Help A Shy Guy Out

[EvanT123]

Here's a different approach. Make friends with another attractive lady in the class. Nothing will pique a woman's interest more than a man that is seen with other women.

[slonezp]

Here's what worked for me....

 

I asked if she wanted to go for a ride on my Harley then I licked my eyebrows.

 

Next month is 10 years with the Mrs. #win 

19 years with mine and she's the one who can lick her eyebrows

 

OP, I just think you need to get out there and play the field. The law of averages says there's someone out there for you, be it this girl or another. You need to make an effort and if you get shot down, there will be someone else. I will say this, If you put women on a pedestal, you will lose. Either you will disappoint her or she will disappoint you. The more women you talk to, the easier it gets. The more times you get shot down, the easier it gets. If you don't play the game, you will never come out a winner. 

[QUAKEnSHAKE]

Where I use to work there was a very attractive 21y/o Asian lady and no way no how could I ask her out face to face. I asked the other guys about her and they told me to not even bother. Well I wrote her a note asking her if she would like to go shopping with me to find a Christmas present for my mother. I put the note on her desk and went to lunch.   Got back from lunch and the note was on my desk. Im thinking that was quick reply so figured it was a no. To my astonishment she said yes would like to go and to call her after work to set time and gave me her number

 

I made the mistake of picking a mall(Woodfield) that was about an hour away thinking she might like to shop as well. We only said about 7 words to each other the whole way there and that was when I first picked her up. Hi how you doing-Fine-Thats good. Once in the mall I asked if there any stores she wanted to go to? No Im good is all I got from her.  So I got the Holiday Barbie that my mother collected for years and we left came back home and again not a word was said until I dropped her off. She says call me you get home so I know you home safely? Im thinking man we just spent nearly 2hrs together without a word being said now she wants me to call her again. Well I called her let her know Im fine and she asks me why we didnt go eat any place. I said- I asked you to go shopping not out to eat so I didnt want to make you do something we didnt plan. Sooo I asked her if she would like to go out to eat tomorrow and she said yes...  Been together now for 22 years all stemming from that little note.

[deaknh03]

Get a hooker..saves money in the long run and keeps you single and able to do all the things you like to do that a girlfriend wouldnt. Your welcome.

[ThatZX14Fella]

You find yourself basically socially awkward because your shy. I'm even worse. I can't get a job because I'm worried about not being accepted, I don't really talk around people that often, I refuse to get my GED or go to college because I don't want to look dumb, etc. Pro tip for the shy guys, find the girl you like on FB and engage in conversation over the internet. It is a lot less frightening and it gives you more time to figure out what to say.

[BassThumbAddict]

I have a roommate right now who is kind of falls under the category you are in. We go to the University of Oklahoma so we do go out and drink a lot. He completely owns the whole awkward guy thing. He comes off awkward and shy to girls and they love it.

He has one line that I've seen work on so many women it's riduculous.

"Does your left eye hurt?"

"Cause you been looking right all night"

Next thing you know he's bringing in a girl that looks like a dang model.

Just give it a try buddy. Own it

[Incognito]

Update: Can't tell if today was good or bad.  Went to class, saw her, said nothing.  I left class and I looked back and saw her leaving class.  At this point I was making my way down the next hallway.  I stopped and thought to myself, if you don't say anything now, you never will.  So, I asked her if the professor mentioned anything about tests and quizzes.  She responded.   I then introduced myself and we talked maybe 30 seconds about the class.  Unfortunately my next class was in five minutes so I couldn't keep talking... We ended up at what appeared to be her locker and then it was just over.  Neither of us said bye, in fact, I kept walking (rookie mistake, right?)...  Overall, I know I probably came off as a weird guy because I was really nervous.  So, should I  talk to her when I see her, or let her come to me the next time? 

[Choporoz]

depends....how many years are you willing to wait?

[J Francho]

Good guys finish last, but what's left at the end is usually quality.

[iabass8]

Grow a set. Man up. It is literally that easy. 

 

Or this..

Get a hooker..saves money in the long run and keeps you single and able to do all the things you like to do that a girlfriend wouldnt. Your welcome.

You're*

 

Hillbilly.

 

[deaknh03]

Grow a set. Man up. It is literally that easy. 

 

Or this..

