Feeling melincholy

[WRB]

Today I sold all my remaining tackle, salt water rods, reels, Marlin and tuna lures, antique and vintage tackle. 

This project kept me occupied packaging and shipping plus the memories looking at everything and remembering the events and fish associated with each item. 

Melincholy is a hollow feeling that something is missing and for me it's joy. Turning this page is harder then I imagined.

I did kept a few bass rods and my jigs to use someday so there is always hope.

Peace,

Tom

[BrianMDTX]

I’ve been much more of a hunter than an angler most of my adult life. One day in the not-so-distant future I will likely (other than firearms) divest myself of my hunting gear when no longer able to hunt like I’m used to doing. When that happens, melancholia will definitely set in. 

 

I feel your pain, as it’s coming one day soon. 

[WRB]

Sold all my pistols, shot guns and rifles except 1 hand gun earlier this year. I was saving a pre '64 Winchester 70 nib for my son, he said keep in the safe for me so I did. Everything went dark on 22 Jan 2020 when he died in my arms form cancer.

Tom

[txchaser]

1 hour ago, WRB said:

there is always hope.

I wish this for you, always.

[GreenPig]

 

[ryanerb]

Tom so sorry for your loss and the melancholy that comes with it. Praying for you!

[Hammer 4]

There is n way I could even imagine what you felt and are feeling regarding the truly sad events that you and yours had to endure. I have had a 2 of those melancholy times, but not on your level.

 

I think you know how I feel about you hanging in there. It's my hope someday, and soon, that you can pick up those rods and have a good day fishing, and get some resemblance of inter peace.

 

You and your family are always in my thoughts.  

[12poundbass]

5 hours ago, GreenPig said:

 

Good tune. He lost his son in an accident a couple years ago and wrote this song because of it. You can hear the pain in his voice and see it in his eyes. 

[FishinBuck07]

45 minutes ago, 12poundbass said:

Good tune. He lost his son in an accident a couple years ago and wrote this song because of it. You can hear the pain in his voice and see it in his eyes. 

Beautiful song!  

[joshuaray83]

@WRB I'm so sorry to hear of the pain you're experiencing. I attend a bible study with a man who lost his mid/late-30 year-old daughter to cancer 3 years ago. Even now, every time he mentions her, I can still see the pain in his face and he has trouble finishing his thought. I just became a dad two months ago and can't imagine losing my daughter. I don't think someone can relate to your pain unless they've experienced it.

[Donny t]

9 hours ago, WRB said:

Sold all my pistols, shot guns and rifles except 1 hand gun earlier this year. I was saving a pre '64 Winchester 70 nib for my son, he said keep in the safe for me so I did. Everything went dark on 22 Jan 2020 when he died in my arms form cancer.

Tom

I'm very sorry to hear that.

 

Cancer is an awful soab.

 

 

 

 

 

 

[BrianMDTX]

9 hours ago, WRB said:

Sold all my pistols, shot guns and rifles except 1 hand gun earlier this year. I was saving a pre '64 Winchester 70 nib for my son, he said keep in the safe for me so I did. Everything went dark on 22 Jan 2020 when he died in my arms form cancer.

Tom

I read this last night but had to wait to respond. I couldn't think of anything good to say. I still really can't, other than to say I'm truly sorry for your loss.

[FryDog62]

9 hours ago, txchaser said:

I wish this for you, always.

This...

[DitchPanda]

I'm sorry about your loss...can't imagine. Sadness is one emotion that we all experience but also all deal with\process differently. I know you will never forget what happened to your son and I don't believe you should...I believe those memories no matter how painful serve a purpose...they help you remember and realize how important love is and how easy it is to take things for granted. What I do hope for you is that you always honor your sons memory but find a way to be able to cope with your grief while being thankful for the times you had. Obviously this is easier said than done.

