Is it a trap?

[WI_Angler1989]

I agree that you should take advantage somehow, however........

[bassinhole]

57 minutes ago, WI_Angler1989 said:

That's exactly what I had in mind when I made this post...

[deadadrift89]

Flowers and spend day with her otherwise you stepped right into it

[woody osborne]

57 minutes ago, stratoliner92 said:

Flowers and spend day with her otherwise you stepped right into it

SIMPLY PUT: what he said!

[Ratherbfishing]

I suggest you drug her and then drag her out onto the boat with you.  If she later complains, tell her "You got to sleep in, didn't you?"

(Note:  drugging anyone is against the law and I do NOT endorse or condone such behavior.  This is intended for entertainment purposes only).

[mrmacwvu1]

Do something nice like make her dinner the night before and then take her up on her offer. Marriage is the greatest long con of alltime.

[WPCfishing]

I think you should skip fishing and sleep in with her..

[Jaderose]

Is it a trap?  Of COURSE it's a trap!!  SHE may not even realize it but it is.  Valentines weekend is also my birthday.  Do you think I get to play THAT card?  NOPE!  With that said, this is a very good opportunity to teach her something.  My wife has learned that I don't play with traps.  We're both old enough that mind games no longer work.  If she says she doesn't mind if I go fishing.....I go fishing and I d**n well won't listen to complaints about it later.  The flip side of that is that if she doesn't want me to...I generally don't.  One of the nice things about getting older in marriage is that the games stop.  We tell each other what we mean.

[Evan K]

52 minutes ago, Jaderose said:

Is it a trap?  Of COURSE it's a trap!!  SHE may not even realize it but it is.  Valentines weekend is also my birthday.  Do you think I get to play THAT card?  NOPE!  With that said, this is a very good opportunity to teach her something.  My wife has learned that I don't play with traps.  We're both old enough that mind games no longer work.  If she says she doesn't mind if I go fishing.....I go fishing and I d**n well won't listen to complaints about it later.  The flip side of that is that if she doesn't want me to...I generally don't.  One of the nice things about getting older in marriage is that the games stop.  We tell each other what we mean.

This for sure.

My wife and I agreed when we got married to be as honest as possible. If she says go, I go. And if she's at all reluctant about me going, I stay.

[Hog Basser]

If you do go, make sure you do something extra nice and it has to be in advance of leaving.  Tell her it is a thank you for letting you go fishing.  Then she will feel guilty if she asks you to stay since you were so excited that you did something special for her just for the offer.  Also probably want to invite her along, she will likely refuse since she wants to sleep in, but at least you put it out there that you want to be with her too.  I offer to take my wife hunting and fishing all the time, she rarely takes me up on it (and she does enjoy doing it), but I'm not leaving her out either.  My life is much better because of these practices.  

[Last_Cast]

Just do it..

Run.

[tiredbobmarley]

I was invited on a fishing trip this weekend....ran it by my girl and she was like "do whatever makes you happy".....to which I immediately made dinner arrangements. 

 

[Choporoz]

'Fortunately', temp will top out at 27 on Sun.  Temptation averted. 

[Skunked again]

I was told in the beginning, no cards - no flowers. I've obeyed. 

When I'm told to "go fishing", I obey!

 It means much more that you help around the house, and don't go out drinking, help with the kids. 

17.5 years of marriage, still feel like a newlywed!

[RCCA]

It's most definitely a trap. It usually is. Get her something... anything. A card, some candy, at least one flower lol. Then ask her to go fishing with you. Whatever her reply is, it's her decision so you're good to go fishin'. Trust me, it works and it's not too much to ask to fish with your favorite chic now and again, especially if she likes to take pictures of the fish you're fighting in mid air

[reb67]

I don't think it is a trap I think it is a test. She is seeing how well  her man knows his woman. I have been married for 28 years I can tell you 9 out of 10 times you will fail. Start working on the art of making  up. So go fishing. Because  like ward131 said she shouldn'the say stupid things.

[JustinU1X]

Well, let us no how it goes! May the odds be ever in your favor!

[N Florida Mike]

Maybe not intentionally but it is .I wanted to go today but just knew it would cause issues so Im staying home like a good boy.But I fished for a little while out back and got a 4 pounder!So I reckon I was rewarded for good behavior.

[the reel ess]

With my ex it would be a dare. With my wife, it would be and is sincere. I agree with sending flowers to work on Friday. In fact, I usually do this and it seems to surprise her every time. Alas, we are in a major cold snap right now. I'll just add up the brownie points for a while.

[bassinhole]

This has been a fun thread, thank you all for the advice. When I initially posted this it was more to see how everyone else would react to the conversation and get a gauge for how lucky a man I really am. My lady honestly has no interest in Valentines day and would not play games with me regarding fishing. She knows the result of that. After all she is the same woman that did this

 for me for Christmas.

But I digress. The weekend went pretty spectacularly. I treated her to a nice dinner Friday night.  I went fishing on Saturday and through a calamity of errors all of my own creation I had one of the worse days on the water I've experienced in recent history.

Leaving the lake I got home just in time to join her to a backyard chicken class she was interested in. We then met up with another couple we know for dinner and spent the rest of the evening enjoying the company of friends.

On Sunday we slept in then made breakfast and hung out with our friends for a bit longer before heading home. On the way back to the house we stopped by Academy Sports and shopped around a bit (Nice place! I wish I had one Close to home). Then we drove through a couple of WMAs scouting potential hunting areas and generally just enjoying nature and each others company. Once home we cleaned up and then went to grab a bite to eat at one of our local favorites, and then to see Deadpool. 

 

All in all it was a great weekend. While I didn't go fishing on Sunday that was my decision. While my action was greatly appreciated I know had I gone fishing I would have met no ire over the choice. 

[Jaderose]

I went to BPS and spent $300...on Valentines Day.....by myself.  Life is good.

 

 

WITH the wife's blessing!

[Knightiac]

I too, was left with this decision, so naturally I went fishing. Went out and caught a couple hogs, went home, cleaned up and went out to our dinner reservations. It was a fantastic day.