I've hit rock bottom...

[everythingthatswims]

Fish and friends are good breakup medicine

[Last_Cast]

On 1/2/2016 at 2:03 AM, Bluebasser86 said:

C&G, I was about your age when my GF of 5.5 years left me out of the blue. I was on a 9 day fishing trip at a buddies place on Lake Minnetonka when she called me on day 2 and told me something was wrong but wouldn't tell me what. I packed it in and drove 9 hours home for her to tell me it was over. The next few weeks were spent trying to drink away my pain, but all it did was replace one hurt with another. I didn't fish hardly at all or spend any time with my friends.

After about a month I let a buddy talk me into going to a country bar to catch up a little. As soon as we walked in I saw the prettiest girl I'd ever seen. It's been over 7 years since that night and I still thank my ex for what she did because I would have never met my wife if she hadn't. 

Funny how things work out..when you least expect it!

[Last_Cast]

We all go through break ups, we all felt your pain at one time or another.

Best thing to do is what you love, yes you will think about her, but eventually it'll fade away and you'll be kicking yourself in the ass for letting someone get to you and making you feel like this..Life goes on and so will you. 

As far as money, it's just money, as of now you're still young, enjoy yourself. You will have plenty of time to worry about that later, and when that time comes you'll figure it out.

 

So go fishing, lay off the alcohol for now, and go have fun.

[atcoha]

Put your mind into something constructive. Something that will better you and your life. A skill, a trade, something. Don't waste the time in self pity. Getting over someone can be the hardest thing you do...or seem so at the time. Let it be your strength to push on, and come out ahead of the game.  Good luck.

[slonezp]

 

[bigbill]

How's that song go "if you go fishing I'm leaving ya, I'm sure gonna miss her  I got another bite?.

better to find out early than in fourty years.

[bigbill]

On January 3, 2016 at 6:04 PM, HoosierHawgs said:

 

 

This is me during that first cup of high test coffee.

[bigbill]

In '84, in '85, in '86 I worked only three months per year. I never gave up I grew stronger that there was a better long lasting job out there for me.

you guys who lost your gals should move on and start looking. There's a better woman out there for you. Go get her.

[HoosierHawgs]

13 minutes ago, bigbill said:

How's that song go "if you go fishing I'm leaving ya, I'm sure gonna miss her  I got another bite?.

better to find out early than in fourty years.

Yep. That's Brad Paisley.

[Bluebasser86]

7 hours ago, slonezp said:

 

Love me some Hank III

[mrmacwvu1]

Hate to be that guy but man up.

I have lost my Dad and held my Mom's hand through the most brutal bought of cancer that I have ever seen.

I am about your age. I lost a wife, found the bottle, lost a girlfriend because the bottle, hid from dad's death with the bottle.

Last year when mom got cancer I wrote on this forum about it and told everyone that I was done drinking and smoking.

Lord knows that I have had some bumps along the way. But to this day now I am a better man because of it.

I still drink from time to time. But guess what My Mom would not be alive if I would have not got off of the booze for a long time.

I was able to make sure that she got the best care that she could have possibly received because I was clear headed.

This is not a post to brag but to say thank you to all the people that supported me in my down times.

As crazy as it sounds this forum and the support that guys gave me, telling me they were rooting for me kept me sane,

I owe so much to people that I have never shook their hand but to me they are friends nonetheless.

If you ever need anything send me a private message and I will call you and help anyway I can.

Good luck and Godspeed

[K_Mac]

C&G as has already been said, coming here to howl at the moon is OK, but this is not the place for real counseling. I will add my thoughts. They are worth what you paid... 

Being a man is not an easy journey for most of us. Life happens and it is in the tough times when real growth occurs. Unfortunately most of don't recognize that until well after the fact. Years later we look back and realize that our character and strength is a result of our struggles along the way. 

A-Jay is right though you can't really understand it now, but life is short. I can say this with authority: Feeling sorry for yourself is destructive. Do what needs to be done to the best of your ability. When you fail, as you sometimes will, pick yourself up and move on. If you need help, get it. Good luck.

[Choporoz]

C&G, you seem like a pretty good guy and I wish you the best.  As they say, "that which doesn't kill you....."...but, you know, it is so right in this case.  In a few weeks or months or year, you're going to look back on this actually be thankful for the experience.  Learn from it...and look back on it when you need strength to face some other adversity...then tell yourself, "This is nothing compared to that bad patch in early 2016.".....  So long as you don't acquire a real negative attitude towards women in general, you're going to have a much better personal gauge of the women you meet in the future.  Love clouds our judgement....you're going to realize some day that she REALLY wasn't for you.  Go to the gym, go fishing, look for a different job....do something productive, but don't sit around and feel sorry for yourself

[J Francho]

Get help - depression sucks.  If this truly is your rock bottom, then be grateful.  It feels REEEEEAL bad, but it's not that bad.

[bigbill]

Depression? Rock bottom?  Then the only way is up, see your doctor, get help. Get a dog or cat.

you will be ok.

my misses battled cancer three times. I battled it once. My point is we all hit bumps in the road of life. We are here for each other.

[.ghoti.]

If she gives you any grief at work, tell her you bought a cat to replace her.

Whisper to her the next day that you strangled the cat.

 

[Catch and Grease]

A lot has changed since I posted this, I've gotten a lot happier and have got on with life... But im not on bad terms with her anymore and some stuff happened that made me realize how much I still care about her, not just from a romantic point of view, but as a friend and person.

[mrmacwvu1]

stay strong brother

[gardnerjigman]

33 minutes ago, Catch and Grease said:

A lot has changed since I posted this, I've gotten a lot happier and have got on with life... But im not on bad terms with her anymore and some stuff happened that made me realize how much I still care about her, not just from a romantic point of view, but as a friend and person.

Good to hear, just don't get wrapped up in head games or try to make it into something it's not. Keep aiming high buddy. 

[Catch and Grease]

Well, like the snap of a finger she hates me again. Oh well...

[Darren.]

13 minutes ago, Catch and Grease said:

Well, like the snap of a finger she hates me again. Oh well...

Strap on your boots and move on. 

[BassThumbAddict]

I know you know this C&G, whether it's fishing or life situations most of these old farts know their stuff. 

Take their advice as gold.

[gulfcaptain]

36 minutes ago, Catch and Grease said:

Well, like the snap of a finger she hates me again. Oh well...

You want to know why she hates you again, because you were happy and moving on.  She saw that you were moving on and letting go.....she didn't like that.  Go be happy, let her be and be who you are.  Don't respond if she wants to argue, walk away and let it be......go fishing, enjoy life, let her realize SHE LOST YOU by her actions.  My ex left me because of my job, shoot the ex-wife and 3 ex girlfrieds have all left me because of what I do for a living.  Their loss, not mine.  I'm who I am and I can't be anyone else.  Be who you are and be yourself.  Let her be mad and hate you, there's nothing you can do about it, she needs to grow up and realize she left, and you are still the same person you were, just not with her.  Now go fishing and post some pics of what you're catching like you used to.

[Catch and Grease]

She just told me ibgit her pregnant... I'm scared I don't know what to do

[Kevin Beachy]

10 minutes ago, Catch and Grease said:

She just told me ibgit her pregnant... I'm scared I don't know what to do

I not long ago did a research paper on exercise. In my research, i came across several places that said exercise will relieve stress. So, maybe you could try going to the gym for a while, maybe that would help. Btw, i exercise, and for me it relieves stress!