You're*

 

Hillbilly.

 

Thanks..I hate grammatical mistakes, I must have been fixated on the hooker thing.

[iabass8]

Understandable

[FSUMF333]

Ha funny stuff.

[kickerfish1]

Bump... for another Tuesday update possibly...

[Incognito]

Bump... for another Tuesday update possibly...

Seeing that you wanted an update, I'll provide you one.  Today was rather terrible.  Had class, didn't work up the courage to talk to her.  I saw her after my last class, and she  glanced at me.  But I made the stupid choice to sit a table with one chair.  

 

Last Thursday was good though, I think.  I didn't talk to her until after my last class.  I saw her sitting alone listening to music asked if I could sit and she smiled and said yes.  She took out her earphones and acted like she was reading, I did as well.  Obviously we weren't reading because we were looking around at passing by people.  We talked about class and then I complemented her shoes.  Her eyes lit up and she talked  briefly about them.  This only lasted about five minutes because I had to go and pick my brother up.  

[kickerfish1]

Nice update! Sounds like things are progressing slowly but in a good way. The fact that you have had several brief conversations with her is encouraging. The next step would be engaging in longer conversations. I know you mentioned various obstacles: picking up your brother, next class starting, classmates in the way, and students physically in the way creating barriers.

If you can, see if you can meet her at the library or student center some time to study or prepare for a test or assignment in the class you have together. This will allow you more one on one time without as many distractions and ultimately more time. Keep the conversations at first to school and the task at hand. If she seems to be smiling or enjoying going over the study material possibly bring up something like... how did your weekend go? Did you catch the _____ game? Enjoying the fall weather, etc... she how she responds and what she might be interested in outside of your study matter for that class.

You can play it slow and continue with more study sessions or ultimately go for it and ask her out to do something that she may have hinted that she likes. Say watching a certain football team, going to certain style of concert, a certain type of food, or whatever it may be. Also don't rule out the idea of a group setting. Something where there would be a handful of people in a casual environment. Something like hey my buddy is having some friends over for the game. If you would like to come over and watch it with all of us you are more than welcome to. At this point if she says yes it will give you an excuse to ask her for her number and give her yours. You can tell her you will call or text her with the address and details etc...

I am not trying to be mean but if you really like her and don't move in a logical progression you will either be placed in the friend zone permanently or be too late to the party and someone else will have beat you to it. Most guys including myself have had this happen at one point or another.

Remember that should you happen to fail or find she isn't interested there are plenty more. Also it will help you as a learning tool for the next time you have to approach someone and try to progress things. I am rooting for you as is many others on here. Good luck with everything!

[Catch and Grease]

ooooo this is getting good! This is better than those lifetime movies!

[slonezp]

You need to take the kill shot before another young buck sweeps her off her feet

[buzzed bait]

dude, it really sounds to me like you need to allocate a little more time to these attempts....  just saying that you can't keep cutting these chances short because of next class, little brother, etc. 

but you really need to accelerate the moves or you're going to be watching some other dude pick this girl up from your classes soon enough....

confidence is one of the biggest turn ons more so than looks, wit, appearance, etc.  you need to gain some confidence and just go for it man.  i'd rather die knowing that i tried _____ rather than die wondering what if ______

good luck.

[SPEEDBEAD.]

ooooo this is getting good! This is better than those lifetime movies!

 

 

You watch Lifetime movies? 

[Catch and Grease]

You watch Lifetime movies?

Umm uh, ..., No! Lifetimes movies suck!

[Incognito]

UPDATE: Today was good.  Had class, but didn't say anything before or after to her.  After my last class, I notice she's walking right behind me. I turn around and ask how she's doing and and about this essay we had to write for class.  The whole thing lasted like 20 seconds because she ended up sitting down by her friend.  I then sat about ten feet away at an empty table in hopes of her sitting down.  When I sat down, she looked over and smiled.  Then her friend must of said something about me because they both looked over.  After about ten minutes, she walks over to me and gives me her number and says something like "Here's my number in case I have any questions about homework.  Text me."       

[flyfisher]

winning!!!!

[kickerfish1]

Outstanding! Seems at least to me that she at least has some level of interest in you. Thanks for the update...

[Catch and Grease]

Hmmm, Teach me.