That's Women's Work!

[Mobasser]

5 minutes ago, ajschn06 said:

 

My wife is currently staying home with our daughter and working a sales gig from there, she's doing pretty well too.  Myself?  I'm working two full time jobs and do the majority of the cooking, dishes, laundry, etc.  She deserves any down time she can get.  We have two boys as well.  Do you guys have any idea how much laundry a family of 5 with three kids goes through?  Unbelievable...

I do. We had four children. Laundry was constant thing. I now wish I had one dollar for every jug of laundry soap,and every gallon of milk I bought. I'd be driving a new boat

[fishwizzard]

6 minutes ago, Mobasser said:

My wife loves the riding mower. I handle the weedeater

I am occasionally allowed to weed-whack but I have to get a 15 minute lecture beforehand about which plants good amd which plants are bad as apparently this is an ever changing thing.   

[InfantryMP]

My wife does not allow me to do things like laundry, or cleaning because she has her way of doing it, and I have my way. She prefers her way. 

 

We share cooking duties a lot, I like to grill, and she likes to cook traditionally. I think it works out for us, but at the end of the day if she needed help with something I am not going to say, "that's a woman's job".

[fishwizzard]

3 minutes ago, InfantryMP said:

My wife does not allow me to do things like laundry, or cleaning because she has her way of doing it, and I have my way. She prefers her way. 

Bath towels should be folded twice along their length and then rolled, there’s literally no other acceptable way to do this!

[Jigfishn10]

I know one thing my wife thinks I do wrong all the time...I put the toilet paper on the holder so that the paper comes up and over the roll...she thinks it should be reversed...Hey, I can't win em all. 

[ajschn06]

6 minutes ago, Mobasser said:

I do. We had four children. Laundry was constant thing. I now wish I had one dollar for every jug of laundry soap,and every gallon of milk I bought. I'd be driving a new boat

 

It's constant man...I swear I do 2-3 loads a day and keep falling farther behind.  Towels, OMG so many of them!!

[InfantryMP]

3 minutes ago, fishwizzard said:

Bath towels should be folded twice along their length and then rolled, there’s literally no other acceptable way to do this!

lol I roll everything (ole Military in me). My socks, undies I roll...She gets so frustrated with it lol

[Mike L]

We’ve been partners for 52 yrs in every sense of the word. 
 

My parents are 2nd generation immigrants from Sicily where in my family the husband/father is the absolute master of his domain and everyone knew it. 
 

I grew up knowing and believe in it, until I met Mrs Mike. 
She changed me in more ways than one. 
 

 

 

 

Mike

[Mobasser]

I think a lot of this started to change in the 1960s. More women started working outside the home. My mom was a stay home mom until around 1967, and she got a part time job.

 

8 minutes ago, Mike L said:

We’ve been partners for 52 yrs in every sense of the word. 
 

My parents are 2nd generation immigrants from Sicily where in my family the husband/father is the absolute master of his domain and everyone knew it. 
 

I grew up knowing and believe in it, until I met Mrs Mike. 
She changed me in more ways than one. 
 

 

 

 

Mike

Mike, same for me. My wife's family was Sicilian also. I never once saw Mr. Angotti doing any house work. He took care of the yard, the car, the basement etc. The kitchen was the domain of my mother in law. 

[Gera]

My parents taught me everything I needed to run a house by myself at a very early age, they taught me how to clean, cook, wash my clothes, iron (this I still have trouble with) and every other household activity imaginable that was traditionally assigned to a woman so I would not be dependent on one to have a decent life after I left home. 

Now that I'm married I still enjoy doing most of those activities as I have been doing them my entire life, I'm self sufficient to get my life running without bothering anyone. I plan to teach the same to my kid as soon as he is old enough. 

The only thing my parents didn't think of was that this delay them from getting grandkids. 

[fishwizzard]

13 minutes ago, InfantryMP said:

lol I roll everything (ole Military in me). My socks, undies I roll...She gets so frustrated with it lol

 

I worked as a stage hand for most of my life and that involves handling and storing tens of thousands of yards of various drapes, curtains, backdrops. A fold/roll hybrid system absolutely the best way to store larger fabrics most all of the time, why anyone would argue otherwise is a complete mystery.

[Bankc]

1 hour ago, Mobasser said:

Years ago when I was much younger, I started helping my wife with chores around the house. I still do this now. I realized that between the kids, laundry, dishes, and general housework, she was wearing herself out. She never complained, but she was always grateful for the help.                                The old saying" a women's work is never done" is 100 percent true.                                           And, here's a tip for you young newlywed guys: If you want your wife to be happy, help her out with these chores. After all, you live there too. You create your share of laundry, dirty dishes, etc. This is especially true if your wife works outside the home, and, you have young children. Trust me on this. Your wife will appreciate this help.                Do you agree? Do you help your wife with household chores?    

