Dementia

[clayton86]

Visited my dad today original plan was to bring him home from the nursing home/rehab is been in for a month. After some talking with him my aunt the head nurse and social worker we all told him it was best if he just gave it a few more days there till we got stuff in order with aides and his apartment. 
 

After convincing him to stay a few more days just talking with him and watching him try and just drink a glass of water I started to notice a few things. I think he’s starting to get dementia or Alzheimer’s. 
 

Granted he’s in a home so I’m sure that isn’t helping but I been noticing stuff more now. Took him almost 10 minutes to get a cup of water to his mouth refusing help or a straw just to have his beard knock it out out of his hands and spill all over him. Then trouble just holding conversations. Gave him a hug and said bye he asked me to get him more water and when I got back with his water he asked where my mom was. They’ve been divorced since I was like 3 so 30+ years since he’s been with my mom and I’ve had a falling out with her so I haven’t seen or talked to my mom in years but that’s another topic.  After telling him moms in California last I knew he asked about aunt Debbie that the 3 of us were just there visiting him I told him Debbie is in Florida that it’s just me visiting. At that point I was doing all I could  to not cry infront of my dad gave him another hug and left. 
 

Sorry kinda rambling just venting bout my dad issues. My aunt and I are trying to get everything in order for him to get out of the home but then I started really noticing stuff today and it’s hitting that even if he goes home he will be back and for good most likely in no time. 

[volzfan59]

That's tough stuff brother, I'll be praying for you and your dad. Lost my dad to dementia/Alzheimer's years ago. I remember how tough it was. Hang in there.

[Columbia Craw]

You ramble and vent and share.  I care about what you are facing and your Dad’s struggles.  I wish I had more to give.

[Glenn]

Sorry to hear you're going through this. Unfortunately, you're joining a big club. I lost my stepmother a few years ago to dementia.  My dad was married to her for 43 years.  Last time I saw her, she didn't know who I was.  That was a tough pill to swallow.  Hope it doesn't happen to you.

[Mike L]

Sorry to hear this. 
 

Try to keep the faith and do the best you can. That’s all you can do. 
 

Prayers for your Dad and your family 

 

 

 

 

Mike

 

[scaleface]

Man , this is tough to go through .Sounds like my Dad . He had Lewy Bodies dementia . Look it up . Its misdiagnosed much of the time . 

[Dwight Hottle]

Clayton is there any chance he is drugged up & that might be causing his dementia symptoms? Good luck with the outcome either way. 

 

[clayton86]

2 hours ago, Dwight Hottle said:

Clayton is there any chance he is drugged up & that might be causing his dementia symptoms? Good luck with the outcome either way. 

 

Probably is I visited him again today for Father’s Day and he seemed much better. Still struggled with simple stuff I ended up needing to help him eat like he was a baby but he was back to his normal self with his smart a** remarks joking about me feeding him haha. 
 

I know he’s without his insulin pump while there and they give him tons of sweets even though he’s diabetic I guess his blood sugar was over 600 the other day my aunt said. 
 

He’s got bed sores I guess he’s only been out of bed and in his chair once in the 2.5 weeks he’s been there….little back story being diabetic he’s lost both legs first one 12 years ago below the knee 2nd leg was 2 years ago above the knee. He’s had several heart attacks over the years and a stroke last winter. 
 

He’s always on lots of meds I’m sure being in the nursing home they are pumping him with even more. 
 

hopefully he can get discharged this week. They have him in a small bed and no trapeze he has the bed they have on order for him since he got there and the trapeze at home but they are on back order to get to the home they said. So he wants to get home to see his cats and have all the stuff he needs but can’t get in the nursing home/rehab. Hopefully he stays off cigarettes once home we’ve been cleaning his apartment and washing all his laundry and sheets to get the smoke smell gone. He wants to quit he hasn’t had a cigarette in over a month but this isn’t the first time heck isn’t the 5th time he’s been in a hospital or home he can’t smoke in for over a month and goes back to it. 

[slonezp]

Tough going. My dad has been deteriorating physically the past few years and it was kicked into high gear after mom passed. Dad still has his wits but has lost his short term memory. He'll sometimes call multiple times a day to tell me the same thing he told me earlier. 

 

All we can do be around to take care of those who took care of us and be an example for our kids who will eventually be in the same boat we are in right now.

[TnRiver46]

This has happened with almost all of my family members and my boss also has memory loss, everyday is Groundhog Day. You can’t fix it, just gotta roll with it. My grandma thought she was on a train car for the last year or two of her life. After arguing with her about it, we finally just hopped on the train car with her and she seemed much happier 

[clayton86]

Idk if it runs in my family I know my fiancés grandmothers both had it or went through it. My dads side is cursed with diabetes and heart issues every single person has diabetes on that side the family but some how I don’t *knock on wood* all the men have heart problems also.

 

My moms side the family everyone we’ll just about anyways has or had cancer even both my sisters but knock on wood again I don’t that I know of anyways. 

 

My accident is the worse I’ve been through and deal with still. My hips are always in pain from my pelvis being shattered. 
 

My dad seems to be doing better when talking to him on phone I haven’t been able to visit him since Father’s Day with my work schedule. This is the longest gone without the nursing home calling me reporting he fell out of bed again. When I visited him on Father’s Day the bed remote was out of reach his phone was on the table with the nurse call button all stuff he couldn’t have put there that the nurses had to have moved on him. I gave every thing to him or put in his reach. All the times he’s fallen out of bed it was while trying to reach the call button to get a nurse to his room.