Super User roadwarrior Posted May 4, 2017 Super User Posted May 4, 2017 Correct. The implication was "Dump her". 1
Global Moderator 12poundbass Posted May 4, 2017 Global Moderator Posted May 4, 2017 5 minutes ago, Austin11C said: I think he posted that as to say "dump" her Yup I'm a dumba$$!Â
Austin11C Posted May 4, 2017 Author Posted May 4, 2017 Just now, 12poundbass said: Yup I'm a dumba$$! No, I watched the whole thing too wondering what it meant and it took a while before I got it. Haha 1
Global Moderator 12poundbass Posted May 4, 2017 Global Moderator Posted May 4, 2017 5 minutes ago, roadwarrior said: Correct. The implication was "Dump her". Went right over my apparent brainless head! ? I knew I was gambling by saying I didn't get it....exact reason why I don't gamble, never works out in my favor!
Super User Choporoz Posted May 4, 2017 Super User Posted May 4, 2017 lol....or, maybe just offering suggestions for application of shallow-grave landscape fill
Global Moderator 12poundbass Posted May 4, 2017 Global Moderator Posted May 4, 2017 How ironic, as I sit here in disbelief I didn't get that a gravel train comes by and drops a load of sand off at the job I'm at and all I can do it laugh! I see it several times a week, this is the only time in 7 years I've found it funny!  Thanks Roadwarrior!!!! Just in case you didn't believe me. ?  1
Bassin' Brad Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 Have 3 or 4 kids. I've heard that's a very time consuming hobby that will keep her busy all day. She won't be complaining about being bored with 3 or 4 little hoodlums running around Lol! Best of luck hope it works out for ya. 2
frosty Posted May 4, 2017 Posted May 4, 2017 5 hours ago, 12poundbass said: How ironic, as I sit here in disbelief I didn't get that a gravel train comes by and drops a load of sand off at the job I'm at and all I can do it laugh! I see it several times a week, this is the only time in 7 years I've found it funny!  Thanks Roadwarrior!!!! Just in case you didn't believe me. ?  That does not look like a safe place to stand... 2
Global Moderator 12poundbass Posted May 4, 2017 Global Moderator Posted May 4, 2017 1 hour ago, frosty said: That does not look like a safe place to stand... Good eyes! Thanks for turning that too. I wonder how long before someone will notice he's missing?
frosty Posted May 5, 2017 Posted May 5, 2017 (edited) 34 minutes ago, 12poundbass said: Good eyes! Thanks for turning that too. I wonder how long before someone will notice he's missing? I give it two days. Or until the dozer pushes the pile up Edited May 5, 2017 by frosty 1
Super User soflabasser Posted May 5, 2017 Super User Posted May 5, 2017 On 5/3/2017 at 5:53 PM, Austin11C said: Thanks soflabasser. That's good ideas. That's more the type of advice I was looking for. I figured someone had a similar experience where their gf/wife didn't like it when they went fishing and they actually figured something out besides leaving them. Thanks. You are welcome @Austin11C.My better half enjoys fishing, just nowhere near as much as I do.She's ok with fishing for a couple hours, but I tend to fish for 8 to +12 hours at a time and thats not something everyone enjoys. She still fishes these long fishing trips with me and we recently came back from a fishing trip up north. I consider her my lucky charm since I often catch big fish when she's by my side and on this trip I caught several citation sized muskies and smallies . Some of her other hobbies are running, weight lifting, diving, and feeding wildlife, I join her in these hobbies as well. On 5/4/2017 at 1:42 AM, badgerboyng said: Have her come with you and read a book while you fish. It's the most classic solution.  Good answer. 2
Super User NYWayfarer Posted May 5, 2017 Super User Posted May 5, 2017 On ‎5‎/‎3‎/‎2017 at 4:17 PM, Austin11C said: My girlfriend has basically no hobbies and always wants "attention".  To complete the trifecta of women to stay away from I have to ask the following question: Does she have any friends? If the answer is no, I say run away, run as fast and as far away as you can.  No hobbies, needy and no friends. If I wanted to set you up with a girl and I gave you this list as what you could expect would you still want to meet this girl?  I know all of this might sound jarring and a bit harsh but it's common sense. I find that common sense solutions often sound that way.  If she does have friends it would be good to suggest that on days you go fishing she should do something with them rather than sit at home. 4
Super User Ratherbfishing Posted May 5, 2017 Super User Posted May 5, 2017 Seems to me that in order for there to be a "happy ending", she is either going to have to learn to be content when you go fishing or you are going to have to be content by not going fishing. Â If she continuously punishes you for your hobby, than give it up. Â Or give her up. 1
RPreeb Posted May 5, 2017 Posted May 5, 2017 I don't know the ages of the Op and his GF, but that can have something to do with it.  I've known younger women who really have spent so much of their time dating and trying to date that they haven't developed any other interests (seems like even when guys are in active dating mode, they still find time to discover other interests too).  They don't really have any other hobbies, and haven't seen any need for them because the boys/men they are with supply all of the input.  They appear to be needy, when what they actually need is to be introduced to some new activities that they can do with a girlfriend while their guy is out fishing.   My wife and I have always had some things we do together and other things we do separately.  We met both working part time teaching beginner scuba classes in a local dive shop, so we've always had that in common, even though now that I'm past 70, I don't dive any more.  I play golf quite a bit, she plays occasionally.  We do play 9 holes together about once a month.  She likes to gamble (under control), and I go with her about twice a year.  She spends the time in the casino (usually in Blackhawk CO), and I take a drive in the mountains, maybe try some jeep trails which she hates.  She gets comped with these beautiful suites and good restaurants in the casino, so we meet for dinner after doing our own thing most of the day.  Most of the time when she goes gambling I'll play golf, or now that I've rediscovered it, I might just go fishing.  We have a camping trailer and when we go camping, I'll do some fishing if there is any worthwhile fishing in the area.  Otherwise we just explore, hang in camp and read or just enjoy being there.
