A year (or so) in the life of ww2farmer

[ww2farmer]

I have been here a long time,  but not real active the past year or so......and for good reason.  What a personal life Rollercoaster it's been. 

The short version: I'm doing well, my two daughters are doing well and are with me, and things are moving along ok given the circumstances. 

 

The TLDR version: Late last spring,  after 20 years of marriage and a 30 year relationship that began in high school,  my ex wife and I separated.....this is where the fact is stranger than fiction part comes in. Without being to specific, let's just say I found out that for quite some time prior to me leaving,  she was leading a second,  secret life, under aliases on line, and traveling under the guise of "work trips" to Ohio and Wisconsin hooking up with these dudes she was scamming. But wait, there's more lol.....This past January I got a call from the Police,  they urged me to move back into the marital home, and take full custody of my daughters,  telling me my ex had fled the state, abandoned the girls, and was unlikely to return, and she had been gone, leaving the girls alone more tines than not for the better part of 9 months. I  had my girls on the weekends and whenever they wanted to come to my place the entire time I lived elsewhere,  and not one SINGLE word of this was mentioned to me , other family members,  school staff, or anyone else the entire time,  as they were having their phones,  and other things held over their head to keep quiet about it. 

 

Back to January.....Without hesitation,  I break my lease on the rental I was living in, and move back home lock stock and barrel. After about 2 weeks of being back,  getting settled,  and dealing with two very hurt and confused teenage daughters.....the police show up again, and tell me everything.  The just of it is.....her secret life has been going on since at least 2018, and to fund it, during that time period she embezzled $105k + dollars from her employer, and when they moved on her to arrest,  she fled to one of out of state boyfriends.  They eventually coaxed her back in February,  charged her with an arms list of felonies,  and was convicted of most of them in  mid March.  In two weeks she reports to the State of NY to begin her prison sentence.  

 

In the meantime I have tried my best to make things better for my girls, and we're getting by OK. They have stability and a responsible parent in the house for the first time in a year or so,  No more bribery or blackmail,  and hopefully this summer is much much better for them than last. They don't talk about their mother much,  and she's had little to nothing to do with them since January....and I don't force it. I'm just here for them.

[Dwight Hottle]

Glad your doing as well as you can. Those are pretty tough circumstances to deal with. 

[TnRiver46]

Oh. My. Word. I’m glad you’re back with your daughters! I have been hearing about very similar situations from different friends here and there, it seems to be some kind of pattern that quite a few people follow. Absolutely crazy. Hopefully the correction makes her realize living with y’all wasn’t so bad! 

[12poundbass]

Holy cow! I’m glad you’re back with your girls and I hope you and them heal quickly. 

[Catt]

Missed ya!

 

Praying for you & your girls!

[J._Bricker]

Sorry to hear about your situation @ww2farmer, your daughters are fortunate to have you as a stable and understanding father as the three of you work through these unforeseen set of circumstances. 

[slonezp]

Crazy stuff.

[BigAngus752]

What a blessing you are for your girls. 

[A-Jay]

So much going on there ~

Life's messy sometimes.

You have plenty of support here.

One day at a time I guess.

A-Jay

[DitchPanda]

Yeah that's alot to chew on man..but it sounds like you have it under control. Keep fighting the good fight sir.

[jbsoonerfan]

Sorry to hear about your situation and sorry you had to go through that. Congrats on keeping your head held high and being their for your daughters, they will be forever grateful. You are a good Dad, something this world needs more of.

[Mike L]

Agree, you are a good Dad who is giving a life lesson to your girls. 
All you can do is what you can,

the best way you can. 
 

Seems to me that’s exactly what you’re doin. 
 

 

 

 

Mike

[Bankbeater]

Wow!  Hope you and your girls heal quickly.

[NYWayfarer]

It’s hard enough being a teenager especially in these times of social media, unrest and the pandemic. I can only imagine adding the situation with their mother.

 

I am glad you were able to rescue them and give them the stability they so desperately need.

 

I wish you all the best.

[Log Catcher]

Praying that everything gets better for all of you. The girls are very lucky to have you to help them.

[Bird]

Wow, what a life debacle for you and the girls.

Praying you stay focused for your Girls and give them love and direction.

Thanks for sharing such a tragic time, wild.

[GreenPig]

Wow! Wishing the best for the three of y'all. 

[Glenn]

That's insane!  But on the bright side, you get to spend more time with your daughters.  Take them fishing, and show them the good things life has to offer.  You have a great opportunity to make some lemonade.

[GaryH]

Your a good man @ww2farmer your girls will return that love to you in spades. Wish you and your girls the best.

[BrianMDTX]

There’s fishing. And there’s life. Makes one think about what’s truly important. 

[N Florida Mike]

Praying you and the girls have peace. The time you spent with with them will make a huge difference in their lives…

[roadwarrior]

You are a strong man. Good luck with this challenge.

[whitwolf]

Prayers headed you way for you and the girls. 

[bclark7b]

This is such a crazy story! I'm sorry to hear about all the stuff you have had to go through. If I could ever help you in any way reach out. Praying for you and your daughters.

[ww2farmer]

Time to update this story. 

 As far as the crazy ex-wife goes. She did her time,  was released on parole,  and lives a couple hours away with her mother. She sees our youngest daughter (now 15) about once every 6 weeks for about an hour or so. My oldest daughter, now a sophomore in college,  and living on her own, wants nothing to do with her mother. Can't say that I blame her, nor do I force her too.

 

As for my life.....I'm in a new, fantastic relationship with a great woman. That's going on 2 years now. 

 

I had a few health hurdles in 2024 that have been cleared. In June, I had a freak accident that wrenched my neck badly,  it actually tore my carotid artery and I was rushed to a major hospital to be stabilized and repaired with 2 stents. That's all good.....but.....while I was getting all the scans and MRI's and other stuff done on my head/neck area during that,  they found an AVM on my brain. Those interested can look up what that is. Long story short on that...I was born with it, had brain surgery in late August to remove it, and was given a full bill of clean health and returned to work the first week of October.  

 

For the first time in several years , I'm excited about life. Have a great girlfriend,  my kids are doing amazing in their post mother nonsense life, I bought new boat this past spring, and will return to making bass fishing an important part of my life. Heck...I might even hang around here like I used to.