Super User roadwarrior Posted January 2, 2016 Super User Posted January 2, 2016 This chick would work: http://gawker.com/alice-walton-the-villain-1647234759 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mQPjKSVe1tQ 1 Quote
Super User Raul Posted January 2, 2016 Super User Posted January 2, 2016 On your feet soldier ! 7 Quote
Super User Raider Nation Fisher Posted January 2, 2016 Super User Posted January 2, 2016 1 hour ago, roadwarrior said: If I was looking to do it all over I would be searching for fat, ugly and rich! I married a spoiled rotten only child. Does that count? Quote
Super User DogBone_384 Posted January 2, 2016 Super User Posted January 2, 2016 19 hours ago, slonezp said: Ain't no woman in the world worth destroying your life over 19 hours ago, HoosierHawgs said: Just go fishing About sums it up. Nobody can make you miserable except you. Focus on stuff that makes you happy. 3 Quote
Super User A-Jay Posted January 2, 2016 Super User Posted January 2, 2016 This is not the place to seek Real Help - if you believe you need it - Seek the consult of a Medical Professional right away. If you're just blowing off a little smoke then I'll tell you that Personal relationships are one part of every mans life; sometimes there are more challenges than other times. What if you had all the mental ability and capacity to do anything & everything you wanted to do but physically you were completely crippled ? That would be really tough. Fortunately that's not the case here - the only one stopping you from doing whatever it is that you want to do it's that knucklehead that's looking back at you in the mirror. Might be time to move on to whatever the next chapter in your life is - btw - this is the only one you get. Might want to do something with it before it over. Happens pretty fast. A-Jay 8 Quote
Jtrout Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 You will make it brother i just broke up with my fiance after 9.5 years been with her since i was 18 . We have a house to sell, cars to take car of, 2 awesome german sheperds that she will get. I had to go back to my parents house and pay a mortgage that i dont even stay at now. I dont think it all has hit me yet and having a good family to support you is going to help make it easier. Stay busy doin things u enjoy and things will get better. 2 Quote
markinny Posted January 2, 2016 Posted January 2, 2016 get a good loyal dog. preferably a labrador retriever or your favorite.they will help you out a lot and attract girls to boot. hang in there and keep fishing. time heals. 2 Quote
Super User Catch and Grease Posted January 2, 2016 Author Super User Posted January 2, 2016 Lol you guys crack me up, I went fishing today, didnt catch anything but it was nice getting out... Thanks for the advice and stern words 6 Quote
Super User A-Jay Posted January 2, 2016 Super User Posted January 2, 2016 1 minute ago, Catch and Grease said: Lol you guys crack me up, I went fishing today, didnt catch anything but it was nice getting out... Thanks for the advice and stern words Good. Most of the time ~ Life is good. A-Jay Quote
Super User Jigfishn10 Posted January 3, 2016 Super User Posted January 3, 2016 Good to hear....Ahhhh, how's the hang over? Quote
Super User webertime Posted January 3, 2016 Super User Posted January 3, 2016 Focus on yourself for a bit. Key word in that is focus... focus on getting to know yourself and not what you think you are to others. Focus on getting yourself right (exercise, read, enjoy being by yourself, eat new foods, etc). When you don't have focus, you tend to get into situations where you make decisions that hurt you (or make decisions that get you into dumb situations)... and you get deeper into the hole. In having focus you will find value in who you are. Once you find how valuable you are your confidence goes up. More confidence (not arrogance) will make everything you do better seriously! From fishing to dating, interviewing for jobs to studying up on new things. From there finding happiness is infinity easier. Read up on "True self vs False self". If you ask anybody on this board who is happy, I would be willing to bet that they are all to some extent Focused, know themselves, and have confidence. I don't know you and by no means mean to diminish the pain you are feeling, but I will say this, it could (and often in life does) always be worse... That being said you have/will learn a lot from this. If you are feeling like hurting yourself, please talk to someone, there is no shame in feeling bad and wanting to feel better. 1 Quote
Super User whitwolf Posted January 3, 2016 Super User Posted January 3, 2016 Grease, like AJ expressed above the majority of the time life Is durn good. While you don't realize It now you are experiencing a great life lesson . This lesson Is sometimes life Is not fair. It's the way It Is and you now have a decision to make; you can either lay in the gutter and go through a certain period where you will do nothing but be miserable and make those around you miserable or you can walk through this with your head high, not give a d**n about what others may negatively say or do, do the right thing, and realize you have the ability to make YOU happy. While I won't speak for others I have an Idea that the majority of the folks on this board have gone through this and/or much worse. It's life and It's not always easy. I suggest you set some short term goals for yourself to keep you busy and moving forward. Also like others have said, stay off the booze. Lastly, while some replies might seem harsh there's some great advice here from others. The reason they can give this type of advice Is they have been In your shoes and through the years they, with a great amount of clarity, know exactly what you need to do to move forward In a positive manner. 1 Quote
