The friend...

[MassYak85]

"Hey man, I don't mind letting you borrow stuff or try some of my lures occasionally but if you are going to do it every trip you should really get yourself some of your own lures so I can use mine". I'd just wait until next time he asks, let him borrow it that time but set a precedent going forward. Just say it somewhat casually it doesn't have to be something all that confrontational. And if he has an issue with you not letting him use your stuff then just don't take him anymore. 

[geo g]

Worming, if its a friend I invite that is brand new to fishing, I will supply everything. 

 

If its a friend I frequently take, I would make it clear it's his responsibility to bring all he will need including water.  I supply the boat, gas, and locations.  Everything else you need you supply for yourself.  I would tell him this a few days before the trip, so he has time to get everything, and be prepared for once.  If that doesn't work, he doesn't get any more calls.  He will eventually figure it out!

[DINK WHISPERER]

Welcome to the club, we have shirts! Mine does that every single trip out. My partner is my 9 yr old son. ?

But seriously though, just tell him the truth man. If you're good enough friends then that's the only way. 

[looking45]

If you're ok with losing him as a fishing partner, and maybe as a friend,  I would just tell him that you can't afford to keep taking him fishing. The next time he wants to go, he has to show up with his own lunch and baits. Don't let him walk over you. If he shows up again empty handed, don't take him. 

[Scott F]

50 minutes ago, Wurming67 said:

It's one thing borrowing and another supporting ,think I'm gonna go solo bring my seven rods ,two tackle bags sandwiches,drinks and Copenhagen and enjoy mother nature.Thanks guys!

Next next time, on the way to the lake, make a detour to a tackle shop and tell him what to buy. Next stop at the gas station, tell him it’s his turn to buy. Have him fill the tank, and, tell him which snacks and drinks you’d like.

[A-Jay]

Stop enabling.

A-Jay

 

[NorcalBassin]

Yep, if you permit it you promote it. There are many ways to say what needs to be said in a respectful manner that would likely end up with you guys still being fishing buddies... all about the delivery.

[813basstard]

Make him buy the beer. Beer is the great equalizer. Through the history of time. I think that’s in the book of Numerator  

[MichaelCopeland]

Tell him your car broke down and you need him to take you to the tackle shop. Go in pick out a bunch of lures and baits. When you get to the checkout counter tell him you forgot your wallet and tell him you'll pay him back. Then immediately after he pays and you're out in his car, hand him the bag of lures and baits and tell him you got these for him. ?

[Wurming67]

7 hours ago, WCWV said:

My fishing buddy does that all the time, but she's my wife ?

But I do eat all the snacks she brings, I seldom take many snacks but when she goes, we have all kinds of stuff.

Last time I had cold watermelon 

Wife is different we have the same checking account lol

My wife said to me if he ask just say no get your own stuff lol 

What's really crazy is he doesn't even bring rain gear we our in South Florida,but if we ever got stuck out there overnight 2 bottles if water he brings and no rain gear makes for a long night in the Everglades... I bring more than I need food,water,bug spray etc just in case

[Oregon Native]

It's not fun to play mind games while out on the water or getting ready to.  My opinion....unless he is broke my time would be less and less with said person.

I have a good friend I fish with and it's kind of funny...if one of us should get on a good bite with something and the other one says OH....I should put that on we'll complain and tell one another not to as it usually turns off the bite!!

[Mobasser]

Not a problem for me. My fishing partner is my 13yr old grandson. He helps out with chores and buys some of his own baits, and I let him use some of mine. He always puts them back and takes care of them. After earning the money to buy some of his own lures- he understands it can get costly

[Derek1]

I think everyone has a freind like that, mine not a fishing buddy. Instead he drinks my beers, smokes my smokes, hot dogs at the barbecue lol. I have to laugh it off. If he brings beers he takes what’s left with him when he leaves. I’m surprised he doesn’t squeak when he walks. I’m sure his bank account embarrasses mine. 

[the reel ess]

Give him a Trick Worm. He'll catch fish. If it's windy, make it a weighted T rig. If it's deep, make it a C rig. If it's shallow, weightless works. That's what I give my buddy when we go kayaking and he catches fish on it most trips.

8 minutes ago, Derek1 said:

I think everyone has a freind like that, mine not a fishing buddy. Instead he drinks my beers, smokes my smokes, hot dogs at the barbecue lol. I have to laugh it off. If he brings beers he takes what’s left with him when he leaves. I’m surprised he doesn’t squeak when he walks. I’m sure his bank account embarrasses mine. 

