UPDATED: Yin and Yang

[Koz]

Call it Yin and Yang or Newton's Third Law but things always seem to balance out - and that's not always good.

 

I lost my job when COVID hit but then my father went into the hospital for a month so I was able to take care of my stepmother. When dad got out my stepmother then had to go into the hospital for a month so I took care of dad.

 

I've been looking for a job for months and months but no hotel GM jobs have opened up in the area I live in now or where I used to live. Because my parents haven't been healthy I need to stay within 3 or 4 hours of where they live. Also, being a full time single father is expensive, so taking a job that doesn't cover the bills doesn't make sense.

 

But I'm not a job snob, either. I applied at BMW to do shift work in production or logistics. In other words, shift work. I'm getting old so this is probably going to be tough on my body. At least it can cover the bills until a hotel GM job opens up.

 

So this morning I get a call from BMW to start work next week. Good. I'm happy to be working again. But then my stepmother calls me - my dad is in the hospital with COVID. I have to say I'm worried. He's 78 and in poor health and has beat cancer twice. But since I moved just over a tear ago he's been going downhill. He's in the hospital now in isolation, but not on a ventilator. His breathing sounds labored, but he says that's because of a hiatal hernia.

 

I have to tell you, I am so tired of everything that's been going on this past year. I know so many others are going through a lot this year as well. I just hope the excess bad stuff comes to an end for everyone soon.

 

UPDATED: My father passed away this morning. I did not get home in time. The hospital sent him home yesterday even though he had chest pains and labored breathing. I begged them to keep him and they transported him home. I am livid.

 

[Mike L]

Bless you and your family Koz. 
Keep the faith brother, it’s gonna get better I promise you. 
With all the heart break for so many people It may not look like it now but it will. 
 

We have to believe that. 
 

 

 

 

Mike 

[NYWayfarer]

I wish you and your family the best. I hope your Dad pulls through soon.

[Hammer 4]

This year has been tough on a lot of folks, sounds like your getting more than your share. Keep the faith Koz, things will work out. Praying for you and your family, stay strong.

[islandbass]

Sending prayers your way, Koz. Things will turn around for the better. Hope your dad gets better sooner than later. 

[12poundbass]

Hang in there man and stay strong for your family. 

[Log Catcher]

This has been a tough year for many people. You really got hit hard. Prayers sent for things to get better for you and all of your family.

[GTN-NY]

So sorry to hear. Watch out for depression setting in. It can slide in without you knowing it. 
Keep your head high and your kids close. They’ll give you strength when you need it. 
Please keep us updated on your progress. 

[Dwight Hottle]

Like others have suggested hang in there as best you can. Hoping it gets better for you soon. 

[Koz]

12 hours ago, GTN said:

So sorry to hear. Watch out for depression setting in. It can slide in without you knowing it. 
Keep your head high and your kids close. They’ll give you strength when you need it. 
Please keep us updated on your progress. 

Thanks. The depression has hit on occasion but it's easier to cope when you understand how that can grip you and lead you down a wrong path.

 

I did get some good news last night and that was an interview request for a job in the tech field that pays much better than the factory job.

 

But of course, there was some offset to that. My stepmother has a bad back and last night she called me and said she's laid up right now and I can't get down there for a few days So I had to call in some help for her.

 

Thanks for all the kind words from everyone, it really does help in times like these.

[TnRiver46]

Prayers sent 

[J Francho]

Hang in there.  Keep doing good things.

[Koz]

Update: I'm still trying to get a hold of the doctor but no luck. Dad says his lungs hurt today and he's having a hard time breathing. But he said they are going to discharge him and have home health care look after him. That doesn't make sense. It's frustrating because I can't get down there until tomorrow night.

[Bird]

Quite a few challenges going on there. 

Keep your head up and stay positive. 

Praying for good outcome. 

[lo n slo]

5 hours ago, Koz said:

Thanks. The depression has hit on occasion but it's easier to cope when you understand how that can grip you and lead you down a wrong path.

 

I did get some good news last night and that was an interview request for a job in the tech field that pays much better than the factory job.

 

But of course, there was some offset to that. My stepmother has a bad back and last night she called me and said she's laid up right now and I can't get down there for a few days So I had to call in some help for her.

 

Thanks for all the kind words from everyone, it really does help in times like these.

you sound like a good man and i’m glad to see that you called in some help. taking care of elderly parents is tough duty, i know from experience. please don’t try to carry all these burdens by yourself. those kids need their father to be of sound mind and body right now. it may be hard to consider this thought right now, but time passes and changes all things. knowing that you gave from your heart will afford you a good conscience as you grow older.

[Koz]

UPDATED: My father passed away this morning. I did not get home in time. The hospital sent him home yesterday even though he had chest pains and labored breathing. I begged them to keep him and they transported him home. I am livid.

[J Francho]

I'm so, so sorry.

[Finessegenics]

I’m sorry for your loss.

[TnRiver46]

More prayers .......

 

Stay strong buddy ?

[jbsoonerfan]

Very sorry for your loss

[Glenn]

Tragic.  Just tragic.  I'm at a loss for words.  Heartfelt prayers for you, your stepmother, and for your family.

[Koz]

In memory of my father. October 25, 1942 - October 22, 2020

 

 

 

[Bird]

Oboy, really hate to hear that. 

Thoughts and prayers for you and your family. 

[Hammer 4]

Very, very sorry to hear this. May your Dad rest in peace. Prayers sent out for you and your family..

[12poundbass]

Sorry for your loss @Koz