Super User Fishing Rhino Posted January 3, 2016 Super User Posted January 3, 2016 15 hours ago, Raider Nation Fisher said: I married a spoiled rotten only child. Does that count? That's ambiguous, so I'll ask. More information is needed. Are you referring to the current, or the prior? Quote
Super User deaknh03 Posted January 3, 2016 Super User Posted January 3, 2016 19 hours ago, roadwarrior said: If I was looking to do it all over I would be searching for fat, ugly and rich! 2 out of 3 aint bad..just stinks shes broke. 6 Quote
Super User Raider Nation Fisher Posted January 3, 2016 Super User Posted January 3, 2016 6 hours ago, Fishing Rhino said: That's ambiguous, so I'll ask. More information is needed. Are you referring to the current, or the prior? Current. Only child, both parents are extremely high up and we'll respected in their current fields. She is fiercely loyal and loving. Loves to fish, hunt, and ride motorcycles. Loves tats and piercings too. Plus she is an amazing mother and step mother. Quote
Super User Raider Nation Fisher Posted January 3, 2016 Super User Posted January 3, 2016 Hey Catch and Grease, Listen to 99 problems by Jay Z. That will put you in a better mood. 2 Quote
Super User BassinLou Posted January 3, 2016 Super User Posted January 3, 2016 C&G, I have been following this thread for a bit, sorry to hear you are facing a few challenges. And yes, these are challenges. I understand you are going through a rough patch lately, and it sucks, no doubt about it. But how you choose to deal with these challenges are what will define you in the long life you have ahead of you. I understand your're heart broken. Trust me, its not going to be the last time. Friends moving and leaving, yeah this is going to happen a lot too. Expressing your sadness and disappointment is good for the soul to an extent. But it's time to move on, and learn from this experience. Drinking.... that 's an unhealthy outlet that will lead you down a dangerous path. I remember some time ago, you released a thread about work and what to do. Have you looked into the suggestions that were given to you? I remember you were an athlete in H.S. Wrestler I think... have you looked into coaching? Teaching and passing on to others what you have learned as an athlete, will reward you more than you can imagine. Trust me, you begin to coach or mentor youth you will forget your worries. Enough with the pity party, and get on with your life. You are so young, and have endless amounts of options available to you, although right now everything seems blurry. This fog will lift, and you will look back at this moment in your life and smile it off. Best of luck to you, and keep on keeping on. 2 Quote
BrownBear Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 On 1/2/2016 at 5:06 AM, Turkey sandwich said: Lots of us have been there. It's going to suck. Your motivation is going to be awful and you probably just want to drink until it stops being crappy. If you do, you're going to stay a mess because you aren't changing your situation. You can't control how you feel about a busted relationship, but you can control how you actually respond to it. Seriously, don't worry about a relationship because a relationship shouldn't define you. Set goals for yourself. Get an education and a legit career. Get in the gym instead of the bottle. If you depend on yourself to make yourself happy, you have control over your happiness. If you rely on other people's bullsh*t, you're going to have a lot of bullsh*t ahead of you. x2 I found myself in this situation, yeah it sucks, but it happens. After 4+ years of boozing and feeling sorry for myself, I finally decided to forgive myself, yes myself. You have to, otherwise your just going to continue to blame everything and everyone for the situations you find yourself in. After taking responsibility I decided that only one person can make it better, and that's yourself. I now workout 6 days a week and been studying for different certifications. Bottom line is, only you can make you happy, no matter where or what you do! Best of luck to you man. Motivation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mgmVOuLgFB0 1 Quote
