Dealing with one of the most difficult thing someone can face.

[LegendaryBassin]

I have been an avid fisherman my entire life and have been dealing with something that many people face and would like not only to share my experience but also receive support from other anglers. Over the past years I was wondering why that I was always so sad all the time,. Has anybody ever gone through something similar?

 

This took a lot for me to come out and talk about this but I figured what better than the fishing community to help me through this. Thanks guys/gals.

[Scott F]

Fishermen are not the people who should be helping. You should seek professional help from a person qualified in dealing with depression. 

[Tennessee Boy]

Please get help with this.   There are people who really can help.  If you don't know where to get help,  start with your doctor.  PLEASE!

[LegendaryBassin]

8 minutes ago, Tennessee Boy said:

Please get help with this.   There are people who really can help.  If you don't know where to get help,  start with your doctor.  PLEASE!

Thanks Tennessee Boy! I truly hope they will be able to help.

[NYWayfarer]

39 minutes ago, LegendaryBassin said:

Thanks Tennessee Boy! I truly hope they will be able to help.

A doctor can diagnose if you have clinical depression. He/she can get you treatment if needed.

[Junger]

I think everyone goes through rough patches in their lives. I failed out of college my first year, I partly blame my parents for forcing me to go to a specific school and major, and I was facing real adversity for the first time in my life. While I partly blame my parents, I can also partially give them credit for helping me through it. I enrolled in community college the next 3 semesters, proved to myself I was capable...after choosing the major I wanted, and eventually transferred to another major school and graduated with honors.

 

I've seen other people go through severe depression, including my brother. He pulled through it, but it took a lot longer than it should have because he didn't seek or want professional help. Today, he acknowledges that period in his life, as do I. And as other have said, get professional help, and the more you talk about it, the more therapeutic it may become, as other people will share their stories with you. Best wishes to you.

[Jar11591]

Get help. Don’t be ashamed or embarrassed about it. Both depression and anxiety run in my family, and I’ve had severe bouts of both. The last several years though, I’ve gotten it under control and it probably would have been a lot shorter of a duration had I listened to the people who were trying to help me. It’s to the point where I’m totally confident in my ability, should either flare up again, to pull myself out of it. So get help, talk to people you’re close to and listen to any advice. Professional help will be your best bet. And don’t think they’re just gonna throw pills at you. I managed to get it under control with zero anti-depressants or anti-anxiety meds. 

 

Couple other tips. First, anybody who says things like “just cheer up” or “you don’t have anything to be sad about” pay them no mind. It’s pure ignorance from people who obviously have never experienced it. And last thing, I’ve found the best cure for depression or anxiety is real physical exercise. What really helped me was playing basketball, and running a mile or 2 every day. Exercise works wonders on depression. 

[Junger]

17 minutes ago, Jar11591 said:

And last thing, I’ve found the best cure for depression or anxiety is real physical exercise. What really helped me was playing basketball, and running a mile or 2 every day. Exercise works wonders on depression. 

So true...I forgot one of the things that actually made me happy was Friday night Open Gym volleyball back when I was in my rut.

[LegendaryBassin]

Thanks guys! I just know what something is not right and that I should be a happier person. I will definitely start becoming more active as I have also heard that is extremely beneficial. 

 

It's definitely hard as I constantly dwell on my past. I wish I had the I don't give a crap or oh well mentality but I don't take failure well. I have a lack of confidence, high anxiety, I worry about everything and let the smallest things get to me, etc. I have always put off getting help, but I think it may be best in addition to exercise. 

[slonezp]

 

[BrianinMD]

PLEASE get professional help!!

 

I went thru a period during my separation/divorce, tried to just get thru it without admitting where I was. I stood at the top of a cliff one day and wrote a note to say goodbye. Luckily something got me to turn around and go home. My friends who I shared a house with knew something was up when I got there and gave me a choice of voluntary going into the hospital or they would call the cops for a forced one. I went voluntarily, spent 3 days in there and learned alot about where I was and who I was. I got thru it and now life could not be better.

 

Please find proper help!!!

[burrows]

Their is a crisis hot line you can call in every community look for it online.

 

[Sam]

On ‎7‎/‎17‎/‎2018 at 12:55 PM, Scott F said:

Fishermen are not the people who should be helping. You should seek professional help from a person qualified in dealing with depression. 

X2.  Depression is life threatening and we don't want to lose you.

 

Please see a psychologist who can help you or suggest a good psychiatrist.

 

We all get down from time to time and when you can't shake the funk you need to see a professional.

[Darren.]

While we may not be pros with depression, or Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD),

etc., your post has triggered some great advice to seek professional help. So in 

a way, it's a blessing in disguise  .

 

While the topic is too often seen as a weakness among the Testosterone Gang, it

is real and has real impact on not just you, but others, as well. Good on you for 

being honest with yourself, and asking for help/advice.

 

Now go have a talk with your doctor about it. S/he can help.

[Oregon Native]

Lots of good info....exercise is always good.  Talking to someone you can trust is amazing also.  Best of luck to you.

Lifted......

[CarolinaBassN]

Already some great advice on this post. I have struggled with anxiety\depression for about 6-7 years now. I kept putting off seeking help. One day a good friend of mine, who was dealing with some of the same issues, came and we had a long talk. He ask me, "if you had the flu for this long would you keep putting off going to the Dr.?" I said of course not, he said well depression is no different. Its an illness and you need help to get over it. I got on meds, ADs, for awhile and it really helped me. Now I am on no meds and can deal with it on my own. I still have good days\bad days, but I think thats normal. Go talk to your doctor, and start a good exercise program. Depression is NOT to be left untreated!!!

[crypt]

as someone who's wife is in the same situation, I can tell you to PLEASE get professional help  ASAP. My wife has been going to therapy and it has made such a positive difference. so please make the call. and good luck.

[DRT]

Its a shame that there seems to be a negative stigma associated with depression (i'm not saying on this forum, just in general) as there shouldn't be a negative stigma at all.  Its a real medical condition just like diabetes or blood pressure problems. I myself have struggled with this in the past and it was only after I sought out medical help that I improved. Dont listen to people who say its not real or "just snap out of it", as its simply not that easy. Please seek help as soon as possible so you can get back on your feet and start enjoying life again. Trust me, it can and will get better. Sending prayers.

[greentrout]

as others have said...also look to your spiritual advisor and congregation and read the Bible...

[Angry John]

There are all types of depression issues and causes.  When my child died it wrecked me for a long time.  Sometimes good friends can help you talk through it.  In my wife's case it took meds and therapy.  Not a one size fits all thing.  Don't spiral before seeking help, as it is much more difficult to undo bad choices later.  To me depression is like cancer the sooner you start treatment the better.