The friend...

[Catt]

Wait!

 

Y'all young!

 

I got a 12 yr old grandson who is real good & it cost Pawpaw!

 

He has his own rod-n-reels but tackle is all mine!

[NYWayfarer]

I like to handle things like this in subtle ways.

 

If he asks for tackle, have some baits and lures from your "bought it, tried it, didn't like it pile" (every fisherman has one.) If he asks why can't he use what you are, tell him limited supply, sorry.

 

If he asks for snacks and drinks, give him a jug filled with tap water. As far as snacks go, he has been your friend for awhile you must know what he doesn't like to eat. Make sure you have some of that on the boat to give him.

[rob0225]

On 8/16/2018 at 7:36 PM, Wurming67 said:

Do any of you guys have a fishing partner that is always borroing baits from you while you are out fishing?I do!!!I don't mind sharing a bait with my fishing buddy if I am on fish but every time I take him out it's constant and it's made me not ask him to go fishing as much as I use to and he makes more money than me!!!.Any suggestions how to confront him ?Do I just send him a text and say dude u gotta start buying some baits?

 

How about just tell him you can't afford to provide tackle for both of you.  What is wrong with being honest and straight forward with someone?  No need to skirt the issues. People are too worried about offending someone.

[Glaucus]

1 hour ago, rob0225 said:

How about just tell him you can't afford to provide tackle for both of you.  What is wrong with being honest and straight forward with someone?  No need to skirt the issues. People are too worried about offending someone.

It's probably harder in real life to tell your friend on the boat that they can't use any of your stuff. Easy to say on here, harder to do face to face because friends are people you care for. I think it says more about the character of a man asking how to go about it than it does about a man saying tell him to bug off. Asking how to do it implies feelings and humanity.

[Wurming67]

4 hours ago, Glaucus said:

It's probably harder in real life to tell your friend on the boat that they can't use any of your stuff. Easy to say on here, harder to do face to face because friends are people you care for. I think it says more about the character of a man asking how to go about it than it does about a man saying tell him to bug off. Asking how to do it implies feelings and humanity.

You nailed it!

[LxVE Bassin]

We all know that bass fishing is an expensive hobby but having a boat makes it even more expensive. Just be honest with your friend. If he is your real friend he will understand. I’m willing to spot people now and then especially if someone can’t really afford things but a guy that makes more money than me needs have his own stuff. Give him a week’s notice before the next trip out. Let him know that he needs to help on gas, have half of the launch fee, and bring his own tackle. You can’t go out on the water for 8 hours with a 5 pack of hooks and a pack of senkos. I fish tourneys as a coangler and I have buddies with boats that fish with. Tournament or not I make sure to have launch/gas money, offer drinks or snacks to bring, and have my own gear. 

[jeffo21]

Mmm nothing like a good dip of Copenhagen and fishing.

[Wurming67]

16 minutes ago, jeffo21 said:

Mmm nothing like a good dip of Copenhagen and fishing.

It just goes together,big fat knot of Copenhagen and a  Texas rigged plastic bait and Im in heaven ?

[jeffo21]

not much better than that well maybe a double digit fish on the end of the line also

 

[soflabasser]

On 8/16/2018 at 8:12 PM, Wurming67 said:

Forgot to mention he also eats my snacks and drinks.I think I realized thru your comment he's really not a good fishing partner maybe a good friend but not a good fishing partner,I'll take my wife out and other times go by myself.

Sounds like you found your answer to this problem. Keep being friends with your buddy and take your wife fishing more often. Teach her everything you know and you will have better fishing trips with her than with some guy who eats all your snacks and takes your lures.

[jeffo21]

lol my 12 year old daughter is my tackle thief. At least she has started asking for dips of snuff yet 

[Bluebasser86]

I usually tell my good friends to just bring minimal tackle, their favorite hard baits, plastics, and terminal box, then just fish out of my stuff to cut down on clutter in the boat and reduce the amount of stuff they have to pull out of their boats to put into mine because I know how much of a pain that is. There's a caveat though, if we find out they're eating Rage craws and they didn't bring any, and I toss them 2 packs of craws and don't get any back, they know at the end of the day I'm expecting them to float me 10-20 bucks to cover my baits and the convenience of not having to pack all their stuff for the day, the same way I do when I jump into one of their boats. 

 

What your situation sounds like is what I have when I'm guiding. I'm providing everything, but I'm getting paid quite well for it while you are not. You're either going to have to have that uncomfortable conversation, not while you're on the water because then you're trapped on the boat with a potentially disgruntled fishing partner, or you're going to have to start giving him all the baits that don't work so he stops borrowing yours. 

