In A Pickle

[ThatZX14Fella]

So, this is going to be a sad and soppy post, but I'm trying to hide my emotions from those around me. My grandfather (Pop) has cancer in his kidney and neck. I'm not sure how long he has left, and to be honest, I'm nowhere near ready to say goodbye. He's my best friend. He's always talked about the Mini-14 he got rid of and how he's regretted selling it. I made a promise to myself that I would one day buy him another. The problem is, I don't even know he'll ever be able to shoot it, but I want him to have the rifle anyways, but also, I need to save up for a bike so I can get a job and start helping with paying for things like bills and food and such so that it's a little weight lifted off everyone's shoulders during this. I could get the job and save up for the rifle, but like I said, I'm not sure how long does has left. It's a really aggressive form of cancer and they told him it's time to start writing his will. He also won't be doing treatments. Just lost on what to do and emotionally drained.

[deaknh03]

Sorry to hear about your grandfather. I would focus on spending time with him, and maybe get the gun down the road when your in a better position. The gun can then be a reminder or tribute to him, maybe have his name engraved on it. 

[Darren.]

Sad about your g'pa. I agree with @deaknh03 to

spend quality time with him with whatever time

he has left. And I like the engraving idea.

[Dwight Hottle]

As a cancer survivor I can tell you to spend as much time with him now as possible. You will not regret the time spent when he is gone but will be glad you shared the time together. It's not easy for you but remember it's not easy for him either. Tell him your thinking of buying him that gun but let him tell you his thoughts. Good luck moving forward and be strong for him.   

[ThatZX14Fella]

Just got back from the hospital. He's looking better and getting his voice back, but he's still in a lot of pain. He was talking about westerns most of the time and trying to hint that I should hook up with a nurse. Lol

[Oregon Native]

Tomorrows not a given for any of us.  Time with family is very precious.  Glad he is doing better....may our good Lord give you the time and the strength for some more good days.

[crypt]

spend as much time with him as possible.you won't get that time back,I know I've been there with my dad. cherish every moment.

[Jaderose]

I'm gonna guess you're pretty young...which makes this even more poignant because young people tend to be pretty selfish.  Not necessarily in a bad way...they just can't see big picture yet and that's ok.  Spend the time with your Grandad.  Not the money.  Tell him you will own that gun someday and you will always cherish it as it will be a representation of him.  Maybe...maybe...you can find one for him to shoot one last time if that's feasible.  Hell....ask a cop.  They would know who might have one.  Do NOT spend a lot of time trying to accumulate the funds to buy him one.  You WILL regret that time not spent with him if you do

[Bass Turd]

Cancer has touched my life like a hammer. Short term: Find a way to get some good westerns. Research a few and figure out how you two can watch them. DVD player in the room? IPad? Second it sounds like he has a great sense of humor. Keep that going and encourage it. He sounds like a great wing man. Someone on the inside....heh.  Talk about the gun. Maybe get it later. Focus on today and what you can do for him and with him. 

[lonnie g]

so sorry to hear your news. spend all of the time you can with him. every thing else you do later will remind you of him. they will almost certainly bring smiles as well. you will never regret the time, and is also something to be very proud of doing. my thoughts are with you and your family. 

[Buckeye Ron]

Forget worrying about buying him anything. It's just stuff anyways. What he needs now,what both of you need,is to spend as much time together as possible. I never knew any of my grandparents and you are blessed to still have yours. Please take advantage of it.

[Guest]

I'm am very sorry for what your grandpa is going threw I hope the best for you and him.

[N Florida Mike]

Sickness/ death of a loved one is hard to go through. My mom and dad both are gone now.The only thing harder than losing my dad was losing mom. I never knew my grand dad's.Both  of them died fairly young just working themselves T o death.So take advantage of every minute so you won't have regrets.I pray for peace and comfort for you both.

[ThatZX14Fella]

Unfortunately, we lost Pop on Monday, December 4th. It's been hard as hell to deal with. Been trying to keep my mind off of it and I'll just see something that reminds me of him or a memory will pop into my head and I'll just lose it. I have lost my best friend, and the biggest influence/roll model in my life. I am, however, forever thankful for the time I got to spend with him.

[lo n slo]

man, i hate to hear that brother. lost both of my parents within a few years of each other. it’s normal to grieve and it gets easier as time goes by. 

[Dwight Hottle]

My condolences. 

[Bluebasser86]

Sorry to hear that. 

[N Florida Mike]

Sorry for your loss.

 

[slonezp]

So sorry

[LOZSteve]

Prayers for you and your family during this time, sorry for your loss. 

[TnRiver46]

Prayers sent 

[DINK WHISPERER]

Sorry man! But don't try to hide/bury your emotions. They will eat you alive. When I lost my grandma, who raised me, I tried the same. Talk to someone about it and hold on to those memories you made with him. Best of luck and God bless. 

[DSTN]

Sorry for your loss.

[thinkingredneck]

All that you can do now is live  well as he would wish for you.  Remember his lessons and advice.  Sorry for your loss.

[TOXIC]

I went through the same thing with my grandfather who really introduced me to the fishing world.  He died of Leukemia when I was 14.  I spend all of my summers growing up with him and my grandmother in a small town in Iowa.  I am 60 years old and could go on for hours about the relationship I had with him.  Take some things that remind you of him and the happy times you had together and whenever you feel down, pull them out or go look at them.  The happy times will drown out the sadness of his passing.  I do this often.  I feel his presence every time I am on the water and it gives me the most beautiful sense of calm and peace.  Live your life in a way that would make him proud of you.  Do I miss him?  Yes I do but in a way he has never left and that is a good thing.