Super User Darth-Baiter Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 hahaha.. I thought we were decent fishing friends. I ignored the fact that he loves trolling for everything. I mean everything. he will fish the shallows by brushing his kayak against the shoreline tules. haha..to each their own. I noticed I was always the one coming up with trips and inviting him. he declined 90% of the time recently. and when he does come up with at trip..I pencil it in, and never hear from him again. I give up. I LOVE fishing solo fine. find a good fishing partner, also a win. I spend a lot of time, gas, effort exploring new waters..I've become guarded with the information I have gathered. I dont tell anyone anymore. I might take someone, but I won't simply point it out on a map. my good friend left today for Minnesota. I guess I am feeling melancholy losing a good partner in fishing. oh well. we all know this person. the main goal: dont BE this person. carry on people. 1
Super User DitchPanda Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 I have indeed known this person...as in past tense. I no longer have the time or desire to associate with people of that nature..my time is simply to valuable to me to be chasing after somebody and trying to gain there acceptance by letting them walk all over me. I've got 3 fishing buddies...1 I fish pan fish and wall eyes with and 2 that are bass guys. They are all good guys that don't flake out in me. Any time they have had to cancel I trust its been legit. It helps that I've known and been friends with all 3 between 10 and 15 years and also know them as people not just guys I sometimes fish with. That said I have no issue going alone in fact at times that's preferred. Being away from people to reflect and also recharge..even when its people you care about...is sometimes just what the doctor ordered. 2
Super User WRB Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 If you are not in a pay cash tournament what matters how you fish. Live bait omg! Trolling omg! Get a life not everyone is in the C & R religion. Tom 1 3 3
Super User soflabasser Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 The best fishing partner a man can have is his wife. 9 1 3 1
Super User islandbass Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 4 minutes ago, soflabasser said: The best fishing partner a man can have is his wife. Tell that to my wife, lol. She won’t touch or eat fish as the result of a childhood experience. That said, I took her once believing 100% she’d be hooked like me. She had a trout on and as the rod bent over and shook, (I was so stoked) she got a little nervous, handed me the rod and said, “Here.” And walked away. That was over 15 years ago and a hint and a half to tell me she wasn’t interested, lol. I fish alone 99.999999999% of the time anyway and like DitchPanda, the time alone is many times oh so welcomed and an opportunity to reflect and recharge. 2 1
Super User Darth-Baiter Posted September 28, 2021 Author Super User Posted September 28, 2021 31 minutes ago, WRB said: If you are not in a pay cash tournament what matters how you fish. Live bait omg! Trolling omg! Get a life not everyone is in the C & R religion. Tom Not even sure where you’re going with this. 1
Super User soflabasser Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 @islandbass My Wife joins me on all my fishing trips and I prefer fishing with her than fishing by myself or a friend. Finding a trustworthy fishing partner is not easy so it is best to fish with a loved one that is reliable and you can trust. 4
Super User islandbass Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 @soflabasser That is truly a blessing. She has just discovered the fun in kayaking and I’m looking forward to doing this together with her so much so that I will not bring even one fishing set up. 2
Super User soflabasser Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 @islandbass Thank you I know how fortunate I am, and I am grateful for having her as my Wife. She does not fish much but joins me to keep me company. She enjoys being in the outdoors and watching wildlife more than fishing which is ok with me. I hope you both have a good time kayaking since it is a great way to spend time in the Outdoors. 1
Super User WRB Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 45 minutes ago, Darth-Baiter said: Not even sure where you’re going with this. Trolling isn’t illegal, bait fishing isn’t illegal, not everyone is evil because they use techniques unacceptable by tournament bass anglers. Being critical to someone who fishes differently shouldn’t be a factor for friendship. Tom 1 1
Super User Darth-Baiter Posted September 28, 2021 Author Super User Posted September 28, 2021 Just now, WRB said: Trolling isn’t illegal p, bait fishing isn’t illegal, not everyone is evil because they use techniques unacceptable by tournament bass anglers. Being critical to someone who fishes differently shouldn’t be a factor for friendship. Tom Haha. I think you missed the point. But carry on. You do you. 1
Super User WRB Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 2 minutes ago, Darth-Baiter said: Haha. I think you missed the point. But carry on. You do you. I don’t think so....why fish with someone who is critical of you? Tom
