Super User Catch and Grease Posted July 5, 2015 Super User Posted July 5, 2015 Idk I've been feeling out of it lately... I haven't went fishing in like 2 weeks even though I could have whenever I want and I feel stressed but I don't even know why if that makes sense. Part of it is my freaking boat, Idk for some reason I feel like an arse because I kinda hinted the idea I wanted a boat to my dad and he actually went out on a limb and worked his ass off and got me one but the engine is one problem after another... We haven't had it that long but it is getting frustrating, just because everyone is having to help fix it and honestly part of me wishes he never bought it and just saved his money and time... Not that I'm not grateful because the boat is freaking awesome. It's just I don't know if I deserve the boat and everyone's time, lol I don't even know why I'm venting on here but whatever! I've just been in a wake up waste the whole day playing games/watching TV then going back to sleep rinse and repeat routine when the real thing I should be doing is getting a d**n job or thinking about how im gonna do college... Quote
mrmacwvu1 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 watch some youtube videos and read some books on your engine take the time to fix it with your dad doing projects like that are the things you will miss when he is gone don't stress over it everyone has spells where they feel a little down 2 Quote
Chief 2 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 Hey It is time to pick yourself up and get out of the funk you are in and get moving. It sounds like you have a great dad and you need to make him proud of you. Show him you are the son you should be and get looking for a job and get interested in getting that boat fixed. People are stepping up to help you because they see something good in you. Don't let them down! 3 Quote
Super User A-Jay Posted July 5, 2015 Super User Posted July 5, 2015 It's time for some serious Self Assessment. The only thing holding you back from getting or having what you hope for Is You. Instead of complaining about what you don't have, appreciate what you do have & build on it. Whatever you're doing that is sapping your physical & mental energy - Eliminate it from you're life. The strongest people are not those who show strength in front of us but those who win battles we know nothing about. It's time for You To Get Your Mojo Back ! A-Jay 5 Quote
Super User K_Mac Posted July 5, 2015 Super User Posted July 5, 2015 I am with A-Jay. You have looked at your situation, attitude, and behavior, coming to the conclusion that you don't like it. Do something about it! Stop talking (whining) about it, get off your *** and get on with it. Your father understandings this principle and so do you. Now go get a job, some physical exercise and catch some fish! 3 Quote
Super User BassinLou Posted July 5, 2015 Super User Posted July 5, 2015 Your Dad loves you very much, and your happiness is very important to him. The boat is a testament to that. How can you repay this loving gesture? Use what ever skills you have at this stage in your life and work on making some $$, find a mechanic and get your motor fixed. If I remember correctly you are/ were a H.S. athlete. It's summer time right? This is prime time for summer camps. Look to see if any those camps are looking for coaches over the summer. Trust me, working with young kids will help you forget your issues. It's win win, you get to utilize your athletic skills and teach a young child something new. Trust me on this, having a pity party is not productive. Been there done that, and I lost time that I could have been more productive with. 2 Quote
Super User slonezp Posted July 5, 2015 Super User Posted July 5, 2015 I don't know how old you are but you look young in your avatar pic. If having motor issues is the worst thing that ever happens to you in your life then consider yourself lucky. Wait until you have grown-up problems. You need to get off your ass to get on your feet. 4 Quote
Super User F14A-B Posted July 5, 2015 Super User Posted July 5, 2015 17 year, right C&G ? At this age, and for a few years coming, you have to learn to be a man. Sometimes, you have to fight thru the smoke & heat to get to the fire. Have you ever considered the Military? You want to serve something greater than yourself? Service to your country is a fine option for a young man. 3 Quote
Super User Catch and Grease Posted July 5, 2015 Author Super User Posted July 5, 2015 I'm 18, I plan on being a police officer, its what I have wanted to do my entire life. Seeing all the stuff on the news about police these days make me want to do it more than ever.... 1 Quote
Super User Oregon Native Posted July 5, 2015 Super User Posted July 5, 2015 You are young (probably not what you wanted to hear) But some good advice above.....buck up. You have a lot to be thankful for. 2 Quote
