Dealing with inexperienced anglers

[slonezp]

9 hours ago, newriverfisherman1953 said:

This really doesn’t need to get ugly. Yes I’m old, but I don’t think young folks are jerks and crybabies. In fact, I do my own share of whining at times. I lost my dad when I was 7 years old. I don’t remember ever doing anything with him. My stepfather was an excellent teacher and fishing partner to me. I also lost a good friend and fishing partner to cancer way too early. I know this is a fishing forum and fishing is certainly important to all of us. But it is not THE most important thing. Now, let’s play nice. Sorry, don’t mean to preach. 

 

7 hours ago, Finessegenics said:

x2. Dont think OP was being disrespectful, just giving context behind him asking his question. I deal with the same thing all the time with my buddies who aren't into fishing and it can get very frustrating. The memories and laughs are worth it though. 

Guess I'm just old. What you deem as being "Ugly" I call being honest. Sometimes we just need to deal with the cards that are dealt and make the best of it. In addition to mom having a stroke last week, my 3 year old grandson lost his father. The father wasn't in his life since day one. Now it's permanent. So, life goes on for everybody else and we just make the best of a bad situation. Sounds like the OP loves his folks. Love requires sacrifice sometimes. There's going to be a day when mom and dad aren't around and he's going to wish he had spent more time with them.

[Finessegenics]

4 hours ago, slonezp said:

 

Guess I'm just old. What you deem as being "Ugly" I call being honest. Sometimes we just need to deal with the cards that are dealt and make the best of it. In addition to mom having a stroke last week, my 3 year old grandson lost his father. The father wasn't in his life since day one. Now it's permanent. So, life goes on for everybody else and we just make the best of a bad situation. Sounds like the OP loves his folks. Love requires sacrifice sometimes. There's going to be a day when mom and dad aren't around and he's going to wish he had spent more time with them.

There was nothing ugly about your comments. I'm sorry if my comment made it seem that way, it was not my intent. I think it is important for younger people to reflect and put things into perspective. I appreciate the fishing ,and most of all, the life advice coming from wiser and older gentleman like you. You've seen and dealt with a lot more crap than I have. I was referring to the two other members arguing over "serious" fishing and the other name-calling on the thread. 

[JK Jake]

Wow, this is a hot thread! Except for a few unnecessary negative remarks, thank you to everyone who has posted! I am also a younger guy, and though I am not in Quarry Man’s situation, all of this advice is very helpful and it definitely puts things in to perspective.

 

[Jake Coucoules]

Look man, I understand where you’re coming from but from my perspective your life sounds like a fairy tale to me lol. My family hates fishing because of me. My mom n dad were separated before I was born and are both drug addicts/alcoholics. I haven’t seen my dad in almost a year and the last time I did he tricked me into stealing my car to go get herion. See I get shitted on for loving fishing the way I do. If I order a reel or something I have to try n get to it first before my mom sees it because she will scream in my face about how I waste all my time on money on fishing and how I need to find a real “goal” in life because I’ll never be able to fish for a living. If I go to a family function everyone is afraid to talk to me about my life and if I try to talk about fishing I’m quickly shunned and told to “go to college because fishing isn’t a job.” One time I went out with my friends after school and forgot to take the garbage to the curb and my stepdad went into my room and literally snapped every fishing rod I owned and threw them out of the curb next to the trash with the reels still on them. I was like 15 and I had spent every penny I ever earned on those rods. And the only way I got that money was by working summer jobs, shoveling, raking leaves etc. because my parents didn’t believe in an allowance. Luckily I got all the reels back but that was like $500 in rods that took years to replace. You see I’ve basically had to choose fishing over everyone in my family because it’s the only thing that’s ever brought me even the tiniest bit of joy in my life. Maybe try to be a little bit more grateful next time your mom doesn’t fish a ned rig like a pro because there are people out there who would love for their mom to even look at a picture of a fish they caught.

[OCdockskipper]

It really isn't that hard to solve, just 2 easy steps the next time they go fishing with you:

 

1) Wrap the anchor line around their feet;

2) Throw the anchor overboard.

 

If that doesn't work, buy a bigger anchor.

 

For an even better result, make sure their life insurance is paid up and you are the beneficiary.  Forge signatures if need be.

[Delaware Valley Tackle]

Sounds to me like there’s a family dynamic at work here that goes beyond inexperience at fishing. Maybe you want to address the broader issues and it will translate. 

[Oregon Native]

Wow....with my brain working the way it is now I read these stories and bow my head....maybe we need to just go down to the bank with a bucket of worms and a cobber and reflect.....think simple.

[Cdn Angler]

I'd say you need to seperate "serious fishing" you do alone with "taking your parents out on the boat" which is not serious fishing requiring catching fish, $300 rods etc. 

 

[Kletust]

Sounds about like me trying to take my 6 and 7 yr olds fishing!

 

Seriously though.  Take it from someone who lost my dad at 16 and my mom in my late 20's.... you never get this time back.  There will be a time when you look back and this will be one of your fondest memories.  Cherish every moment you get because it can end in an instant.

 

If you can... get someone else to show them what to do.  Seriously... family just won't listen to instruction from you.  You would be amazed how quick they will listen to someone else.. even if you were telling them the exact same thing.  Maybe some youtube videos?