 

Story time for me: My girlfriend and I have been together since July of 2011 and have known each other for almost 15 years. Doesn't seem like a long time but when your both in your 30s that's almost half your life. So she has a twin sister with whom I've been friends with for the same amount of time. Her sister got pregnant in 2015 and everybody was excited at the prospect of a new grandbaby for her mom and also about the twins having a baby to pour all their love into. Both girls have worked in childcare since early 20s so to save they were excited is an understatement. Around Christmas of 2015 her sister started experiencing complications and in February she gave birth. The baby..Grayson..was several months premature and was also even more undeveloped because of the complications. Sadly the little guy wasn't long for this world...passing away hours after being born. It was devastating to everybody involved. My girlfriend was a wreck and because if her closeness with her twin it felt as if we had lost a child...the grief was almost unbearable. At the time I was working alot and I was on 12hr night shifts so my mind wasn't really right to begin with...so I didn't handle this well and it almost cost me my relationship. Her sister and her guy went thru similar relationship woes...she was so distraught that she held resentment against him and they separated for a short time. Over time everybody handled this how they had to and everyone's approach was unique to them. Out of this came one positive..everybody came together and now myself and her entire family have a much closer bond. My mom and sister have always loved Teri but now they treat her like a daughter and a sister. Nobody has forgot the heartaches and hardship and nobody ever will...but we are thankful for the things we still have and reverant of those that have gone before us.

 

Sorry that was very long winded but I hope it was somewhat helpful. I pray you find the peace you need.

[Glenn]

Hey Tom,

How is your wife holding up? Have you both considered talking to a professional about your son?

 

PM me for references.  We're a family here, and here to help our brothers.

[GTN-NY]

Tom

i saw these two photos on FB and it explained how I’ve been feeling very well and you probably have the same feelings

[MGF]

 My wife has tried to teach me to notice the beauty around us especially when things are hard. 

[WRB]

It wasn't my intent to point out my personal greif, that has been detailed and truely apptiaciate the support from everyone on the BR site. The grief of out living your children is beyond words. For the few who experience this my heart and sole goes out to you.

Melancholy is the hollow feeling you feel when the realization hits you that savings tackle for your son who is gone. The memories are there but knowone to share them with. Talk to the living.

Tom

 

 

 

 

  

 

 

[The Bassman]

Tom, wish I could add to what's been said. I've been on this site for nearly four years now and have been very careful to respect site rules. But it's very difficult not to make spiritual inference here. I'll just leave it to say I feel like I know you personally. Hope you stay here for a long time. I enjoy your input and some of the "lively" discussions it encourages.

[Taxnat]

On 10/21/2020 at 11:10 PM, WRB said:

Today I sold all my remaining tackle, salt water rods, reels, Marlin and tuna lures, antique and vintage tackle. 

This project kept me occupied packaging and shipping plus the memories looking at everything and remembering the events and fish associated with each item. 

Melincholy is a hollow feeling that something is missing and for me it's joy. Turning this page is harder then I imagined.

I did kept a few bass rods and my jigs to use someday so there is always hope.

Peace,

Tom

Tom, you are exactly right Tom, there is always hope. I am praying for you and know it’s been a difficult path. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[WRB]

On October 22, 2020 at 6:58 PM, Glenn said:

Hey Tom,

How is your wife holding up? Have you both considered talking to a professional about your son?

 

PM me for references.  We're a family here, and here to help our brothers.

My wife is, I am on some meds. The Flea Market kept me busy for awhile and your site helps more then I can say....Thank you.

[Jaderose]

"The memories are there but knowone to share them with."

 

This just isn't true, Tom.  I can't begin to understand the depth of your pain nor could I possibly say anything to make you feel better other than this...we need those memories.  The sport/hobby needs your memories.  You are a walking encyclopedia of bass fishing and we ALL need you.  I know that given a choice between a day with KVD down south somewhere or a day with Tom Young on Casitas, I'm heading West with a rod, a closed mouth and an open mind.

My biggest wish for you would be that someday in the near future, you glance at those rods and jigs with the barest twinkle in your eye and pick one of them up with a sense of peace in your heart.  

[Bigassbass]

The saying "be gentle with others because you never know what burden they are carrying" is so true.  It takes time to get use to loosing anyone you love, but it takes an act of courage and determination to find the spark in life after loosing a child.

The grandest thing in life is LIFE itself, so I hope one day you find courage to pick up a fishing rod and go fishing again.  

[NorthernBasser]

I'm so sorry to hear this, Tom. You and yours are in my thoughts. 

 

Just know that we are all family here, and I hope you continue to stick around and chat with us! 

[BassNJake]

Tom-

 

I just wanted to point out how grateful and appreciative I(we) am/(are) of your sharing the knowledge you have gathered. This influence has affected my approach to fishing. (when I was heavy into tourney fishing finding the basses rhythm from the cosmic clock really struck home with me) Which has now been passed on to my son.

 

Much like the gear that you have just sold, that knowledge will help in creating memories for many families for many years to come. 

 

Thank you