Super User WRB Posted August 13, 2020 Author Super User Posted August 13, 2020 8 hours ago, Oregon Native said: Having lost our daughter to cancer and now battling it myself I somewhat feel your pain....we are allondfferent roads not yet traveled. You have many friends on here and I'm sure around. It might be awesome to get on the water and think and look up and remember in respect. Not sure....just talking...Sorry typing bad...hand eye goes in and out and I get tired of correcting and trying to figure out. All the best.... Trying to save your child from cancer is a 24/7 ordeal, you always have hope until you don't then the grief is overwhelming. I feel your pain as only a parent can. Keep up your spirits and keep fighting the cancer and win! My desire to fish isn't there anymore, maybe someday. Prayers are with you and family, Tom 1 Quote
Efishin Posted August 13, 2020 Posted August 13, 2020 On 8/8/2020 at 2:55 PM, WRB said: You are the reason I stayed on this site so long and you earned my respect for your knowledge and fishing skills. Thank you for putting up with me. Tom We all get stirred up time but guess what? arguments and hearing others P.O.V can be very informational. We can all learn from eachother. I am a rod and reel guru and understand river fishing very well but guess what? My offshore and graphing skills are so bad lol. We need others strong where we are weak Quote
contium Posted August 13, 2020 Posted August 13, 2020 My condolences. I can't imagine the difficulty of losing a child. I always enjoy your posts and hope you stick around. 1 Quote
Super User WRB Posted August 14, 2020 Author Super User Posted August 14, 2020 2 hours ago, Efishin said: We all get stirred up time but guess what? arguments and hearing others P.O.V can be very informational. We can all learn from eachother. I am a rod and reel guru and understand river fishing very well but guess what? My offshore and graphing skills are so bad lol. We need others strong where we are weak I appreciate a good debate but getting a warning for the site owner for being attacked personally by irate member who believe I am delusional and never catching any big bass, just full of BS is more then I will put up with under any circumstances. It must be my sweet charming personality. Peace 2 Quote
Efishin Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 26 minutes ago, WRB said: I appreciate a good debate but getting a warning for the site owner for being attacked personally by irate member who believe I am delusional and never catching any big bass, just full of BS is more then I will put up with under any circumstances. It must be my sweet charming personality. Peace Must be that personality lol ?. Tom if you need anything let us know. I live in the other side of the US but let us know if we can help. Welcome anytime you come to the Southeast with me 1 Quote
GTN-NY Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 1 hour ago, WRB said: I appreciate a good debate but getting a warning for the site owner for being attacked personally by irate member who believe I am delusional and never catching any big bass, just full of BS is more then I will put up with under any circumstances. It must be my sweet charming personality. Peace My loss is definitely different than yours but I still lost my son. I had already stopped fishing for 5 years due to time. Afterwards I started looking for something to do as my business tanked and had time to do things. Pretty much I sat on my porch and drank. After a year a friend that also lost his son talked me into trying fishing again. I started but my heart wasn’t and still isn’t really into it. What I do like is because I no longer had the funds for a boat I got a kayak. A big heavy stable kayak that is not easy to paddle. I really enjoy the mile or more paddle for the physical exercise on the way to my fishing spot. So there might Be something out there that will help you find some peace for your head. Good luck Tom. It’s not a easy road ahead no matter what anyone tells you. PM me if you ever want to 1 Quote
txchaser Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 @WRB I've been reflecting for a few days thinking about what I might say; there really are no words that fit so I'll simply wish for you that tomorrow is a little bit better than yesterday. 2 Quote
Super User WRB Posted August 14, 2020 Author Super User Posted August 14, 2020 1 hour ago, GTN said: My loss is definitely different than yours but I still lost my son. I had already stopped fishing for 5 years due to time. Afterwards I started looking for something to do as my business tanked and had time to do things. Pretty much I sat on my porch and drank. After a year a friend that also lost his son talked me into trying fishing again. I started but my heart wasn’t and still isn’t really into it. What I do like is because I no longer had the funds for a boat I got a kayak. A big heavy stable kayak that is not easy to paddle. I really enjoy the mile or more paddle for the physical exercise on the way to my fishing spot. So there might Be something out there that will help you find some peace for your head. Good luck Tom. It’s not a easy road ahead no matter what anyone tells you. PM me if you ever want to We need to grieve and remember our sons and daughters lost too young so they live on through our memories. We will never get over the loss, the tears never stop. We wouldn't feel pain without having a close bond with our children, we are blessed to share thier lives for the time we had with them. Tom 3 Quote
