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[Wurming67]

Do any of you guys have a fishing partner that is always borroing baits from you while you are out fishing?I do!!!I don't mind sharing a bait with my fishing buddy if I am on fish but every time I take him out it's constant and it's made me not ask him to go fishing as much as I use to and he makes more money than me!!!.Any suggestions how to confront him ?Do I just send him a text and say dude u gotta start buying some baits?

 

[jeffo21]

sign him up for Bass Pro, or tackle warehouse catalog and maybe he will get the hint

[NHBull]

Offer to place an order for in on his behalf to TW for a starter kit. 

 

Or

 

Tell him your placing an other and ask if he wants to piggyback one

 

Or

 

"your becoming a pain in the a**, hit Walmart on your way home"

[Wurming67]

1 minute ago, jeffo21 said:

sign him up for Bass Pro, or tackle warehouse catalog and maybe he will get the hint

I think he already gets bass pro shop catalog......

[jeffo21]

lol well before you go next time accidently forget your tackle box or just flat tell him hey dude buy some tackle

 

[Wurming67]

I think I'm gonna text him I'm putting a tackle warehouse order in you need any worms cause we went thru all mine last trip?Too harsh?

[soflabasser]

Does he have anything to offer you while you guys fish? Does he take you to good spots, teach you new techniques, help drive the boat, anchor the boat, bring food and drinks, help clean the boat,etc? If the answer is no to all these questions then it's time to tell him he needs to help out more and stop taking your lures. 

[jeffo21]

nope atleast you will know if he is willing to buy some or be the biggest tackle bum you ever saw

[CroakHunter]

Just don't let him borrow stuff 

[Wurming67]

1 minute ago, soflabasser said:

Does he have anything to offer you while you guys fish? Does he take you to good spots, teach you new techniques, help drive the boat, anchor the boat, bring food and drinks, help clean the boat,etc? If the answer is no to all these questions then it's time to tell him he needs to help out more and stop taking your lures. 

He will help with gas but he doesn't have anything I would need to borrow,it's like I'm his tackle box and guide ,not really digging it,not cool,but I've known him long time.

[soflabasser]

4 minutes ago, Wurming67 said:

He will help with gas but he doesn't have anything I would need to borrow,it's like I'm his tackle box and guide ,not really digging it,not cool,but I've known him long time.

Sounds like he is treating you like a guide. I have had similar experiences and that's why I rarely invite anyone fishing with me, with the exception of my better half,my family,close friends, and maybe someone who can offer something worth my time(someone who also knows how to fish well and makes a good fishing partner).

[Log Catcher]

Maybe he needs to sign up for LTB or MTB. He will always have new baits coming in. Maybe then you can borrow some of his.

[slonezp]

I find it's best to have no friends.

[Bassin' Brad]

I would just drop some subtle hints the next time y'alls out. For instance "Hey dude can I borrow some worms"  "No butt face get your own tackle or go home" 

 

If he doesn't get the subtle gentle hints you may have to get more harsh. 

[Wurming67]

11 minutes ago, soflabasser said:

Sounds like he is treating you like a guide. I have had similar experiences and that's why I rarely invite anyone fishing with me, with the exception of my better half,my family,close friends, and maybe someone who can offer something worth my time(someone who also knows how to fish well and makes a good fishing partner).

Forgot to mention he also eats my snacks and drinks.I think I realized thru your comment he's really not a good fishing partner maybe a good friend but not a good fishing partner,I'll take my wife out and other times go by myself.

[LionHeart]

Well you said he's your friend, and he's a dude.  Just be direct and honest.  That easy.  Next question...

 

P.S., dude don't do this by text message.  Do this face to face

[Goldstar225]

This bring to mind a saying that I've used several times. 

 

"No one can take advantage of you without your consent".

[soflabasser]

15 minutes ago, Wurming67 said:

Forgot to mention he also eats my snacks and drinks.I think I realized thru your comment he's really not a good fishing partner maybe a good friend but not a good fishing partner,I'll take my wife out and other times go by myself.

Sounds like he is a very greedy guy the way you are describing him. He does not buy you any snacks and drinks to eat and you take him out for free? He does not help with cleaning the boat,driving the boat,anchoring,or any other normal boat maintenance? You need to sit down and talk to this guy if he really is your friend and tell him to start helping more. If he doesn't well stop taking him.

[Wurming67]

I realized by posting this topic what's going on I'm allowing it ,it's not enjoyable to me,go back to fishing by myself and wife.

[EGbassing]

You could just not take him fishing. He sounds like someone I would not want to fish with.

 

Or you could always just try to get him to sign up for MTB pro.

[Brew City Bass]

I lost one fishing buddy to this. Notorious for always "forgetting" to hit the tackle shop. Always "Just let me borrow it, I'll pay you back if I lose it". 

Last straw was this past spring. I was on a deep crankbait bite and he didn't have any deep cranks... He begged to use one of my 6XD's and I told him if he loses it (like he always does) he is paying me $10 right out of his wallet. He lost it not even 5 minutes later to a snag. I told him to either get swimming or cough up the $10. He laughed and said he'd buy me a new one whenever. I told him no, you're giving me the $10 like he agreed to. He copped an attitude and said whatever. 

I turned around and he was tying on ANOTHER one of my 6XD's. I told him it's not even funny, take it off. He made a big deal about it. I dropped his ass off at the ramp and told him to take a hike. It shouldn't have even been an argument. I take him out on my boat for free, he eats my food, drinks my beer, and never offers any $$ for gas or anything. Now he is actually costing me money with losing my baits. Unacceptable. His wife had to come get him from the ramp. 

I have a bunch of lures I absolutely don't mind letting friends use and even lose. It happens. But there are certain things of mine you don't touch (like cranks, ploppers, swimbaits) or if you lose em, you pay the cost and the gas it takes me to go get em. I fish with about 3 dudes fairly often, and every single one of them always have their own gear, and always offer up cash for gas or bring food. I never ask for money because I was going on the lake anyways, but these guys get it and they're a pleasure to fish with. That other guy can pound sand though.

[Mikeltee]

I bust all my friends balls and they do the same to me. So.... bust his balls. "d**n son... I am tired of you catching more fish than me on my baits. Go buy your own"

If he whines, hes not a friend. 

 

[Wurming67]

It's one thing borrowing and another supporting ,think I'm gonna go solo bring my seven rods ,two tackle bags sandwiches,drinks and Copenhagen and enjoy mother nature.Thanks guys!

[haggard]

Set expectations.

 

Before the next trip out, tell him you're going minimalist, self sufficient, taking only what you need, then cutting that in half. 

 

[WCWV]

My fishing buddy does that all the time, but she's my wife ?

But I do eat all the snacks she brings, I seldom take many snacks but when she goes, we have all kinds of stuff.

Last time I had cold watermelon