White lies to go fishing...

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Nope, no point anyway. She's a trained interrogator. 

[jbmaine]

Personally, I would never lie to my wife, but even if I wanted to I couldn't. It's pretty hard to lie to her about fishing when she's sitting right next to me in the boat.

[OkobojiEagle]

I consider "white" to be a hi-vis color...

 

 

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[islandbass]

5 hours ago, NYWayfarer said:

No lies here. My wife would smell the fish on me when I get home and I would be busted.

 

Life should be a balance of time with the family and time to yourself. When one is out of whack is when the problems start.

Bam! No amount of soap or sanitizer can totally eliminate the fishy smell from my hands if I did that. 

 

So if I say I'm going to the gym, I go to the gym, then fish.  You know, maybe 30-45 minutes at the gym and the remaining time fishing. For me, even a teeny, tiny white lie would affect my conscience and therefore my fishing.

[Siebert Outdoors]

No lies here.  I say I'm going fishing.  Wanna go?

[lo n slo]

i married the best gal in the world

[rtwvumtneer6]

36 minutes ago, Siebert Outdoors said:

No lies here.  I say I'm going fishing.  Wanna go?

Same here... 9/10 the answer is, "No, but you can go if you want." 

 

Even if I could live with the lie, the yellow stained fingers and lingering scent of garlic would give it away.  She's still sensitive to the smells of fishing.  I tell her it takes me a day of hard work on the water to smell that good!

[Rahlow]

Lie to the wife? Does that mean you catch hell for fishing? I got 99 problems but a ***** ain’t 1.

Edit to ask: What ya gonna tell her when ya catch a personal best?

Another lie?

[Quarry Man]

I told my parents that I had to go fishing as part of an english project, being like Thoreau and exploring the wilderness. Ended up writing about a different time on the water, but I got to go fishing and skip soccer practice!

[YaknBassn]

I guess I got lucky. My wife tells me to go fishing whenever I start to irritate her just a bit.  

 

For me, fishing is an acceptable excuse to get out of nearly anything.  

 

"My parents want to do brunch Saturday."

"I was planning on going to the lake."

"Oh, well...I'll just tell them you had to work."

 

 

[A-Jay]

9 minutes ago, YaknBassn said:

I guess I got lucky. My wife tells me to go fishing whenever I start to irritate her just a bit.  

 

For me, fishing is an acceptable excuse to get out of nearly anything.  

 

"My parents want to do brunch Saturday."

"I was planning on going to the lake."

"Oh, well...I'll just tell them you had to work."

 

 

So your wife lies for you . . . . 

Sweet.

A-Jay

[Goldstar225]

Well, most of the folks here spoke out against lying and so shall I.  Calling it a white lie is just rationalizing it to justify it to yourself.  If you can't man up enough to tell your wife the truth about fishing, what else will you lie about?

 

Of course one other person admitted doing the same thing so maybe that's all the reinforcement you need to make yourself OK with it.

[Junger]

20 minutes ago, Goldstar225 said:

Well, most of the folks here spoke out against lying and so shall I.  Calling it a white lie is just rationalizing it to justify it to yourself.  If you can't man up enough to tell your wife the truth about fishing, what else will you lie about?

 

Of course one other person admitted doing the same thing so maybe that's all the reinforcement you need to make yourself OK with it.

Actually, I think everyone just helped me understand that it's me that has the problem. I'm really not sure why I'm trying to hide it. I think I'm a really good father, I spend a lot of time with my kids when they're awake, I spend a lot of time with my wife and even watch her shows with her (Jersey Shore, Dancing with the Stars, Catfish)...maybe I just feel guilty asking her for time to myself. Anyways, I'm going fishing Friday after hitting some golf balls after work, and that'll be the first step in stopping these white lies.

[Goldstar225]

7 hours ago, Junger said:

Actually, I think everyone just helped me understand that it's me that has the problem. I'm really not sure why I'm trying to hide it. I think I'm a really good father, I spend a lot of time with my kids when they're awake, I spend a lot of time with my wife and even watch her shows with her (Jersey Shore, Dancing with the Stars, Catfish)...maybe I just feel guilty asking her for time to myself. Anyways, I'm going fishing Friday after hitting some golf balls after work, and that'll be the first step in stopping these white lies.

 

I think that if you make that change, you will have more respect for yourself.  Good luck and best wishes.

[DINK WHISPERER]

21 hours ago, gimruis said:

"Some men run their house, and some men run around their house." - Sam Cassell 

So glad I don't ever have to put "can I" in front of anything! ?

[Traumabrew]

I am no longer married. But the bottom line is honesty is the best policy. If I ever get married again, I will tell her exactly what I'm doing. You need to have trust in any relationship. You need to trust her enough to tell her you are going fishing. Think about her reactions and thoughts when she finds out you are not going to the gym. She will think you are out fishing but not for bass if you know what I mean....

[NHBull]

Mine encourages me....

 

I prefer to think she wants me to relax,

but it could be she just wants me out of her hair..?

[LionHeart]

Never lie to my wife, and I expect the same from her.  There are no white lies, just lies.

[BrianinMD]

No lies, just a text or let her know I am going fishing and when i would be gone.

 

Week long trip to Alabama earlier this year, text conversation was a total of "I won't be home the week of ***", "why", "Going fishing in Alabama"....all done.

 

Even though people get married they are still individuals and need their time. As stated before if you have to lie you got bigger issues.

[MrFrost]

I learned a very valuable lesson on the damage a stupid small lie can do.  I am guilty of "little white lies" and then I actually told a substantial lie, and got caught.  Realized the reason I lied (about a non-fishing purchase) was because subconsciously I knew it was a very bad timed and selfish purchase, that the wife wouldn't have had a problem with me making, but I knew it was selfish, so I hid it and lied about it.  

 

Now, to avoid damaging the trust I have re-established, when asked a question I will immediately respond 100% truthful because it's easier to be honest even if the truth hurts than it is to rebuild trust.  

 

 

[NYWayfarer]

40 minutes ago, BrianinMD said:

Week long trip to Alabama earlier this year, text conversation was a total of "I won't be home the week of ***", "why", "Going fishing in Alabama"....all done.

No offense, but I could not imagine texting my wife to tell her I would be gone for a week. Seems like something that should be discussed in person.

 

This goes to show everyone's situation is unique. Only you know what your spouse will tolerate.

 

[12poundbass]

16 hours ago, Rahlow said:

What ya gonna tell her when ya catch a personal best?

Another lie?

 

[LonnieP]

I don't understand the difference in going to the gym and going fishing? 

[jr231]

What you gonna do when she sees no progress from the "gym" ? Lol 

 

If the worst thing you do behind her back is fish, then you're a good man. If she doesn't allow you to fish (given all the immoral things you could be doing) then you should probably choose a different partner.  

[BrianinMD]

1 hour ago, NYWayfarer said:

No offense, but I could not imagine texting my wife to tell her I would be gone for a week. Seems like something that should be discussed in person.

 

This goes to show everyone's situation is unique. Only you know what your spouse will tolerate.

 

When you are in different places you chose a manner of communication which is available. If questions exist you can go over them later. She encourages me to fish and go on trips. It was because of her I bought my boat, all she said was do it now while you can you can never predict the future. She has her horses and her time away too.