Super User Oregon Native Posted August 14, 2020 Super User Posted August 14, 2020 14 hours ago, WRB said: Trying to save your child from cancer is a 24/7 ordeal, you always have hope until you don't then the grief is overwhelming. I feel your pain as only a parent can. Keep up your spirits and keep fighting the cancer and win! My desire to fish isn't there anymore, maybe someday. Prayers are with you and family, Tom Thank you....life is a wild ride full of interesting adventures...all the very best to you and yours... 1 Quote
frogflogger Posted August 14, 2020 Posted August 14, 2020 Knowing from experience the heartbreak of losing a child - there are no words. 1 1 Quote
Super User Dwight Hottle Posted August 15, 2020 Super User Posted August 15, 2020 On 8/13/2020 at 8:30 PM, WRB said: I appreciate a good debate but getting a warning for the site owner for being attacked personally by irate member who believe I am delusional and never catching any big bass, just full of BS is more then I will put up with under any circumstances. It must be my sweet charming personality. Peace The members that have known you over the years understand & support you. Your record & past history speaks for itself. Like someone else said children are supposed to outlive their parents not the parents outliving their children. My condolences on your tragic loss. Your second love for fishing after family might renew itself with time. 2 Quote
stk44 Posted August 15, 2020 Posted August 15, 2020 Tom, I am truly sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. -Steve Quote
Super User Sam Posted August 15, 2020 Super User Posted August 15, 2020 Tom, a parents nightmare has struck you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss. Your son was too young to leave us. I always worried when my son, Scott, and his friends went out on weekends and then when he went away to college. God was watching over him a few times and he now has two beautiful children and I now worry about those two kids. I sincerely hope you and your family can cope with the loss and keep his memory alive. I also hope you will remain on the Forum as you are a fantastic member with lots of good information for all of us. T&P sent to you and your family. 1 Quote
Super User whitwolf Posted August 16, 2020 Super User Posted August 16, 2020 On 8/8/2020 at 2:55 PM, WRB said: Thank you for putting up with me. Tom I will not speak for catt but the words above have never applied. You once said, and I'm paraphrasing, that if you helped only one person on this site that would be fine. The thing about that; you have helped many, many, many, people on this site. I personally can't thank you enough for what you have added here and whether I've put it into practice or not, it always gave me pause to think. You will always be a valued member here Tom and there are many folks here that are here for you. 2 1 Quote
Super User Darren. Posted August 16, 2020 Super User Posted August 16, 2020 Tom, You've been a stalwart here, freely offering your wealth of experience and advice. Thanks for all you've contributed. I've been the better for it. As a father of four sons, I can't imagine losing one. Though I have feared it. Please accept my sincerest condolences and hopes for brighter days to come once the clouds of grief become less ... though they'll never be gone. Darren 1 Quote
Sphynx Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 Lost a lot of brothers in my life, usually one every couple of years, they aren't my children, but it always hurts bad, the advice to take things one day at a time is good counsel, the pain will never disappear entirely, but it will become manageable, my sympathies to you and your, you will be in my prayers today 1 Quote
Tatsu Dave Posted August 19, 2020 Posted August 19, 2020 Well just coming onboard and only getting to know you from your posts I've read, there is nothing I'm able to say to you from a personal standpoint except so sad to hear. I will pray for you because peace is a gift from above for sure, I will miss your posts because you are one that has a lot to share about bass fishing, and I have a lot to learn. GOD Bless Dave 1 Quote
Fishnski48 Posted August 20, 2020 Posted August 20, 2020 Tom, Losing a child is devastating and there are no words that will make it easier, only the memories you shared with each other will help heal the pain and put a smile in your thoughts Like many on this site my prayers are with you and your loved ones. I wish you comfort and peace as you turn the page 1 Quote
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