our lives have all taken different direction yet, I'd give my left nut for both of them.

[GTN-NY]

I’ve had 2 best friends in my life. First one died 10 years ago from skin cancer. We hardly ever talked unless we were out fishing but could jump right back into each other’s live at a seconds notice. We were friends for almost 20 years. 
My other best friend of the last 10 years died 2 years ago of breast cancer. We were inseparable. Talked everyday. My wife thinks she was her best friend but I know better lol.  I really miss her. 
After she died I realized I had no other friends besides my wife which is good but not the same

[Randy Price]

Great topic!  In the past I had had several work "friends" that enjoyed hunting and fishing like I do.  We would get together several times a year for little fishing "tournaments" and have a ball.  This went on for 5-7 years.  Then people left the company for other jobs and that sadly ended everything.  I tried to keep the "friendships" alive but came to realize that I valued the friendships more than they did and finally let the past be the past.  Everyone moved on.  Why is it when people change jobs it's almost like they died?  Kinda blows!  

[Bird]

I've had the same best friend my entire life.

We both love bass fishing and have been fishing together since the late 70's and talk on the phone almost every evening.

He is a extremely mellow, kind gentleman and a fish catching machine.

 

Ironically, my wife has had the same best friend for about the same time frame.

They see each other almost every day as this fine lady is the branch office administrator for my wife's business of 18 years.

[Captain Phil]

46 minutes ago, Randy Price said:

Why is it when people change jobs it's almost like they died?  Kinda blows!  

 

Back when my grandfather was alive, I took him to the neighborhood where he grew up.  It was a small farming town in Eastern Pennsylvania. He was in his late eighties and what he told me I remember to this day.  He said, "Everyone who I knew then is dead."   We drove around and passed an old lady rocking on her front porch.  He ask me to stop, got out of the car and walked up her driveway.  Halfway up the driveway, she called him by name.  It was a great day in my life watching them talk about old times.  I have tracked down most of the friends I had as a teenager.  Many are not with us.  Some are sick and can't even come to the phone.  My father lived to be 90.  I've got away to go yet.  

[Bluebasser86]

22 hours ago, A-Jay said:

Military service offered me an opportunity to build friendships that have & will no doubt

last a lifetime.  I had the distinct privilege of serving with quite a few fantastic men & women during various assignments.   Many of these bonds are real & deep. 

There's a sort of 'difference' for me between my civilian 'friends'

and the people I served with. 

There just is. 

A-Jay

 

It's a different feeling when you're putting your life on the line with another person. You go through so much with those people. I occasionally see people from my past department and the joy it brings getting to see just that they're alive and well is pretty amazing.