I have the opposite friend. He'll always buy the (cheap) beer. But he doesn't know anything about fishing and isn't into it like I am. So if I want to hang out with him fishing I have to outfit him. He can hang with me on bream though. But I usually still have to rig him up. He won't have hooks, bobbers or split shot. Then, of course, he'll talk smack if he catches one more than I do. At least I don't have to bait his hook and take them off. And he brings the aforementioned beer. That's because i usually don't take beer fishing, so he has to if he wants some.

 

But I have another fishing buddy I go with who's on-par with me as far as equipment and knowledge. He has a better boat than me and I'll go with him when it's cold or just when he offers. 

[Spankey]

12 hours ago, Wurming67 said:

Forgot to mention he also eats my snacks and drinks.I think I realized thru your comment he's really not a good fishing partner maybe a good friend but not a good fishing partner,I'll take my wife out and other times go by myself.

I'd ditch him in a heartbeat. A dead beat? But I prefer to bass fish alone. I enjoy getting my daughters and grandsons out. But that time is about them. 

2 hours ago, Mobasser said:

Not a problem for me. My fishing partner is my 13yr old grandson. He helps out with chores and buys some of his own baits, and I let him use some of mine. He always puts them back and takes care of them. After earning the money to buy some of his own lures- he understands it can get costly

I have two grandsons and they are just like that. Good kids. I help them out to have what they need. After I'm dead and gone they will have more then they'll ever need. 

[BassNJake]

13 hours ago, Wurming67 said:

Do any of you guys have a fishing partner that is always borroing baits from you while you are out fishing?I do!!!I don't mind sharing a bait with my fishing buddy if I am on fish but every time I take him out it's constant and it's made me not ask him to go fishing as much as I use to and he makes more money than me!!!.Any suggestions how to confront him ?Do I just send him a text and say dude u gotta start buying some baits?

 

This is why I fish alone unless it's tourney day.

I'm trying to enjoy my time on the water and learn a little something, not babysit a grown man that doesn't understand common courtesy.

 

 

[J Francho]

Borrowing a hard bait?  Maybe.  Plastics?  Get out of my boat now.

[Glaucus]

My fishing buddy is less experienced and much further behind on the tackle he owns, being that this is his third season ever. He'll sometimes ask to use this or that lure. If he liked it, the next time we go out, he's bought his own of whatever lure or plastic. He also pays for lunch and beer. He's not using my stuff because he doesn't want to buy his own; he uses my stuff to determine what he likes and needs to buy - and he does it.

[Deleted account]

Text him? I assume he's within 20 feet of you when you go fishing, no? Peek down at the two boys between your legs, and then look him in the eye and tell him how you feel. 

[Spankey]

2 hours ago, BassNJake said:

This is why I fish alone unless it's tourney day.

I'm trying to enjoy my time on the water and learn a little something, not babysit a grown man that doesn't understand common courtesy.

 

 

I hear that man. And along with the common courtesy these people are not there for the same thing as I. I'm there to accomplish something. To better my personal best. I'm sorry, that's why we are going. I would rather take a green horn guy, gal or kid and put on a learning/fishing clinic with someone who has never caught a bass and really wanted to catch one. I have done this and enjoyed myself and know they appreciated it. Others. Some have come along but I sense they really don't want to be there. I can sense that once I tell them to be at the ramp at 4:50 am. But with my daughters or grandsons it's different. I approach it different. 

[JustJames]

I don't think you should call him fishing buddy, just a friend. He might not care about fishing as much as you do and think that he does you a favor to accompany you fishing that why he entitles to use your stuffs. Tell him up front he is on his own if he wanna go fishing with you and see what he says. 

[geo g]

2 hours ago, Glaucus said:

My fishing buddy is less experienced and much further behind on the tackle he owns, being that this is his third season ever. He'll sometimes ask to use this or that lure. If he liked it, the next time we go out, he's bought his own of whatever lure or plastic. He also pays for lunch and beer. He's not using my stuff because he doesn't want to buy his own; he uses my stuff to determine what he likes and needs to buy - and he does it.

That's OK in my book.

 

[Glaucus]

2 minutes ago, geo g said:

That's OK in my book.

 

Yep. I'm happy to do it. Not so much if it was simply a bum pattern.

[Bass Turd]

Sign him up for LTB and MTB. He'll be so busy trying to use his new baits he won't have time to borrow yours.

[Buffdaddy54]

18 hours ago, LionHeart said:

Well you said he's your friend, and he's a dude.  Just be direct and honest.  That easy.  Next question...

 

P.S., dude don't do this by text message.  Do this face to face

Agree. If he is really a friend, you owe him the truth. If he gets offended that's on him, you need to be truthful in a kind way. In the long run it will either strengthen that friendship or you know you can now cut the line and move on.

What ever you decide, be kind!