I think most of us younger guys kind of grew up in a world where the traditional gender defined roles don't really exist.  It's not a woman's or a man's work.  It's just work that needs to be done.  So you do it, and if you see the other one doing something, you help them out.  

[Deleted account]

What decade am I in? Now I gotta go binge the Honeymooners, "Bang! Zoom!"

[EWREX]

thank god my wife is a better chef than me because we'd be eating chicken, rice, some roasted vegetables everyday for dinner. on a more serious note.. i am a newlywed but have been living with my now wife for a couple years. i always help with chores around the house regardless, especially cleaning since i am the cause of the mess majority of the time. i don't have an issue with it at all and nobody should in my opinion. we're far from the days of "the women belong in the kitchen cooking and cleaning". time to grow up fellas

[Hammer 4]

Except for the first few years, we've always shared house work. I still mop floors, clean whatever needs cleaning, dust, ect, ect. Just makes life easier on both of us.

[ike8120]

My wife and I share the chores

[TnRiver46]

I do whatever she says. Or at least pretend to 

[BassNJake]

40 minutes ago, hokiehunter373 said:

Not surprised to see some good dudes are on this site based on the replies above.  My wife is a teacher.  Up until 2 years ago we both worked full time jobs and sent my boy to daycare.  Then we had my daughter.  Sending them both to daycare would cost more than what my wife made sadly so my wife decided to stop teaching and stay home with the kids even though teaching was her life long dream (on top of being a mother).  None of what we do at home is decided by who's male/female.  We do what we can when we can to help each other and keep the family running throughout the week.  Those things have changed as she's home more now just as it would have if I was the one that's home more often.  Just help each other out and learn what each other does best.  If you have kids, show them that you both can cook, clean, cut the lawn, fold laundry, and filet the fish.

The benefit your kids will get being raised by a parent instead of some day care worker will outweigh the loss in salary.

 

Before I had kids my dad married his second wife and I saw the day care routine.

Wake the kid up at 6 and leave by 7 (some real quality time there trying to hurry him up to get dressed, food jammed in his mouth and rushed out the door)

Pick the kid up at 6 not home until 7 by the time he eats dinner and has a bath he gets less than an hour before bed to spend with his parents.

 

For those keeping score at home Daycare = 7:30am- 6pm = 10 hrs

Mom 1.5 hours in the morning including the car ride and 3 hours at night = 4.5 hours

 

Your results may vary but my wife and I decided her staying home with the kids was what was best for our children

 

 

[Choporoz]

52 minutes ago, Mobasser said:

I think a lot of this started to change in the 1960s. More women started working outside the home. . 

This is a huge point that cannot be overlooked.  It is perfectly ok to me if the division of (chores) labor is somewhat dependent on hours of employment of each....and by whether there are young children in the home.

[Deleted account]

1 hour ago, J Francho said:

Meh, we don't have any preconceived gender roles in our house. 

I googled pegging once, and to my surprise there was nothing about sinkers or bobber stoppers...

[DINK WHISPERER]

Chores!?! I thought that's what the kids were for? ?

[gim]

1 hour ago, Bankc said:

I think most of us younger guys kind of grew up in a world where the traditional gender defined roles don't really exist.  It's not a woman's or a man's work.  It's just work that needs to be done.

Absolutely true.  Doesn't exist in my generation.

 

You don’t have to be a female to cook or clean or do laundry and you don’t have to be a male to mow lawn or shovel snow or take out trash. It all has to be done regularly and if you have 2 hands, you do it.

[Bird]

Since I retired, things have changed drastically.

Wife is younger and has her own business and travels quite a bit. 

I've assumed all laundry, dishes, vacuuming and cleaning the house. 

 

However, wife is like Rachel Ray and is passionate about cooking. If she goes on a trip, she makes meals in advance......harmony. 

[BassNJake]

22 minutes ago, Deleted account said:

I googled pegging once, and to my surprise there was nothing about sinkers or bobber stoppers...

[Sphynx]

My other half does not economically participate, so no, I do not help with the domestic work, my time at home is never spent idling, I am afforded the opportunity to put in extra time working and benefitting our alliance economically (which she also benefits from.) That said I do have "man's work" at the home too, garbage, all forms of handy man and automotive work, landscaping and other out of the house work is also my responsibility, managing the household finances and so on, this is not a competitive sport in our home, we have a list of responsibilities that MUST be accomplished for us to live the lifestyle we have both agreed to work for, there is no particular assigned value to one form of work or the other, it's a team effort and none of it would work if either of us did not fully contribute, ESPECIALLY when it is hard, or inconvenient, but that's the price for making a relationship work in the real world...honestly my attempts at cleaning, laundry etc would simply serve to make even more work, it's honestly best that I just stay out of her way and appreciate the sacrifices she makes for us, she very much does the same.