ironbjorn Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 8 minutes ago, WRB said: I don’t think so....why fish with someone who is critical of you? Tom He said in his OP that he ignored the fact that his friend trolls and added "to each their own" afterwards to really drive the point home. It doesn't sound like criticism to me; at least not actively critical to his friend. Everything else you're talking about is out of thin air. 1
Global Moderator Bluebasser86 Posted September 28, 2021 Global Moderator Posted September 28, 2021 My good fishing buddy had a period for a couple years where he flaked on me about every other trip it felt like and it was always like 10pm night before or I'd wake up in the morning and have a text. Then one day I found out he was getting divorced and he'd been having marital problems for the last couple years and that played a big part of why he kept canceling on me. Made me glad that I kept inviting him so he had the chance to get away occasionally when we did. 11
Big Hands Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 3 hours ago, Darth-Baiter said: I thought we were decent fishing friends. 3 hours ago, Darth-Baiter said: I ignored the fact that he loves trolling for everything. I mean everything. he will fish the shallows by brushing his kayak against the shoreline tules. haha..to each their own. 3 hours ago, Darth-Baiter said: I noticed I was always the one coming up with trips and inviting him. he declined 90% of the time recently. and when he does come up with at trip..I pencil it in, and never hear from him again. I give up. 3 hours ago, Darth-Baiter said: we all know this person. the main goal: dont BE this person. carry on people. Sounds to me like there are some things about this person (at least some of which are fishing related) that appear to chafe your undercarriage a bit. And you implore us to "don't be this person". I think we can all agree that being a serial flake is never cool. But I also took the post to mean that you were criticizing his approach to fishing as well and I took Tom's post to be addressing that part. 2
Super User Bankbeater Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 I've had several guys at work do this. I usually fish by myself and it can be really frustrating when you have a trip planned out for Saturday and they bail on Friday night. Now when they ask to go fishing with me I just tell them to let me know when and where.
Super User N Florida Mike Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 8 hours ago, soflabasser said: The best fishing partner a man can have is his wife. If she’ll go. Mine wont go anymore…?
Super User N Florida Mike Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 What’s strange to me on this subject is that I have to always initiate the trip. None of my friends that fish ever say “ Let’s plan a trip soon.” It’s rare that they do anyway… That makes me really ponder why? Is it my personality? Is it that I often catch more fish than them? Is it that Ive offended them somehow? If I want someone to come fish with me ( it’s really more for them than me ) , I have to keep asking and they finally will go. Then, we nearly always catch good numbers and occasionally a big fish. I am careful to give them good opportunities and casting angles, basically I treat them like Im their guide- without harping on their weaknesses …But they are in no hurry to go again. Maybe I just love fishing more than them ? Maybe they are just busy… or maybe I’m the flake ? ? I can’t figure it out… 1
Super User GaryH Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 Pleasure fishing unlike tournament fishing is a time for relaxing and enjoying yourself. Life is too short and sometimes stressful to add the frustration the op has talked about. Maybe I’m just ignorant but if someone keeps annoying me when I’m trying to enjoy one of my pleasures than it’s up to me to remedy the situation. I have a few close friends and my best friend (wife) that I pleasure fish with. It always seems to come back to respect. 2
ajschn06 Posted September 28, 2021 Posted September 28, 2021 17 hours ago, WRB said: If you are not in a pay cash tournament what matters how you fish. Live bait omg! Trolling omg! Get a life not everyone is in the C & R religion. Tom Go for it... just don't call it "fishing" 1
Super User gim Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 17 hours ago, soflabasser said: The best fishing partner a man can have is his wife. I've found a better one. She is excited to go with every time and she doesn't talk the entire time. 13 3 5
Super User roadwarrior Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 28 minutes ago, ajschn06 said: ... just don't call it "fishing" What does that mean? I have observed people using everything from a can with kite line to 75 foot yachts with six $3500 rigs. The can counts. 3 1
Super User Tennessee Boy Posted September 28, 2021 Super User Posted September 28, 2021 30 minutes ago, gimruis said: I've found a better one. She is excited to go with every time and she doesn't talk the entire time. That's a fine looking dog. Does she get upset if you troll or use live bait? 7
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