Turning the page

[WRB]

As most you know I lost my son 5 days after his 38th birthday on Jan 22. I appricaite everyone's support.

I have been selling off swimbaits and a few members received them.

Today I made the decision to sell my bass boat and posted it on a local site, it sold. Now I need to take everything out. This process is more difficult then anticipated, so many memories. 

Turning this  page in my life is harder then I thought knowing it's my last boat.

Tom 

[Teal]

Tom, I'm sorry for the loss of your son.  I can't imagine the pain.  I can't imagine or put my self in your shoes, through this new change in life.  I'm over 2000 miles away, but I'm right here, if you need or want anything, I'm here.  In the past 8 years, I've buried 2 brothers and got a divorce and raise my son alone.  Our situations are different, but I dont know about change and loss of loved ones.    

 

If there's anything I can do please dont hesitate 

 

Glen

[LCG]

I can't imagine. My condolences to you and your family. Stay strong. 

[Koz]

I am so, so sorry you are going through this. Without going into my own details, I know that emptiness can be overwhelming at times. Some days it seems even harder with this crazy world we live in today.

 

The only real advice I can give you is to take one day at a time.

[slonezp]

We all grieve differently. I've lost a sibling and recently my mother. It doesn't get better. It gets easier but not better. My boat has been for sale for almost a year. I've had a dozen or so inquiries, including another one today, since I pulled it off the market when covid struck. I imagine it will be gone by end of September, beginning of October when I finally decide to let it go. For me it's bittersweet. This boat works for dad. I bought it with him in mind. The next purchase will be with the grandson in mind. I'll probably take a hiatus from fishing next year. Once mom got sick, fishing took a back seat for me. In addition, my grandson lost his father this year. Sometimes plans change when life gets in the way.

[Mike L]

Tom
There is nothing else to say that I haven’t said already about the loss of your son.
The hurt and pain is unimaginable by any standard by anyone who hasn’t felt it. 
You, your family and especially your Son have been in my prayers.

 

The brain try’s to reason when we are beyond reasoning. 
It try’s to accept what happens as either God’s will or a circumstance that must be accepted. 
 

The heart tho is a different thing altogether when it comes to losing a child. 
It makes us do things we wouldn’t normally think we would. 
It makes us feel when we think we are beyond feeling. 
It guides us when we are past being consoled. 

But the one thing it does best is to hold onto the Love of our children and the memories of them that we keep until it’s our time. 
 

There’s a saying I try to lived by...

Do what your heart tells you, if you do that, you can never be wrong. 
 

God Bless

 

 

Mike

[WRB]

When you lose parents it's expected, losing both my brothers was difficult but losing your child is a different kind of grief one you don't get over or should. Our memories are cherished and keeps them alive. Everyday is a memory and I lost my will to fish, so turning the page with few regrets lots tears.

Tom

[jimmyjoe]

  I don't know how to help ease the pain, but know that you're in my prayers.     jj

[5/0]

Can’t imagine what you’ve went through and continue to go through today. My prayers are with you and your family! Like others have said, stay strong and cherish the memories.

[GreenPig]

Tom, prayers sent to you and your family. Thanks for sharing sir.  

[Hammer 4]

As I mentioned a while back about losing a child, your Son, and how difficult it must be. I can offer my heart felt condolences once again and hope that with time the pain eases somewhat.

 

My Son's wife's Mom just passed yesterday, due to that ugly c word..They need to find a cure for it.

 

Anytime you want to talk, pm me..I'm a good listener.

[Spankey]

I’m sorry for your loss. God bless you and your family. 

[casterus60]

Condolences Tom. My prayers sent to you and your family. We never know what and when can happen. Be strong.

Adam

[TnRiver46]

Turning the page is hard but we are still reading the book. May you be blessed with strength from above to start this latest chapter. I know I speak for several members here when I say we are glad to have your years of input and wisdom and look forward to many more years of it 

[Tennessee Boy]

Tom, I wish I had the words to truly express the sympathy I feel for you.  Those of us that love fishing understand the bond it can build between generations and the special memories that go with it.  You are in my prayers.

[TOXIC]

Tom,

 

My sincere condolences for you and your family.  If you ever get out my way in Virginia, I always have an open seat in my boat.  

[The Bassman]

Tom, I certainly echo the wishes shared by these other guys. On a different tenor I remember you saying that your experiences included drag racing. I'm in Indianapolis home of the U.S. Nationals. It would be fascinating hearing about your involvement in the sport. I wouldn't expect it in this thread but it would maybe give you something to reflect on. Best wishes.

[Mobasser]

Best of luck moving forward Tom. I know it's been a tough uphill battle for yourself and your family. I hope things can improve, as best they can.

[JediAmoeba]

There is nothing to be said but my thoughts and prayers will be with you.  I hope your family finds some solace and peace.  I hope my son will catch his first swimbait fish on that G2 Shellcracker.

 

[MGF]

18 hours ago, WRB said:

When you lose parents it's expected, losing both my brothers was difficult but losing your child is a different kind of grief one you don't get over or should. Our memories are cherished and keeps them alive. Everyday is a memory and I lost my will to fish, so turning the page with few regrets lots tears.

Tom

Yes. If we're lucky enough to get old we're going to lose a lot of people. As bad as it can be we're wired for it. We're not supposed to outlive our children. As a father and grandfather I'm just going to  offer condolences.

[roadwarrior]

My sincere condolences.

[NYWayfarer]

3 hours ago, TnRiver46 said:

I know I speak for several members here when I say we are glad to have your years of input and wisdom and look forward to many more years of it 

Amen.

 

It's one of those things in life I might not have looked for or appreciated at first but I have over time.

 

I am so sorry for your loss Tom.

[MGF]

Tom, You have to do something all day.  A boat might yet come in handy. Just a thought.

 

 

[JediAmoeba]

7 minutes ago, MGF said:

Tom, You have to do something all day.  A boat might yet come in handy. Just a thought.

 

 

Unfortunately Tom made his decision and sold the boat already. I don't know if any of us can truly understand the grief he is experiencing.  I just hope he sticks around here to help us inexperienced anglers catch a few more fish because he is a wealth of knowledge...  his input would truly be missed.

[Derek1]

Can’t add any thing to what’s already been said. Wish you the best on the next page.