Super User Catch and Grease Posted January 4, 2016 Author Super User Posted January 4, 2016 6 hours ago, BassinLou said: C&G, I have been following this thread for a bit, sorry to hear you are facing a few challenges. And yes, these are challenges. I understand you are going through a rough patch lately, and it sucks, no doubt about it. But how you choose to deal with these challenges are what will define you in the long life you have ahead of you. I understand your're heart broken. Trust me, its not going to be the last time. Friends moving and leaving, yeah this is going to happen a lot too. Expressing your sadness and disappointment is good for the soul to an extent. But it's time to move on, and learn from this experience. Drinking.... that 's an unhealthy outlet that will lead you down a dangerous path. I remember some time ago, you released a thread about work and what to do. Have you looked into the suggestions that were given to you? I remember you were an athlete in H.S. Wrestler I think... have you looked into coaching? Teaching and passing on to others what you have learned as an athlete, will reward you more than you can imagine. Trust me, you begin to coach or mentor youth you will forget your worries. Enough with the pity party, and get on with your life. You are so young, and have endless amounts of options available to you, although right now everything seems blurry. This fog will lift, and you will look back at this moment in your life and smile it off. Best of luck to you, and keep on keeping on. I like that job a lot now but y'all wanna hear the big problem ? The girl all this is over works with me... And Idk what I'm gonna do the next time we see each other at work, I can't avoid her because its a small fast food place, I'm gonna have to interact with her but she knows exactly what to say to me to tick me off. The managers have already told me to chill out and I no called no showed once because I was hungover and thankfully I'm a good enough worker they gave me a second chance... But I'm done with the pity party, I need to stop being a baby and get on with my life... Thanks guys... 4 Quote
Super User Raider Nation Fisher Posted January 4, 2016 Super User Posted January 4, 2016 52 minutes ago, Catch and Grease said: I like that job a lot now but y'all wanna hear the big problem ? The girl all this is over works with me... And Idk what I'm gonna do the next time we see each other at work, I can't avoid her because its a small fast food place, I'm gonna have to interact with her but she knows exactly what to say to me to tick me off. The managers have already told me to chill out and I no called no showed once because I was hungover and thankfully I'm a good enough worker they gave me a second chance... But I'm done with the pity party, I need to stop being a baby and get on with my life... Thanks guys... Ex broad at work huh? Just ignore her. Interact professionaly enough. DO NOT verbally fight with her. Take the high road and ignore her. If all else fails and you can't work with her. Then find a new place of employment. However, take heart in this little nugget of knowledge. All this will come back and bite her in the butt. It may not be tomorrow. It may not be a year from now. Rest assured though. It will definitely come back and bite her. And when it does. When it all crashes down on her you can stand back and laugh your butt off. 1 Quote
Super User Catch and Grease Posted January 4, 2016 Author Super User Posted January 4, 2016 That's the thing, I care about her so much and I know all the decisions she has been making lately are terrible ones, for example she has got three separate tattoos in the span of a few weeks and she is now back with her ex who is not good for her (basically its a toxic relationship and is unhealthy for her) and I just have to sit back and watch the girl I care about make all the wrong desicions while I can't do anything about it. But I guess you can't help someone if they can't help themselves, at a point you have to step back and realize that you just have to let them go because you tried and they didn't. I could honestly care less if she doesn't want to get back with me, I just want her to be happy. Its the fact that she is back with her P.O.S Ex that bothers me, like it could be anybody but him and I'd be fine with it... Quote
Super User F14A-B Posted January 4, 2016 Super User Posted January 4, 2016 Forget a future with her, or the next few years will likely be similar. Find a another job, she will keep you stirred up like a hornets nest. Don't worry about what you think is best for her, worry about you & a future.. either in police work, University or the Military....... 3 Quote
dcmclassic Posted January 4, 2016 Posted January 4, 2016 Idk how old you are but there are always options for the willing and capable. Get a dog, go fishing, take a few days off and get out of town to a lake, river, woods etc. You could always look for a different job. The military is probably one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life, I know there are plenty of others that will say the same thing about themselves. Heck if you have some money saved up grab a buddy and take a road trip. Don't let one chick dictate your life, that doesn't happen until after you get married 1 Quote
Global Moderator Bluebasser86 Posted January 4, 2016 Global Moderator Posted January 4, 2016 3 hours ago, Catch and Grease said: I like that job a lot now but y'all wanna hear the big problem ? The girl all this is over works with me... And Idk what I'm gonna do the next time we see each other at work, I can't avoid her because its a small fast food place, I'm gonna have to interact with her but she knows exactly what to say to me to tick me off. The managers have already told me to chill out and I no called no showed once because I was hungover and thankfully I'm a good enough worker they gave me a second chance... But I'm done with the pity party, I need to stop being a baby and get on with my life... Thanks guys... Just be glad you don't work with your ex where you both have guns and tasers, trust me. 4 Quote
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