Global Moderator Bluebasser86 Posted May 6, 2017 Global Moderator Posted May 6, 2017 I dated a girl like that. Didn't want me to go fishing, so I'd stay home with her and she never wanted to do anything, then she'd complain she was bored and get mad because I didn't have any ideas of what we could go do (all I wanted to do was go fishing). There's nothing you can do to make it better. Be ready to give up fishing or give her up, those are really the only options. Thing is, if you find a new hobby, she'll probably be disapproving with that too, just how that type of person is. 1
quanjig Posted May 6, 2017 Posted May 6, 2017 My "EX" wife was exactly like that. I was her only source of entertainment. As much as I tried to "find" her friends and hobbies, she would just turn up her nose. It was very frustrating and ultimately was the reason we got a divorce. That was 8 years of my life that I will never get back! It's difficult to try and live ones life for another person, if she's unwilling to compromise, allow you your time and not have or want interests and time for her self, all I can say is good luck to you, it's a very tough road to hoe!! 1
Super User Gundog Posted May 7, 2017 Super User Posted May 7, 2017 Hand her this and walk out the door with your fishing rods.... Trust me its the cheapest way out of this. 1
Super User jbsoonerfan Posted May 7, 2017 Super User Posted May 7, 2017 Hopefully her hobby doesn't turn into going to the bar to shoot pool or something. Careful what you wish for sometimes. FWIW, I fish WAY less with my new soon-to-be wife than I did with me EX wife, if that tells you anything. 1
bigfruits Posted May 7, 2017 Posted May 7, 2017 On 5/3/2017 at 6:42 PM, frosty said:  If you don't mind me getting a little preachy, this could easily be avoided by not living together before marriage. She would be spending time without you, helping her to develop things she likes doing while you're doing things you enjoy. I hope you get things worked out.  no offense, Frosty, but not living together before marriage is a huge gamble. i probably would have been divorced 4 times had i not lived with former GFs.  to me it sounds like she is a little needy but with time it seems like she will give the OP some space. breaking up with someone about it is ridiculous advice. unless, of course, she gave an ultimatum. 2
frosty Posted May 7, 2017 Posted May 7, 2017 1 hour ago, bigfruits said:  no offense, Frosty, but not living together before marriage is a huge gamble. i probably would have been divorced 4 times had i not lived with former GFs.  to me it sounds like she is a little needy but with time it seems like she will give the OP some space. breaking up with someone about it is ridiculous advice. unless, of course, she gave an ultimatum. We will agree to disagree, amd I don't want to get into a debate about love and relationships, at least not in this thread  I will agree breaking up shouldn't be an option on the table though.Â
Super User deaknh03 Posted May 7, 2017 Super User Posted May 7, 2017 2 hours ago, frosty said: We will agree to disagree, amd I don't want to get into a debate about love and relationships, at least not in this thread  I will agree breaking up shouldn't be an option on the table though. Why shouldn't it be? People should stay together and be miserable? Life's too short for that. 2
frosty Posted May 7, 2017 Posted May 7, 2017 34 minutes ago, deaknh03 said: Why shouldn't it be? People should stay together and be miserable? Life's too short for that. He's not to miserable, he's said he doesn't want to leave her, sounds like more he's annoyed than anything. I don't know if you're married or in a serious relationship, but I find myself annoyed with my wife at least once a day, and I don't see that changing anytime soon! 5
CTBassin860 Posted May 9, 2017 Posted May 9, 2017 On 5/7/2017 at 4:39 PM, frosty said: He's not to miserable, he's said he doesn't want to leave her, sounds like more he's annoyed than anything. I don't know if you're married or in a serious relationship, but I find myself annoyed with my wife at least once a day, and I don't see that changing anytime soon! If he wants something needy and annoying he should get a dog.Then he can fish too! 4
Super User jbsoonerfan Posted May 9, 2017 Super User Posted May 9, 2017 On 5/7/2017 at 3:39 PM, frosty said: He's not to miserable, he's said he doesn't want to leave her, sounds like more he's annoyed than anything. I don't know if you're married or in a serious relationship, but I find myself annoyed with my wife at least once a day, and I don't see that changing anytime soon!   I agree. Most of the dump her advice is either coming from those who have never been married, or been married multiple times. If you are going to end a relationship because you can't fish as much as you would like, you either A. don't really love her, or B. Care more about yourself than you do her. This coming from someone who basically ruined a marriage because I chose my hobbies over time with me ex wife, And someone who wont make that mistake again. If you can't give up something to be with someone you "love" then by all means stay single. 2
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