Following in footsteps/history repeating itself

[clayton86]

So my minds been going 1000 mph lately especially since Friday night/Saturday morning. I was repairing a broken guide on a friends Dobyns rod and I got a call from my aunt at 1115pm. I knew deep down when I seen it was her calling me that my dad had passed. I’ve been kinda expecting that news and trying my best to prepare myself for it but I failed….miserably. 
 

Today when one of my other aunts was visiting talking about him and everything she had mentioned my dads accident and my grandfathers. Both were in workplace accidents my dad was hit and pinned by a tow motor breaking his back and my grandfather was in a 3 semi truck accident being the middle truck and crushed. Both were about my age when I was hit by the F150 on the job 4 years when they were in their accidents. 
 

Both died at 63years old after spending 6 weeks in the hospital and both predicted their ends. I guess my grandfather said something to my aunt when visiting him that he wasn’t gonna make it through the weekend and he didn’t. My father same thing Tuesday said basically same thing more or less. 
 

So now my minds in a whirl between losing my father and now knowing all these coincidences I’m pretty much on the same path. So got 28 years left. I said this to my mom when I asked how old my dad was in his accident and she told me and I replied about my accident and how I’ve got 28 years left. She smacked me before giving me a hug but I can’t help but think about it. 
 

 

 

sorry just rambling on a few hours sleep mind racing about that. 

[DitchPanda]

Sorry to hear about your dad. Understandably when people we love pass away its hard not to start to wonder about our own mortality. Hopefully you can break the cycle and outlast your 28 year prediction.

[Mike L]

So Sorry to hear about your Dad. 
 

I did the same as you when my Dad and Ma passed, started doing the math. 
It did me no good and it won’t for you. 
 

Live and enjoy each day, the math means nothing 

 

 

 

 

Mike

[A-Jay]

Sorry about your Dad Clayton.

A-Jay

[Jigfishn10]

My condolences. 

[Bankbeater]

Sorry to hear about your Dad. 

[Tennessee Boy]

Very sorry for your loss.  63 is way too early.

[detroit1]

Sorry Clayton, may peace be with you and your family.

[12poundbass]

Sorry for your loss.

 

That is a coincidence that will definitely get your attention, but it’s just that a coincidence.   I’m a firm believer in when it’s your time there’s not much you can do. I had stage 4 cancer at age 18 and the doctors said I was a matter of months from cashing in my chips. Just wasn’t my time. Your accident 4 years ago, just wasn’t your time. 
 

My takeaway from my situation is I’m not going to let my mortality consume my life or worry me. I’m going to live my life to the fullest, be the best husband, father, and person I can be so when it time for me to cash in those chips I won’t have any regrets. 

[VolFan]

My condolences on losing your father. I lost mine 7 years ago, and still think of him every day - my mom is in poor health now, so it’s only a matter of time .

 

It’s normal to take stock of our own mortality when someone close to us passes. You can only learn from their path - whether or not that same path is yours (outside of genetics) depends on what you learned from their life and passing, and then, and more importantly, what you do with what you learned.

[Woody B]

Condolences from me and Mrs B.  You and your family will be in our prayers.

 

None of us know when we'll be leaving.   I wouldn't worry about turning 63 in 28 years.   Enjoy life.  You may live to be 130.  

[TnRiver46]

Praying for y’all. 

[Jmilburn76]

Sorry for your loss, my condolences to you and your family.

[Dwight Hottle]

Clayton sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. 

 

[slonezp]

Sorry about your pops. Don't get into the frame of mind that your life is going to end at 63. Your quality of life is directly related to your mental state of mind. 

 

I do relate though. not for me but for my pops. Dad is 82. Dad had 2 siblings and both died at 83. This runs thru my head all the time. Every time the phone rings with his number, or if one of my siblings call, I can't help but think it's about dad.