Just venting

[Burtonxj]

Just felt the need..

 

I lost my mom and dad on September 26th of this year. They both flew out to Indiana to pick up my dads "retirement truck", a 1978 Toyota FJ40..my mom never went on these kinda trips..dad was always flying somewhere to check out a new car/bike/truck..they were involved in an accident on the way back and they  didn't make it. 

 

Im a 27 year old "kid"..I've only ever lived at home..I've had a pretty full plate these days. Definetly a kick in the pants. 

 

They were a great couple and an even better mom and dad.

 

 

 

[A-Jay]

I'm very sorry to hear about your Parents -

I lost my Dad this past year.

I do realize this sounds super cliché' but I just try to remember the good times.

It helps a little.

Hope you & your family can find peace.

A-Jay

[Burtonxj]

Thanks A-Jay

 

We are trying. They raised 2 good kids. We'll get there.

[deaknh03]

Truly sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you find some solace in your memories of them.

[flyfisher]

I am not good at these types of things and I am lucky to still have both my parents around but what i can say is that you will get through it.  I'd also make sure you get that FJ and restore (if needed) it to how your dad would have wanted it and drive it, a lot  

 

I will be sure to send a few prayers your way.

[Burtonxj]

7 minutes ago, flyfisher said:

I am not good at these types of things and I am lucky to still have both my parents around but what i can say is that you will get through it.  I'd also make sure you get that FJ and restore (if needed) it to how your dad would have wanted it and drive it, a lot  

 

I will be sure to send a few prayers your way.

No worries man. Nothing to say. I do appreciate it.

 

Still driving the 85 4Runner we picked up in Pennyslvania. She just puked up 5qts of oil though..unfortunately (fortunately) got the car bug from pops too..

[wdp]

Sorry for your loss. I'm 50 and still fortunate to have both parents & a stepmom. We did lose my father-in-law last yr who lived a pretty full life to the age of 78. Still hurts like heck, and we miss him a lot. Especially my wife. 

 

It'll get better I promise. But there will always be a void left from the loss. Thoughts & prayers. 

[Burtonxj]

15 minutes ago, wdp said:

Sorry for your loss. I'm 50 and still fortunate to have both parents & a stepmom. We did lose my father-in-law last yr who lived a pretty full life to the age of 78. Still hurts like heck, and we miss him a lot. Especially my wife. 

 

It'll get better I promise. But there will always be a void left from the loss. Thoughts & prayers. 

 

Feeling like the walking dead these days..

 

Dont think I'd even be here if it wasn't for the love and support of my family.

 

It could be worse. 

 

[jr231]

If you have kids (or do someday) . They are going to love you just as you do your parents. And it's a feeling like no other. 

 

You have things to look forward to. 

 

I wish the best for you. 

[NYWayfarer]

My heart goes out to you. I can't imagine what you are going through.

 

It is Ok to be sad as this is an incredible loss. Just remember when you are really down that your parents would not want you to be miserable. They would want you to be happy and live your life to the fullest.

[Dwight Hottle]

Losing both your parents at the same time is devastating. My sincere condolences to you and your family.

[dave]

Same thing is crushing my wife right now.  Her mom died last Saturday, Dec 31st.  Her dad died this morning,  five days apart.  He had a massive stroke back in July.  He had been living with us since.  He could only hold a fork and eat.  She did everything else for him.  He couldn't even talk.   We think he had another stroke,  this one finished him.  He never woke from last nights sleep.

[Catch and Grease]

I feel for you brother, I am deeply sorry for your lost and coming from someone who lost a parent recently I know how hard this is for you.

 

I lost my mom in late October last year unexpectedly, she fell asleep in the bath tub and drowned... For the first month I felt like a zombie too. It hasn't gotten better but you start to learn to deal with it, I just remember the good times and keep myself busy. 

[N Florida Mike]

So sorry for your loss.My mom passed in Oct.Life has been surreal since she's gone.Prayers for you and your brother.

[wdp]

7 hours ago, dave said:

Same thing is crushing my wife right now.  Her mom died last Saturday, Dec 31st.  Her dad died this morning,  five days apart.  He had a massive stroke back in July.  He had been living with us since.  He could only hold a fork and eat.  She did everything else for him.  He couldn't even talk.   We think he had another stroke,  this one finished him.  He never woke from last nights sleep.

So sorry. Man that's gotta be tough. Thoughts & prayers to you & your wife. 

51 minutes ago, N Florida Mike said:

So sorry for your loss.My mom passed in Oct.Life has been surreal since she's gone.Prayers for you and your brother.

Prayers for you too NF Mike. 

1 hour ago, Catch and Grease said:

I feel for you brother, I am deeply sorry for your lost and coming from someone who lost a parent recently I know how hard this is for you.

 

I lost my mom in late October last year unexpectedly, she fell asleep in the bath tub and drowned... For the first month I felt like a zombie too. It hasn't gotten better but you start to learn to deal with it, I just remember the good times and keep myself busy. 

Prayers out for you also. 

[carsnrockmusic]

I've really come to enjoy this community because of the support and care I see in threads like this.

 

My wife lost her father in May of '16 and it's been hard on her daily ever since.  I was close with him as well and it's not easy.  I don't think there will ever be a single perfect word, phrase, or sentence that someone can say to another who is in mourning.  What I will say is that time seems to be the only thing that brings healing and some hint of solace.  Thoughts and prayers that in time, this will be the case for you buddy.  Sorry for your loss and continue to do as you're doing.  Get it off your chest and realize that some times will be harder than others.  Friends and family will be there during those harder times.

 

Jason.

[Sam]

Upsetting news, to say the least.

 

Sorry to read of your loss.

 

Time will heal the losses but it will be a difficult time for you until it does.

 

Hang in there knowing that your Bass Resource family is supporting you.

[Catch 22]

I will not tell my woes, but things seem to  get better with time. I`m still struggling with my loss.

 

Burtonxj . You might want to seek professional help to get through. Some times  just a few words or a phrase can make things easier.

  

[wdp]

My wife's uncle found this & posted it to all of us when my father-in-law passed last year. I don't think I've ever seen dealing with the loss of a loved one described so perfectly or more poignantly. Some may have already seen this. But hopefully it will help those dealing with this. Life does go on & it does get better.

 

This gentleman responded to a post on Reddit about someone losing a friend and the person didn't know what to do. 

 

"Alright, here goes. I'm old. What that means is that I've survived (so far) and a lot of people I've known and loved did not. I've lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can't imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here's my two cents.
I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see.
As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.
In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.
Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out.
Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you'll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too. If you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks."

[Columbia Craw]

I'm truly sorry for such a loss. Life is precious and relationships even more precious.  I lost my Dad over 20 years ago and miss him as much today as back then.  By the way, I don't believe your venting, you're reaching out and that's a good thing.  

[Last_Cast]

Sorry for your loss man..

Hope the best for you.

Be strong.!

[Oregon Native]

Sorry for your loss (lifting).  (And for the other losses above)  A very young man down the street lost his parents also on a road trip.  He was fortunate enough to have grand parents.  All the best to you.  We too are healing from loosing our daughter...but ....oh....not going to say anymore.  May you find comfort.

[Mike L]

My heart felt condolences to all of you who posted about losing someone you loved. I lost my Mom and Dad also not too long ago and know the mind numbing pain. 

 

Remember the good times and Love you shared with them...Trust me it will help get you through..

 

 

 

 

Mike