Abuss55 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 Every single person who has posted on this thread has gone through very similar times, I would venture to say everyone out there has in one fashion or another. If it helps I am 25 and not that long ago (7 years) was going through something very similar. You will make it through this, but they are right, in the end it is up to you. All the advice in the world can't change anything for you. Many people have their own opinions on what you should do and how you should do it; but you have to be the one to figure out, no different than bass fishing, what works best for you. I would reccomend to start talking to your friends and family, looking for any job you can get in the area, looking for a better job while having a not so great job is much better than looking for a job while not having one. As far as college goes I just finished my BS in Psych, there are many programs, grants, and scholarships out there all at your fingertips. Get on your computer and start researching them. You may be surprised how many there are and how many you have to opportunity to take advantage of. You may even have the opportunity to play a sport at a college, there are all different levels from D1 all the way to MIAA and D3. I wish you the best of luck, no one ever said it would be easy, and we should be happy that it is not for that would just be boring. Oh and another reccomendtion, after I was done playing college football and tried to go pararescue until I tore my ACL for a second time during SEARS I always was playing for a team, or working with a team, get active, work out, it will reinforce that activity level in your day to day activities and it will make you feel better overall. Where if you get in the slump of not doing those things, the bad feelings and mood tend to get worse. Quote
Super User flyfisher Posted July 5, 2015 Super User Posted July 5, 2015 I'm 18, I plan on being a police officer, its what I have wanted to do my entire life. Seeing all the stuff on the news about police these days make me want to do it more than ever.... If you want to be a police officer, then why aren't you making plans to make that happen? You can go to school and get a criminal justice degree which I am sure will help you in the applicant pool. Anything you want you gotta go get, it isn't going to come to you. Your happiness and self worth is in nobody's hans but your own and being the age that you are, you still have an opportunity to make a lot of positive choices that will make life easier as you go. As you get older and have more responsibilities the choices aren't as easy to make or do. Quote
Super User FishTank Posted July 5, 2015 Super User Posted July 5, 2015 Put down the video games and show your dad the you can be a man by taking some responsibility off his shoulders around the house. I am not trying to be mean but this will make you both feel better and I am sure he would appreciate it. Quote
Super User Catch and Grease Posted July 5, 2015 Author Super User Posted July 5, 2015 Put down the video games and show your dad the you can be a man by taking some responsibility off his shoulders around the house. I am not trying to be mean but this will make you both feel better and I am sure he would appreciate it. Trust me I do my share of work around the house\yard. Quote
Super User Senko lover Posted July 6, 2015 Super User Posted July 6, 2015 I would highly recommend looking for a part-time job. I personally hate the feeling of just sitting around, and was thrilled to death to get a job this spring. Unfortunately it cuts down on fishing time, but getting a job has helped me in so many ways. I'm earning money for future college expenses, learning a ton about responsibility and maturity, and have more freedom to feed the bait monkey. It's sometimes hard to get out of bed and face another hot day of weedwhacking, but getting that check at the end of the week is worth it all. Quote
EvanT123 Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 The boat is yours now. You can do with it as you please fix it, flip it, or let the grass grow around it. Just because you have a boat doesn't mean you can't fish the bank get back to the basics. I beat the bank 2x as much as I take the boat out. It can be a production sometimes. I think you may have rushed the purchase of said boat and now your feeling guilty. You have to get over it and push forward. I wish buying a crappy boat was the worst one I made at 17... 1 Quote
Super User Catch and Grease Posted July 6, 2015 Author Super User Posted July 6, 2015 It's far from a crappy boat but it may have been a little rushed... Quote
atcoha Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 I think most of us guys have been in that "slump" you describe at least one time in our lives...at least us "older than 40" guys. Do yourself a favor, get started on your life plans NOW. Do not wait, get in the habit of NOT procrastinating. Keep moving forward, keep your dreams reality. Like the others said...buck up. I say that as motivation, not negative. Sounds like you have a pretty good Dad. Don't be scared to talk to him, and most important...LISTEN. Good luck. 1 Quote
CeeJay Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 Hi C&G if that down mood persists or gets worse there is no shame in seeing your doctor. Depression is a very real illness and often starts at your age, being triggered by life changes, etc. Of course, I'm not saying you have clinical depression or anything like that. But definitely keep an eye on it and seek help if it gets worse. Best of luck to you. You'll be ok Quote
I.rar Posted July 11, 2015 Posted July 11, 2015 The strongest people are not those who show strength in front of us but those who win battles we know nothing about. A-Jay Nice, I like that. 1 Quote
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