[bassh8er]

I always put myself into how I would treat someone else in the same situation.  It’s one thing if you are going out of your way to take someone fishing who has never been before versus someone that consistently goes with you.

 

It’s like some of my neighbors that come over for a beer but don’t bring any.  The first time is fine, the second time is whatever, the third time tho???  GTFO!!!!!!!

[Falkus]

On 8/18/2018 at 1:32 PM, LxVE Bassin said:

We all know that bass fishing is an expensive hobby but having a boat makes it even more expensive. Just be honest with your friend. If he is your real friend he will understand. I’m willing to spot people now and then especially if someone can’t really afford things but a guy that makes more money than me needs have his own stuff. Give him a week’s notice before the next trip out. Let him know that he needs to help on gas, have half of the launch fee, and bring his own tackle. You can’t go out on the water for 8 hours with a 5 pack of hooks and a pack of senkos. I fish tourneys as a coangler and I have buddies with boats that fish with. Tournament or not I make sure to have launch/gas money, offer drinks or snacks to bring, and have my own gear. 

Exactly -  I fish alot which I have one bag dedicated for tournament only. The other bag is for the Lake that I tend to fish. I always offer money and gas to my partner since

 

I know how expensive it is. My brother has a boat that he kept spending money on it to keep it running. We go out at the pacific ocean to slay some yellow tails during the summers when I come "home".  

 

He kept saying this - B.O.A.T  = Bring Out Another Thousand. 

[gilkeybr]

On 8/17/2018 at 8:24 AM, the reel ess said:

Then, of course, he'll talk smack if he catches one more than I do.

You saying this brought a smile to my face.  I mostly go fishing with my brother in law these days, and we always have a great time.  But he LOVES to talk trash when he catches more fish, or catches the biggest fish, or really any other excuse he can get.

 

I just think to myself, "You're on my boat, at my spot, fishing my lure that I told you to use and how to work....your fish are all at least half mine"

 

Part of the fun of fishing!

[the reel ess]

1 hour ago, gilkeybr said:

You saying this brought a smile to my face.  I mostly go fishing with my brother in law these days, and we always have a great time.  But he LOVES to talk trash when he catches more fish, or catches the biggest fish, or really any other excuse he can get.

 

I just think to myself, "You're on my boat, at my spot, fishing my lure that I told you to use and how to work....your fish are all at least half mine"

 

Part of the fun of fishing!

Yeah, this buddy of mine could catch 10 tiny bream to my 9 bass and still try to rub that in. LOL. But he's my best friend and that's just how he is about everything.

 

I remember once we went in my fish & ski boat and he caught about a 4 pounder early in the trip. He stopped fishing nad started sending pics of the fish to every contact in his phone and drinking beer, all the while talking smack to me about how much better he is at fishing than I am. I caught a bigger one right before we took the boat out. He was mad. I told him you can't catch fish without a lure in the water. And besides, I'm just better.

[Munkin]

Free guided trip, free lures, and free snacks I want to be your new fishing buddy.

 

I had a guy in my old club that fished as a co-angler that would use my baits. I would ask him what is the secret bait to which he would respond "they are in your tackle bag". If I got on a pattern I would give him whatever I had that was working. He would just ask what it was and what it cost. At the end of the day he would give me cash to compensate for anything that was lost.

 

Allen

[Further North]

On 8/16/2018 at 6:46 PM, Wurming67 said:

I think I'm gonna text him I'm putting a tackle warehouse order in you need any worms cause we went thru all mine last trip?Too harsh?

Perfect. If that doesn't work, be direct.

[Ratherbfishing]

It SOUNDS as though, at the beginning, you didn't know this is going to be a problem but it has become one.  When you talk to him, frame it this way-that you didn't know it was gong to be an issue but it has become one.  Say something like: "I understand that you may not want to fill an entire tacklebox with lures you may or may NOT use HOWEVER it gets expensive when you borrow mine, lose them, and then don't replace them or pay me back for them."  See how he responds.  If he is willing to listen, then continue the dialogue.  If he refuses to budge, just don't invite him back anymore.

 

I take a 12-year-old fishing every now and again.  I've given him a fair number of baits for Christmas, etc.  Usually, we look in his box to see if he has something that is appropriate and THEN, if the bass are picky, I'll offer to let him use one of my baits.  More and more, he's getting the idea that lures are not free or infinite and he's catching onto the concept of "You play, you pay."  But your friend is not (i don't think) 12 years old.  He should not have be nursed.

[blckshirt98]

Some people are just "like that" and don't feel like they need to pay their share when someone else can give them what they need.  It's not a fishing thing, it's a personality thing.  If you two golfed together he'd probably be asking you if he could borrow some of your golf balls or hitch a ride in a golf cart you paid for.